Are your parents still together?

[Joanne]

Originally posted by *spacecase*
my parents had been dating since my mom was 16. they got married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 20.
they had my brothers and me....

after 27 years of marriage, they FINALLY split up.

this has affected my relationships a lot. simply becuase i KNOW the realities of relationships - they aren;t always sunshine and rainbows. they can be good, but they can also be reallly bad.

the hardest thing for me about relationships and the thoughts of marriage is that I don;t ever feel like i DESERVE love. (i don;t think this is cuz of my parents.)
i don;t really trust that anyone would love me... cuz every time someone "loves" me and i get comfortable with the thought of being together, they leave me.

so, i;'ve accepted that i will simply be a crazy old cat lady. i can't see myself ever getting married, not because i don;t want to... i just can;t see that anyone would love me enough to want to be with me for the rest of my life.
:soak:

love = yay
having someone fall out of love with you = boooo....

meow.

wow, you sound a lot like me. my parents have been together for 22 years. I think they should have been divorced a loong time ago. and honestly, the fact that they've stayed together this long has turned me into the insecure and untrusting person I am.

I hear all this crap about how parents stay in a loveless marriage for the sake of the children.

NEWSFLASH: I don't believe a child ever asks to be burdened with daily arguments, yelling, the screaming, and "why don't you go die" comments.

sometimes a divorce can do wonders for your sanity. :soak:

--Joanne :P

[craz_e_blossom]

My parents split up when I was 8...It was hell...But I got through it...It was better in the end that they did get a divorce...They argued way to much for my liking and I had to put up with yelling in the middle of the night and I would have to get up for school the next morning around 7:30...

[MissBehavior]

Originally posted by Jrock
My parents split up 4 years ago. They haven't officially devorced. It's been rough..

-jay :209:

*hug*

[D-Vine]

My parents were never married.. and they split up after I was born.

[Lunch Box]

Ummmm parents are divorced.. have been since i was about 6 mos old... i don't think thats what changes my perspective on relationships.... i think the fact that my father re married twice and has 5 kids does tho... does that make me a bad person... maybe i should do incredibly stupid drugs and go out all night to gain the attention of my father...

[Belms]

my parents have been together now for 25 years and some odd amount of months. Its good to see them still together after all the ups and downs a relationship with another person involves. It definatley affects my relationships and how i go about them. They've given me many good examples of how to work through all the good and bad times. I give them major props for being good models to me. :keebler:

[Mo...]

heck yah my parents are still together and there stuck in the 70's :smoke1: !!! w00t.. even tho they have never been married they have been together for about 23 years...

[neoh]

my parent's got divorced when I was 3.
my step father is the best man I know, my father was replaced. Hell, they have been married for 8 years I think now, and he still buys her flowers and writes her poetry.

I dont view relashionships different, no.

[DiZz_E]

ive never lived with my parents, i dont know my dad and my mom is kinda crazy. i still have lots of people to lean on though. i never wish i had them or anything like that, i guess it just doesnt matter to me.

[Goat]

know what gets to me?
people who pull this woe-as-me-bullshit concerning this sorta stuff.

ya it sucks...
but yada....yada.....yada....pudding?

blah.

[Joanne]

Originally posted by Goat
know what gets to me?
people who pull this woe-as-me-bullshit concerning this sorta stuff.

ya it sucks...
but yada....yada.....yada....pudding?

blah.

you mean you didn't see it coming from a mile away when you made this post? :P

--Joanne :P

[*Jessica*]

my parents split 3 or 4 years a go. my mom cheated on my dad then moved to the states and married the guy she cheated on my dad with
since then i havent really let a lot of people get close to me, friends and guys ive dated. i've found myself avoiding relationships thinking that guys will leave me once i get close to them just like my mom did.

[Miss T]

my parents split when i was about 15. they are both remarried now and happy, so i am glad that they were able to find love again. i live with my mom and my step-dad (who is awesome). the only thing that upsets me about them breaking up is the on-again/off-again, kind of half relationship i have with my dad. :(

it has taught me a lot about love and trust. :)

[Scarface]

Parents split and remarried before I was old enough to know what was going on.

How has it affected me? Who knows. I’m not a shrink. I got a lot of gifts for Christmas and birthdays though. I think people use divorce as a scapegoat for way too many things. Suck it up.