how do you get girls to like you?

[Séguin]

Originally Posted by -evil-duerr-

make her a mixtape of power ballads.
give her some flowers you stole from your neibors garden...
or act all handsome and stuff.

thats the best answer lol

[rustybob]

Originally Posted by FireWire

^^ What are you gonna do about it man? If anything? Have you thought about it? :310:

That was supposed to be sarcastic. My bad, I guess I didn't do anything at all that would imply that. You gotta know me to get my sarcasm most of the time.

Although I'll admit, about 3 years ago that last post was entirely true.

[Heffy]

Its not about BEING anything. If she's going to like you there are several things that must be in place.

!) she must be at LEAST physically attracted to you enough that the thought of you naked doesnt make the bile rise to the back of her throat.

2) you must fit into a certain, possibly insanely high set of expectations that she consiously or even subconsiously has for a man that she would want to be with, or thinks she wants to be with, perhaps even the kind of man she thinks she wants to think she wants to be with.

3) you must seem somewhat, if even ever so slightly unavailable. If wrapping you around her little finger is as easy as tieing (sp) her shoe than you're in for a bumpy and ultimatly dissappointing ride.

As for the whole. Be a jerk thing. Its not about consiously being an asshole. I for one admit that I have the capability to be a gigantic prick. Just like EVERY girl has the ability to be a super-mega-ultra-bitch. Its not like some guy is sitting around and *poof* becomes an asshole. The truth ladies. Is that for the mostpart, a nice guy need to have his heart ripped out and stomped on good and proper. Only then will a nice (see:tool) guy be able to realize that its "ok" to look out for no.1 when appropriate. The assholes that you speak of however, take it too far, and completely disregard everyone's feelings but their own ALL the time.

From what I have observed it is kinda ironic how girls wnad the bad boy or "jerk" and then as they grow older they want the nice guy... when most guys start out as nice, and then get trampled by girls who don't think they're good enough, become jerks, and then all the late twenties/early thirties women are whining about how there are no "nice guys"

So what point am I trying to get to here?



I dont have a fucking clue.

[Play-it-hard]

Originally Posted by senseonetsb

You just need to be yourself, and have a good line of communication before you jump into to somthing. that creates unhealthy relationships, I think iI'm smart cause i was learning this today. once you have that you let the relationship grow from there learning to be compassionate towards each other. It's our generation that rushes into things then regrets it after you gotta let thing unfold first then you'll know if that persons for you.

Words of a wise man :power-p:
Now acctually apply that and maybe youll get somewhere.

And ev ^^ Being a jerk doesnt get you anywhere, dont be snobby, unless your just looking to fuck a girl and never speak to her again. Its not the "bad boys" we like, its the ones with self confidence, big difference

[G3N3R4L]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

Its not about BEING anything. If she's going to like you there are several things that must be in place.

!) she must be at LEAST physically attracted to you enough that the thought of you naked doesnt make the bile rise to the back of her throat.

2) you must fit into a certain, possibly insanely high set of expectations that she consiously or even subconsiously has for a man that she would want to be with, or thinks she wants to be with, perhaps even the kind of man she thinks she wants to think she wants to be with.

3) you must seem somewhat, if even ever so slightly unavailable. If wrapping you around her little finger is as easy as tieing (sp) her shoe than you're in for a bumpy and ultimatly dissappointing ride.

As for the whole. Be a jerk thing. Its not about consiously being an asshole. I for one admit that I have the capability to be a gigantic prick. Just like EVERY girl has the ability to be a super-mega-ultra-bitch. Its not like some guy is sitting around and *poof* becomes an asshole. The truth ladies. Is that for the mostpart, a nice guy need to have his heart ripped out and stomped on good and proper. Only then will a nice (see:tool) guy be able to realize that its "ok" to look out for no.1 when appropriate. The assholes that you speak of however, take it too far, and completely disregard everyone's feelings but their own ALL the time.

From what I have observed it is kinda ironic how girls wnad the bad boy or "jerk" and then as they grow older they want the nice guy... when most guys start out as nice, and then get trampled by girls who don't think they're good enough, become jerks, and then all the late twenties/early thirties women are whining about how there are no "nice guys"

So what point am I trying to get to here?



I dont have a fucking clue.

i would give you twelve karma if i could

[crookedking]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

I dont have a fucking clue.

this was the only part of your post that i actually read and i had to think to myself...why'd he bother writing that long ass post when this is all that really matters?

[Sarah...]

I hate it when guys play games...
Like when you know they are a nice person and they are acting abit like a jerk because you aren't attracted to them, or just dont want relationship.
That's not attractive, and is jus immature and toxic to a beautiful friensdhip.

[Sarah...]

There really is no complicated formula for "getting girls" jus be real, and then chemistry can truely be tested.
A front smells like shit...

[rawb]

AY YO I GOT A RESOLUTION
THIS YEAR I'M PLAYING RIGHT
NO SIX FIFTEEN THIS YEAR
YOU CAN STAY THE NIGHT
WE CAN GO BOWLING IT AIN'T LIKE BEFORE
CAN'T Y'ALL SEE THAT I'M GROWING?
I WAS SO IMMATURE
I WAS YOUNG AND HAVING MONEY
HAVING HONEYS COME TO THE CRIB
THINKIN' THEY SHIT AND THEY COULDN'T GET CAB MONEY FROM ME
SOME BAD CHICKS DIDN'T GET PASS THE BRIDGE
I WENT TO ONE TRUMP PLAZA ON THEIR ASSES'
NO ROOM SERVICE JUST SNACKS AND SHIT
WORK WITH THOSE LIL' DEBBIES AND WHEN YOUR DONE GET READY
THE CHICKS I WAS FIENDIN' TO SMASH
LET 'EM LEAN ON THE CASH
WILL TAKE 'EM ON LONG TRIPS
BREAK 'EM WITH LONG DICK
THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS STRONG RELATIONSHIPS
BUT I'M OFF THAT PLAYA SHIT
I NEED A CHICK THAT PRACTICE TAI CHI
THAT STILL CAN BUY WEED
AND CAN GIVE ME SOME GOOD HEAD
AND I'LL MAKE HER REMIND ME, UH-HUH

[ppcock]

no doubt rawb, it's been boring for a long time :P


anyways, thanks for all the replies... im going to start making animal porn vids.

