were you allowed to have intersexual sleepovers??

[vesperstina]

Originally posted by inkster
they've always been cool with things. they realized that if i was going to have sex, then i was going to have sex. if things were kept quiet, they didn't mind. in fact, mom even kept me supplied with safes for the first little while.

they used the harm reduction approach in other areas too. if they knew i was going to go to a party, they'd come pick me up whenever i called. they'd even boot for me if i asked. while booting for me isn't really harm reduction, it still gave them an oppurtunity to know what i was up to, and to give me advice about how not to flail and such.

(i find it odd that they were so open about things like that, but yet are incredibly conservative otherwise.)

*heart*

Our parents are so similar!

Except my Mum would NEVER boot for me.

[diva]

Nope.
I wouldn't have dared asked them, but i'm sure that If I had, they would have answered with a big fat NO. It goes against their beliefs and they wouldn't have wanted my younger brother and sister influenced in such a "negative" way.

[Aki]

i've never really asked my parents if my boyfriend can sleepover. i don't need to because he lives on his own so i sleep there half the time anyways. when we were first dating my parents didn't like the idea of me sleeping over but i didn't want to lie to them where i was going so i just told them when i was staying there. my mom would get a bit upset but both her and my dad are fine with it now. we've been together for a year now and they like him and trust him a lot.

[mojo]

Originally posted by bungoshlung:
i'm rarely allowd to sleep over at anyones place, period. it sucks ass. i've had ppl of both genders sleep over here, but i'm not allowed at anyone elses place :(

i asked to have my bf sleep over but my mom said he would have to sleep downstairs. now wuts the fun in that?

the fun is sneaking downstairs and waking him up with a bj....lucky bastard

[bungoshlung]

^ haha!
but i would have to be really careful tho cuz my parents would be suspicious already so they would be alert... plus, theyre light sleepers. boo that!

[bebu*funfun]

thats a boundary i haven't broken or touched yet.. i dont think im allowed to have the opposite sex sleep over..unless he's way too drunk to drive or something. im very good at sneaking boys into my house at night for a lil rendezvous though. both my parents and my sis are extremly heavy sleepers..so once the snore sound effect is on..... its sneaking boy in time.....so immature but whatever. this is why i love boys who have their own places. so much less hassle.

[baby_bluez]

im not really aloud to have guys sleep in my bed... couch is fine... but only if they're like... my actual boyfriend that i've been seeing for more than a couple weeks... theres been times where the boyfriend has slept in my bed... my mom wasn't impressed by my lack of respect for her rules... but she wasn't super peeved

[Kelster]

i don't think i've ever asked my parents if a guy could sleep over
i've had a lot of guys sleepover and my parents have never really said anything bout it
i don't even think they were aware of me having someone over most the time, which is weird cause their room is right on top of mine, or maybe they just didn't want to talk about it
same with us taking showers together

either way, what's fucked up is that my parents are so used to my bf sleeping over now that whenever they want to talk to me in the morning, they'll knock on my door walk in and say what they want and leave while we're lying naked on my bed
i don't really care, but it's kinda akward

[bungoshlung]

oi.. wish i had ur freedom

[c.tard]

Originally posted by bebu*funfun
thats a boundary i haven't broken or touched yet.. i dont think im allowed to have the opposite sex sleep over..unless he's way too drunk to drive or something. im very good at sneaking boys into my house at night for a lil rendezvous though. both my parents and my sis are extremly heavy sleepers..so once the snore sound effect is on..... its sneaking boy in time.....so immature but whatever. this is why i love boys who have their own places. so much less hassle.

haha i do the same bev. with my parents work schedules, it's not that hard to sneak a boy in. just be quiet and it's all good. i've done it a few times with john and they've never known. or if they did, they didn't say anything. but if they knew, they'd say something since there's no problem with boys over, but not aloud boys in my room!!
guys with their own place, and parents who just don't care are good.

[LoveKat]

i wasn't allowed to have *anyone* sleep over because my mother believed that i was going to have sex with *everyone*

but after i turned 17, some sleepovers were allowed, but only with girls who she believed that i would *never* be interested in

go mum!

[Mc*Phee]

It just seems to me that in most cases that "guys" parents are much more relaxed then "girls". In most cases, (well looking at my own groups of friends) It's more likely for the girls parents to have a problem with it over the guys. But i think in the end it realy depends on the parents-my parents are very old fashioned, so im not allowed...and if thre was a small chance that i might be...It would be basement couch bed all the way!!!-very far from my bed lol, Ive had guys sleep over..but only when my parents were away.

[Erin]

So heres the thing.
I moved out with my boyfriend at 17. However before we did that I was allowed to sleep over at his house (upstairs in the guest room 3 floors away) but he couldn't sleep at mine. We moved out for awhile then we moved back home. After that how could they tell me he couldn't sleep over?!? I lived with him for a year! I still couldn't sleep at his house in his room, but he could in mine. Now i'm with someone else and we have been together for a year. I can sleep at his house but NEVER in his room. But he can sleep in my room. In my case it isn't the guys parents...

[Lostcause]

My parents didn't care if I had sleep overs with Girls....as long as they were WHITE.

[Nurse_Rachet]

My parents wouldn't hear of it.

Hell, I wasn't even allowed to have girls sleep over (maybe they knew I liked them too?!?!)

Hehehe, hi lovechat!

[Lostcause]

hi

[Kelster]

hah

so this afternoon when i get home from work with my bf, we have a snack and chat with my parents
afterwards we came to my room, listen to some samantha fox and fuck and half way through my mom starts banging on the door calling me to answer the phone
i tell her to take a message and she refused too!
i quickly put clothes on and come out of my room, she's standing there giving me this look

i'm still confused

i think i should do that to my parents the next time i know they're humping