whats better? serious relationship or convenient fuck buddy?

[jawa]

Originally posted by mugsy
everyone likes to say that they can handle the no strings attatched to the sex thing, however somewhere in that type of relationship someone always gets hurt. feelings arise from the girl or the guy and not from the other side....... oouuufff. i hear it can hurt, and seeing many of my beautiful ladies go through it ("i wont get feelings for him really") i just cant imagine it being good.

i see your point, but i think that happens most of the time when people SAY there cool with the just fucking thing, but then get all crazy and psycho when the other person hooks up with someone else. But i think it depends on what kind of person you are.....and whether you honestly know how you feel about the person.
I have an awesome relationship with my "fuck buddy" we have a wicked understanding of what we are, and are really open with each other so why not? I would rather sleep with him than random people which i wouldnt do, and we are always safe and know about each others "other" people
I agree sex is better with a significant other and stuff, but i guess i'm picky about my men. Until i find someone that sweeps me off my feet.....i fuck the fuck buddy :c-tard:

[bob]

neither.
i have better times with my right hand and a computer screen than i do in either of those lifestyles.

fuck buddies and serious relationships always end up in the same shithole. because women (and sometimes men) are fucked up and can't leave drama at the front door.

[Iokua]

Drama has no place near my love. No woman no cry right? I'll take casual sex ANYday over a relationship. bleh. then you have to care about someone other than yourself....come on how fun would that be?

[bob]

^^if you only care about yourself, that's alot less wasted care on people who are just gonna fuck you over sooner or later. more care for you = more good times for you.

[ebbomega]

If you're not mature enough for a serious relationship, in my opinion, you are MOST DEFINATELY not mature enough for a no-strings relationship. Go with whatever works for you. Both have advantages and disadvantages. A serious relationship involves more commitment and caring on both parts but a no-strings can be an exceptionally sticky situation given a base lack of empathy on either part, because all it takes is really one person to take it more seriously than the other to throw a whole wrench in the entire proceedings.

I have yet to see a no-strings relationship work with some end that doesn't involve someone getting hurt be it either party involved or some third party even.

Frankly, I don't think people should really even be having sex until they're mature enough to be able to handle a strong relationship. Because without that ability you just introduce a lot of foreign concepts into your emotional pantheon that'll just throw your entire perception of what's actually happening between two people completely out of whack, and the way I see it drives you further away from actually having a good connection with "Mr. Right" when he comes along.

Sex may seem provocative enough that it's best left without emotion being attached, but if you ask me, sex without that emotion is more damaging to the soul.

/preach.

[crackdragon]

I have had both, and one that has turned more or less into #2 but with alot of drama as of late. So I would have to say #2 if you can do it without the drama but thats probably almost impossible. #1 while yuo are young is just a waste of time, but a good learning tool for later in life.

[Rhianna]

Originally posted by ebbomega
If you're not mature enough for a serious relationship, in my opinion, you are MOST DEFINATELY not mature enough for a no-strings relationship. Go with whatever works for you. Both have advantages and disadvantages. A serious relationship involves more commitment and caring on both parts but a no-strings can be an exceptionally sticky situation given a base lack of empathy on either part, because all it takes is really one person to take it more seriously than the other to throw a whole wrench in the entire proceedings.

I have yet to see a no-strings relationship work with some end that doesn't involve someone getting hurt be it either party involved or some third party even.

Frankly, I don't think people should really even be having sex until they're mature enough to be able to handle a strong relationship. Because without that ability you just introduce a lot of foreign concepts into your emotional pantheon that'll just throw your entire perception of what's actually happening between two people completely out of whack, and the way I see it drives you further away from actually having a good connection with "Mr. Right" when he comes along.

Sex may seem provocative enough that it's best left without emotion being attached, but if you ask me, sex without that emotion is more damaging to the soul.

/preach.

I couldn't agree w/ you more.

[mushmellow]

Originally posted by mugsy
everyone likes to say that they can handle the no strings attatched to the sex thing, however somewhere in that type of relationship someone always gets hurt. feelings arise from the girl or the guy and not from the other side....... oouuufff. i hear it can hurt, and seeing many of my beautiful ladies go through it ("i wont get feelings for him really") i just cant imagine it being good.



i choose honest relationship.

i agree with that completely...im kinda in that situation and its really harsh....i dont know how to say lay the fuck off....and its so hard because i like the guy and all...just not THAT much.

as of now, i'd say fuck friend.....cuz im not into the relationship thing rite now....but either or....

Originally posted by Kraig
It honestly depends where the two people are at. I mean, there is no point is having a "relationship" if all you are looking for is sex. The reality of the situation is that you both are human (at least I hope so!), and IF you are both mature enough to handle a primariliy sexual/physical relationship and it has been communicated as such, then all the power to ya.

good way to put it!

[party_babe]

Ummm kinda been through both i definatley like the relationship thing better. Both have extreme ups and downs for me in a relationship the advantages are way better then those of a casual sex relationship. Having sex when it means nothing leaves most ppl feeling kind of empty! I guess insanely good sex with someone if your not into a relationship at the time is all good, Ive seen it work for some ppl i just dont think it could work for me rite now. ~Michelle~

[BabyStylez]

defenatly a relationship!! i dont want it to be serious,if you mean serious by no cheating lieing n such well of course but those are rules you should follow in life period.A relationship should be fun,your partener should be your bestfriend you tell n share every thing with,They should be there for you when ever you need them and visa versa.Key for a great relationship is you gotta be compatable for best friends but have amazing chemistry sexually n such so it alters the relationship that much more so you not best friends that fuck ahaha that never works!
nice little dr.phil rant eh! thought id share my feelings on the whole "serious relationship" theory, i like to call it an exclusive relationship.I guess im just not a serious person until i have to be! Im loving my relationship im in right now cuz dats what its allll about baby.CHEMISTRY IS KEY!!!!

as for fuck buddies..
fuck those fuck buddies they aint nothing but a buncha fuck buddies
fucking buddies!!!
lol but i guess if you want meanless sex go for it but liek everyone else knows, sex with someone you love or are going to eventually love is sooooooooooooooooooo much better,you have it all.

fucking buddies!! BAH!

Kyla-

[Ggabe81]

Defidently a relation ship. Security, and the feeling that you have someone that is your and only yours. None of that Sex with her tonight, then her tommarrow, ohh what, she wants it again, okay you till twelve than you at two. Its too tyring for me. God. :toasted:

[Jingles]

What is better?

the relationship , that's not to say that casual sex can't be fun -- but i think having someone to call your own definatley outweighs a fuck friend

[candytabi]

Originally posted by sickliquidchic
A relationship should be fun,your partener should be your bestfriend you tell n share every thing with,They should be there for you when ever you need them and visa versa.Key for a great relationship is you gotta be compatable for best friends but have amazing chemistry sexually n such so it alters the relationship that much more so you not best friends that fuck ahaha that never works!
Kyla-

So right! I agree. But fuch buddies can be a nice fill in for the times between relationships................ :p

Tabi

[candytabi]

ooops... FUCK buddies............

[Dice_]

Originally posted by soma
I get bored quickly of relationships that require effortless and most the time a fuckbuddy is usually more conviniant than not. It's all about the thrill of the hunt! If I don't get to chase a girl, it cheapens the whole experience for me.

Bang on...

but FTF's are cool too

[zarlon]

neither