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Apr 09, 03
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Internet Lovin'
I know this is the technological era - and the internet is an acceptable way of meeting people, but does anyone else find it a little scarey?
i think the oddest part is moving it from the internet and into real life, and trying to make physical connections. I mean its one thing to meet someone as a friend ( I have met many of you) but i think its entirely another looking for love - I bring this up cause my own internet flirting nature - I think its fun, just like I think flirting in a bar is fun ~ but can it really go to the 'next' level - does anyone have some positive internet loving experiences other then friends.... please help me pass the time at work and reply with your internet love thoughts. Jingles 
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Apr 09, 03
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i don't think looking intentionaly for love off the web is allright, but i don't think there's anything wrong with meeting people and building a relationship from that tho
i don't know bout straight up flirting with strangers over icq/msn..kinda corny and weird imo i've met some people (friends of friends or whatever) off fnk, lx, ed, xtcity, irc...some i can't stand and wish i've never met and some i love it's rare/hard to build a friendship with just using the telephone, people are shy and it's easier to make plans and get to know someone over the computer either way, some problems i've found... other then when hanging out the only time i talk to some of my friends is over the net...that's not that big of a deal, but i like talking on the phone and i hate talking over irc/icq i think talking on the phone's a little more personal, and seperates real friends from 'friends' also if you're having a serious talk over the computer, which i hate, you can't really tell what they're saying because you have no tone to the emotion and you can't tell if they're really paying attention there's definitely the upsides to having the net...but i like hearing peoples voice and knowing someones taking the time to dial my number and to just talk or whatever.... make sense? :284:
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Apr 09, 03
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i thinkin lookin for love on the net is just plain hurting. I mean y wood u have 2 go on the net 2 find love???
now meeting friends on the net is totally cool. and if u begin 2 like that person maybe sumn mite happen. theres nuthin wrong with that. but if ur actually lookin for love no offence 2 ppl that do its kinda sad :/
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Apr 10, 03
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ive hooked up blindly with members of the opposite sex blindly over the phone, on the internet, through friends u name it ive given it a shot......i find that both on the phone and on the internet both have significant risks.....but the internet has advantages....i mean i have met people in person as well and then later progressed the relationship over the internet and those usually work out ok becuz if you weren't interested in that person when you met u wouldn't be talkin to them....but also....if u jus by chance start talkin to someone on a message board such as this..*hehe*and you have some things in common or u jus enjoy chattin u can always decide if youd like to go further with it and talk on msn or whatever....and thats where the beauty of webcams comes in......if a lil flirting is startin to go on....have em send over a pic and take it from there......so basically the internet lets you be as discreet as you would like if youre a lil shy *aww, so cute* or as straight forward as you dare.......i sprinkled most of my internet game when i was in high skool......it was actually pretty sweet for a kid who was pretty hesitant to come right out and be obvious about likin someone or whatever and im pretty good with my words so if i have a lil more time to think about em im that much better if im try8in to be smooth.....so i really fuckin love the internet for that.....but now that im a lil older i don't have a problem in person on the phone if i know you or not whatever i jus dont' care anymore so it doesn't even matter......... i think people should be a lil more open minded...if you need a lil help expressin yourself...hopefully u won't be infatuated with a fuckin stuck up bitch...she'll jus let you down easy......unless your wiz wit ur alphabet.... corrie Last edited by Cowboy; Apr 10, 03 at 12:21 AM.
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Apr 10, 03
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the whole looking for love on the net can result in trouble. i know i wasnt looking but i ran into ppl that were but didn't realt tell me straight up. it was kinda awkward when we first met cuz i had diferent intentions. they did seem kinda cool though but when i met them it just wasnt happening. that vibe or spark wasnt there and they got a little choked. so yah you can talk on the net but dont start making a love connection till you meet in person. I dont meen for looks ither its just somtimes you dont realy connect in person. But agreeing to be friends first with no expectations is a lot better plan. that way it doesnt get awkward like in my situation. But I dont realy like chat rooms because there is somthing about it where everyone seems to think that everyone that goes on there is a potential lay or somthing. but I think message boards are cool cuz you can kinda see a persons mind outwardly not just both of you talking to eachother than agree to go on msn perhaps. then when/ if you meet you can see if somthing will work. but i wouldnt recomend actually "looking" for it on the net. but yah thats my oppinion. good luck.