[Heffy]

Originally Posted by Play-it-hard

... ev ^^ Being a jerk doesnt get you anywhere, dont be snobby, unless your just looking to fuck a girl and never speak to her again. Its not the "bad boys" we like, its the ones with self confidence, big difference

I never promoted being a jerk. Or being a nice guy for that matter. I was simply pointing out how nice guys become jerks and the irony inherent in a girl's search for a nice guy.

[ebbomega]

"GRAB YOUR ANKLES, BITCH. IT'S ASS-RIDING TIME."

Chicks dig romantic stuff like that.

[christoqher]

Originally Posted by Ashley*Dawn

Nice guys are a part of ppls imagination. All guys start out as nice guys, then they turn into the jerk.

thats because when they get what they want they dont need a bitch anymore
=Dl

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

Its not about BEING anything. If she's going to like you there are several things that must be in place.

!) she must be at LEAST physically attracted to you enough that the thought of you naked doesnt make the bile rise to the back of her throat.

Then how is it that 400lb+ greaseballs still manage to make with the at least semi-hot chick action? Go watch Tao of Steve to see what I mean.

2) you must fit into a certain, possibly insanely high set of expectations that she consiously or even subconsiously has for a man that she would want to be with, or thinks she wants to be with, perhaps even the kind of man she thinks she wants to think she wants to be with.

This is hypocritical. Like you don't have your own personal expectations and standards for what your significant others have (unless you're really desperate). I mean, come on. I have 3 billion people to choose from in my gender of preference, I'm not going to take the first random girl that shows an interest in me.

3) you must seem somewhat, if even ever so slightly unavailable. If wrapping you around her little finger is as easy as tieing (sp) her shoe than you're in for a bumpy and ultimatly dissappointing ride.

Again, you're being a hypocrite. You really wanna go after the girl who's hounding on you, calling you every day, hanging off your every word and laughing at ALL your jokes regardless of whether or not they're actually jokes? Please. Nobody likes someone who's acting desperate. It's exhausting and ultimately just makes you look needy.

Your complaints seem valid, but it's not like there's not two sides to this coin. Courting and dating and relationships are one of the most complex forms of human interaction, simply because finding someone you can tolerate for long enough to spend so much time with them is a bloody difficult process. You can bitch and whine about how girls don't go for nice guys and whatnot, but you're looking at it from the wrong angle. It's not that girls go for the guys they can't have (all the time, at least). It's that girls don't like going for guys that call them every 15 minutes just to "say hi" (likewise, I can think of plenty of guys with the same complaint about girls).

There's a difference between being nice and being desperate.

[Heffy]

^^ how is stating opinions that i have created through observation hypocritical? I made no refence to myself nor did I apply anything I said to myself in any manner.

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

^^ how is stating opinions that i have created through observation hypocritical? I made no refence to myself nor did I apply anything I said to myself in any manner.

that was kinda his point...

[Skitzo_Style]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

I never promoted being a jerk. Or being a nice guy for that matter. I was simply pointing out how nice guys become jerks and the irony inherent in a girl's search for a nice guy.

nice guys don't become jerks.

assholes front like they are nice guys, then show their true colours.

i have met many people who are genunily nice people and they never go sour. only people who are truly assholes act nice one minute, and turn into a jerk the next.

i am tired of reading all this bullshit about being a 60% nice guy 40% jerk, or 80% nice 20% asshole. they are nothing more that bullshit statistics that guys use to coach others in picking up women. here's the catch: it's all lies!

as sarah said before "a front smells like shit". ya, bullshit! be the way you are, thats the key. besides, why the fuck would you want to attract women who you have to put a front on for all the time? what a waste of energy and time!

but it doesn't hurt to have some game as well. being smooth has nothing to do with being an asshole or a jerk. being smooth is being sure of yourself, being happy with how you are, and being a loyal, trustworthy, and overall standup kind of guy. not an decieving, lying, smug piece of shit. there is a big difference between the 2.

[flowpro]

smell her hair

[Skitzo_Style]

^^^^^^
or just smell her hair.

works for this guys.

[Webber]

...talk to them?

[Capt.AA]

Originally Posted by Webber

...talk to them?

qft:)

[ppcock]

just pull out.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

^^ how is stating opinions that i have created through observation hypocritical? I made no refence to myself nor did I apply anything I said to myself in any manner.

No, but because you are human you fall into the categories for which you are complaining. You're telling me you don't have standards? I guess maybe you have the right av.

[Leviathan]

I just stick a finger in her pooper when she least expects it.

[Cool-Water]

Originally Posted by RiCeY

80% Nice guy
20% Ass

If your to nice it's not a good thing...My sous chef told me this about I was way to nice to people and that being 20% of an ass at times would be good...So far it seems to work with the girl I'm interested in/seeing :)

too nice is bad
-> taking drunk girl home in 1 piece leavin buddies
= stupid idea girl dont remember anyway ditched ur buddies.
should be kinda equal niceness