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Old Nov 16, 03
.: retired? :.
 
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now your opinions people

so i had a girl ask me to marry her..

she's an attractive girl..
nice body, face.. etc
she's an ex-model and has released an R&B album
featuring songs she's written
we're more like close friends though

downsides...

she is NOT a resident of canada although living here for 10+ years
she has an insane bf that she is only with him cuz she doesn't know how to break up with him (he'd probably shoot me)
and she... she... does live webcam work because she can't get a job that will pay high enough to keep her apartment downtown
(alone, not doind anything with anyone)

i'm being serious and i need your opinions, so don't ask me for her name or the link to her site or whatever

i know part of the reason she wants to marry is to get citizenship.. but as a couple.. our personalities match..we've known each other for about 2 years now...

what should i say?!?
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Old Nov 16, 03
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Join Date: Jul 2002
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It's clear that if you don't know for yourself, you shouldn't marry her.

Is she just in it for citizenship? Don't forget, if you get divorced, she can fuck you over.

You're young, don't go about fucking your shit up for someone else to bennifit. It's an expensive procedure to marry someone who is not a citizen, and a lot of paperwork for her to become one.
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Old Nov 16, 03
i wish...
 
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jomama is on a distinguished road
^^ what he says

if you dont know if you want to MARRY someone or not, then you obviously shouldn't be marryin em, those kinds of things are like special haha and when someone asks you if you wanna marry em you usually dont have to think about it...
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Old Nov 16, 03
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^^unless she has rich parents. But prolly not, web cam ghetto porno girls donut generally have rich parents.
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Old Nov 16, 03
i wish...
 
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jomama is on a distinguished road
^^ unless you wanted a ghetto web cam porno gurl for a wife...
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Old Nov 16, 03
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^^unless that was the best you could do
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Old Nov 16, 03
i wish...
 
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^^ unless...that was kinda... mean, haha
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Old Nov 16, 03
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this doesnt sound like a good idea at all....
im drunk and i still can see that!!
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Old Nov 16, 03
kalamena
 
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What she does for a living and how crazy her ex is has nothing to do with this whole thing, well maybe just a little bit. But point is, this is just "a girl" you've known for about 2 years. It's not your "girlfriend" of 2 years. And just out of the blue she asked you to marry her? And you know that part of the reason is for citizenship...don't let her use you for that. And if you guys really get married, how long do you think it's gonna last? There's no love, and that feeling you get when you see someone you really like. My look on this is, she should just prey on someone else to marry her.
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Old Nov 16, 03
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kodama-jay is an unknown quantity at this point
very true... everything said a valid point.. did i mention.. i'm getting paid??!?

i'm just going to throw that in there...

i'm not going to do it.. but i wanted to see what people had to say
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Old Nov 16, 03
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shes a money grubbing ho bag, turn her ass out on richards and get the immigrant putan to make u some mu fuckin skrill fo reaaaaaaaaaal!!!!!!!!:)
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Old Nov 16, 03
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1) don't do it.
2) if you do it, pre-nup. if you dont get a pre-nup you're just asking for trouble.
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Old Nov 16, 03
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yah what godessa said. sounds like bad news.
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Old Nov 17, 03
kalamena
 
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Ur gettin paid? Hmmm...well in that case... :toasted:

Hehe j/k. Glad ur not gonna do it.
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Old Nov 17, 03
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i almost got married last year to scam getting an immigrant citizenship
i would have got 20 grand
but then he decided he didnt want to come
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Old Nov 17, 03
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is it sexy lexy from camwhores?
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Old Nov 17, 03
Never trust a Brunette
 
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Can I plan your wedding???!!! lol I want to be a wedding planner!
-But seriously....obviosly u guys will get divorced i mean she basicaly admitted that shes just using u for citizenship! You are only 21! do u realy want to tell your next gf that you were married once?
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Old Nov 17, 03
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I think the idea of signing a pre-nup would definitely be advisable.

This seems like something that is more based on actual principle than emotion. The most important part is that you realize this before you get into this, because that could mean a big emotional mess. I don't think you're wrong for wanting to do this more to assist her in obtaining Canadian citizenship (which is a tedious enough process as it is..) In many situations these days, people are more getting married for everything else other than the whole notion of 'true love' and 'starting a family' , this is a legal contract, a financial union. This happens quite often, it's like you become a whole different kind of 'sponsor' by marrying someone so they can get citizenship.

But really, are you emotionally prepared to do this?

The only thing setting off a red flag for me is the insane boyfriend fiasco. Are you sure she's not just using you as more of a lifeboat?

And come on people, don't we all know someone who has done porn? I doubt that is as big of an issue in this whole thing as some are making it out to be :P

Honestly, I think that if you are even close to considering saying 'yes', you should probably get a lawyer and also discuss this with them.

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Old Nov 17, 03
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Originally posted by kodama-jay
so i had a girl ask me to marry her..

she's an attractive girl..
nice body, face.. etc
she's an ex-model and has released an R&B album
featuring songs she's written
we're more like close friends though

downsides...

she is NOT a resident of canada although living here for 10+ years
she has an insane bf that she is only with him cuz she doesn't know how to break up with him (he'd probably shoot me)
and she... she... does live webcam work because she can't get a job that will pay high enough to keep her apartment downtown
(alone, not doind anything with anyone)

i'm being serious and i need your opinions, so don't ask me for her name or the link to her site or whatever

i know part of the reason she wants to marry is to get citizenship.. but as a couple.. our personalities match..we've known each other for about 2 years now...

what should i say?!?
you should say no
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