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Apr 10, 03
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Oh! and talk on the phone first make sure they arnt a 60 year old man! LOL :hehe:
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Apr 10, 03
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^i understand what you were trying to say about the whole agreeing to be friends afterwards but that honestly does not work...99 percent of the time when a guy and a girl are conversing consistently its becuz both of them or one of the two has romantic feelings for that person.......i mean u can have acquaintances...but unless you are either homosexual or have an abnormal estrogen level there is absolute no other reason for a male to have a relationship with a female if there is not the prospect of intimacy....so there really isn't the possiblility of having a "friendship" with that person if there wasn't some sort of chemistry...
and btw....calvin and hobbes is the shizbamnittle.....i have every single book of theirs that bill watterson published...im quite proud of the collection.....whenever i see a kid readin that shit iknow he's no ordinary child....calvin and hobbes is for the child elites..... corrie
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Apr 10, 03
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i think that internet luvin is sweet! i have met many people from online, friends and lovers, and i think that it is a great way to get to know someone. i have been deceived in the past, but i am always smart enough to never put myself into danger :)
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Apr 10, 03
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now don't start gettin on my case girls...in no way am i tryin to say that all a girl is to a guy is a piece of meat......cuz its quite possible that youre a dog....and therefore ure not even considered...........
k small joke....but seriously......im not trying to say that all guys think of girls PURELY in a sexual fashion....but what i am tryin to say is that you might want to take a look at some of youre guy friendships and figure out jus how good of a friend theyll be when they find out that they will NEVER get any of youre punanie..... corrie
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Apr 10, 03
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^I never said you were although I would like to hope that it doesnt apply to every situation I am awair of that silent attraction that ppl can aquire over time if not at first to somone that they are friends with. and its not only guys I have been guily of it as well.
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Apr 10, 03
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hey im not going to reply to somone that is supposed to be in bed!
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Apr 10, 03
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lol jk, I think I can figure it out pretty quick but I guess there are possibilities. hey shudup i'm just trying to help. fine dont call them just message them and say lets meet up in a dark alley on hastings alright see if i care! :moon:
Last edited by Kandyapple; Apr 10, 03 at 02:47 AM.
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Apr 10, 03
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See my gal pal has been meeting boys online - and then in real life it's not going thr ough the stages it should -ummm how do I explain this, she meets them, they talk online, they send pics then move to phone conversations and she feels like she gets to know them - but when they meet up in real life these guys all seem to be quick to get physical because they feel like they already did the courtshipp thing online - she feels like you have to physically interact and do things together before jumping one another
- I can see both sides. I mean have you guys seen that show on the womens channel where they follow two internet daters when they goout on their first dates? They all have great internet relationships, but things seem to progress very quickly becaues you aren't interacting with them really - you just hear their words, and you may thing there is chemistry there when there really isn't - So even though these people have been talking for weeks, when they meet it's like meeting a stranger - really. and some of the people don't pick up on that - they (like my girlies experience) presume its time for the sweet lovin' - but seriously, we all choose our best images to post on the web, we use carefully chosen words to post or chat I tihnk its a great beginner venue (though still very dangerous) to find people on the internet - as I said I have made numerous friends (especially through LX) - but I ithnk some things should just be left for real hand to hand combat - and i don't kow if i am a dinosaur, but I don't think you find real chemisrty until you see the person, their gestures, their inntonation and so on besides in my (admittley little experience) mens are quick to become dirty online. in chats..a little too dirty I mean seriously if a guy in a bar asked me to take naked pics of myself and let him take them home - he'd be smacked Jingles
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Apr 10, 03
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[quote]Originally posted by diva
[b]I guess I met Jim over the internet. I hadn't really thought of it that way. We talked online for a while before we actually hung out together. -- sure, but then you two had social time together - you knew one another in a social context first(beofer the love connection) - as i said, friends from the internet cool - but starting a relationship on the internet...that's where i see the problems because things may not progress appropriatley
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Apr 10, 03
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^ why yes - its quite apparent by my previous posts that that's exactly what i meant - I think that all relationships must follow an exact formula to be successful
please - read the other posts, read any of my posts - I am so not that person... - I am talking about the connection made by two people in person that isn't there on the internet - I am talking about how sometimes one party thinks courting is unrequired if you have 'internet dated', that you can jump straight into bed - and how because i believe that personal connections are made by seeing one another, seeing the interactions ...nevremind i am not going to keep on repeating myself
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Apr 11, 03
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i have done my share of filirting over the net... but to tell the truth, the crossover between oline life and real life still scares the fuck out of me.... this is a wierd, wierd time we're living in.
I've met some of the people in real life that I know through the net, and that was strange enough at first ... but I dont think, at least at this point, I'd be ready to make the crossover between online flirting, and real dating...
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Apr 18, 03
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whoa that was you.....fuck! that hand print was my face for two fuckin days......a constant reminder of the everlasting love we shared.... corrie
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