when the attraction is just physical...

MarcelM · #1 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

So I have been dating this girl for three weeks now... She is very good looking and also smart, but the more I see her, the more I realize the attraction is just physical. If we continue, I am worried about hurting her and hurting myself, too.
I have never been a good relationship person, I yet have to find the girl I can share activities with everyday and have fun with.
I am thinking about telling her it would be better if we stopped dating, but hopefully remain friends, I am just worried about her freaking out, cause she has a very difficult character.
Should I keep dating her though ??

thechix0r · #2 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

Definitely not, you're not feeling the vibe don't just drag her through this if you don't want it in the first place. These kinds of things are hard to explain to people, but just be honest and don't be offended if you guys don't come out friends, for the most part that's usually how things pan out. Don't forget to ask her how she's been feeing about it

Diamonite · #3 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

Not if you don't think it's going to work. If it's only physical and you don't see a future then end it sooner rather than later. No point in waiting until the relationship builds more and then ending it. Good luck!

MarcelM · #4 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

thanx for the advice... I know I will be regretting breaking up, especially the first weeks after, but if this continues it will get worse...
I am just a bad relationship person... but I am still young, not hopeless I guess :)

Gusto · #5 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

if she is hot wait until she breaks up with you for being distant and uncaring.

thechix0r · #6 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

No worries buddy, do what you think is best in the end

MarcelM · #7 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

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Originally Posted by Gusto

if she is hot wait until she breaks up with you for being distant and uncaring.

hmmmm I will figure something out.

miss.myra · #8 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

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Originally Posted by Gusto

if she is hot wait until she breaks up with you for being distant and uncaring.

haha totally, that's what most guys in their early twenties would do, when in doubt.

..unless she's crazy

Jen-E-03 · #9 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

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Originally Posted by Gusto

if she is hot wait until she breaks up with you for being distant and uncaring.

LOL I've tried to go that route many times, but it never actually worked. I've always had to do the breaking up.

cutienikki · #10 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

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Originally Posted by MarcelM

So I have been dating this girl for three weeks now... She is very good looking and also smart, but the more I see her, the more I realize the attraction is just physical. If we continue, I am worried about hurting her and hurting myself, too.
I have never been a good relationship person, I yet have to find the girl I can share activities with everyday and have fun with.
I am thinking about telling her it would be better if we stopped dating, but hopefully remain friends, I am just worried about her freaking out, cause she has a very difficult character.
Should I keep dating her though ??

I would say just be honest. At least she knows and if she freaks out no worries i mean its better than going out for a year and possibly saying the "L" word...that would be worse....but i mean just be honest with her and if she can't understand and respect your decision then its her own fault.

decypher · #11 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 06

Don't let it go any further because it'll be harder and harder to let go.

MarcelM · #12 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

I did it!!
I told her the truth and I didn´t expect it but she said she already figured it out and that it was good I told her before we got even more connected.

Single again and happy !!!
And thanx for the advice !

thechix0r · #13 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

Good you're feeling better, on to better things eh?

Liqwid · #14 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

smrt and hot......don't complain......

Pussy*Kat · #15 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

I couldnt deal with somone if they were just physically attracted to me. It would devistate me to find something like that out. But im a girl who expects more then is given sometimes lol

Heffy · #16 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

I would have tried to keep her on as a FTF. :p

MarcelM · #17 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 06

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Originally Posted by Liqwid

smrt and hot......don't complain......

yea but a very hard to deal with character and i just got crazy already after a short period of time.

Two_Six · #18 (**permalink**) Sep 25, 06

Good call, who want's to date a hot girl with a crazy character anyways right? Although I would of dated her, its not like you guys were in love or anything yet, but I guess in a way its best to do what you have done in that kind of situation.

Revolver · #19 (**permalink**) Sep 25, 06

lol,a wise man once said................

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gusto

if she is hot wait until she breaks up with you for being distant and uncaring.

but seriously, honesty is key...who knows, she might evan understand and dig the pysical only type relationship?

be honest.

mojo · #20 (**permalink**) Sep 25, 06

post pics of your scooter. is it a Vespa? classic style?

Flip · #21 (**permalink**) Sep 26, 06

You should have sujected her to a series of vile, degrating sexual acts, all caught on tape. This way you would either have her be disgusted with you and decide to break it off, or if she's down with it, you've got a promising career in the internet porn business. You could put the footage up on www.crazyslutswholiketobepoopedon.com

Or you could just give her my number and I'll do it for you.

MarcelM · #22 (**permalink**) Sep 26, 06

hahahhahaha
she is not a vespa, she is from Nanaimo and came to Italy for working as a nanny.... so I can´t post a pic of her, cause it actually ended with some pretty harsh words, and I don´t really want to think about it anymore, I already wasted lots of time ( well not all was wasted ;) and money...
But yea it´s over and it´s better like this, but I thought we could be friends, but that´s not the case......

mojo · #23 (**permalink**) Sep 26, 06

no man, i don't care about the women. i want to see your actual vespa. those things are sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet.

MarcelM · #24 (**permalink**) Sep 26, 06

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Originally Posted by mojo

no man, i don't care about the women. i want to see your actual vespa. those things are sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet.

What made you think I have a scooter or a vespa ??

Kraig · #25 (**permalink**) Sep 26, 06

If you actually care for this girl then you should be honest and up front with her... Especially before her feelings for you get even stronger.

No matter when you do it or how you say it, expect her to be upset or pissed off -- any person would if they were getting broken up with. Trust me when I say that honesty will be better for everyone in the long run.