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Feb 20, 07
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the finer aspects of "the approach"
so... basically I've been a little restless lately. As much as I like my own space, the single thing isn't working.
I know how to approach women when Iam at a bar and club, because I've got the "liquid courage", not to mention the fact I'm all dashing and what have you. But I dont really like that scene... Or at school i can just be casual to get some digits. that works sure... but what about like when Iam on the bus, or at a bus stop... Cuz i see sooo many rediculously fine women at the bus....but my gut reaction is to maybe smile, then just fidgit with my ipod like a total loser. ha ha ha Basically, I want to know. Is it cool to make passes at women on the bus or at the bus stop.. and how do you go about it? please. i know you guys are all great comedians, but I'd have more appreciation for serious response. 
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Feb 20, 07
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I guess it's kind of fucked because I usually wear headphones, and the girls are usually wearing headphones.
ipods are the wall between my love... FUCK YOU APPLE. COCKBLOCKERS CUZ YOU COUNLDNT GET ANY TILL YOU WERE 30 AND COULD BUY WHORES N STUFF CUZ WOMEN LIKE MILLIONAIRES N SHIT
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Feb 20, 07
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Hahaha - I also used to get pissed off at the fact that only women of particular beauty wear these damned headphones but I've just learned to ignore it after a while...
Here's a thought for ya: no matter how "good" your "approach" is, the girl is always going to assume that you want something from her, such as sex (in which case she will always be right)... so how do you "approach" without making her think you want something from her? ;) Figure that out and then make a thread asking what you should talk about once you get passed the whole approach issue...
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Feb 20, 07
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i guess the main question is..
ladies do you care where you are approached? bus, bus stop? does it even matter? Like i hate to say it, but I am just clueless to certain ediquette, and am passing off alot of oppurtunities just because I don't wanna step out of my bounds and possibly set myself up for embarrassment.
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Feb 20, 07
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if so .... i hope theyre hot and not the usual weird old cougars who stare at me on the bus. Like, i get it old ladies. I am a succulent piece of man cake. No need to make me feel all uncomfortable n stuff. Im a deep and multilayered individual. i hate it when women treat me like some naughty object
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Feb 21, 07
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or do i?
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Feb 21, 07
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What you just said... say it to a woman in real life - she will like that. The whole thing about women treating you like an object when you have feelings of your own. They love that shit.
But to answer your question - I used to be quite concerned about where and how I would approach women, fearing embarrassment, but after a few trial and errors - I noticed that it doesn't matter where and how you approach them... but just do. If you don't, then someone else will. If you don't know her, just be kind and ask her a question on something, thank her for her answer, and then be like "oh btw... maybe you could give me some advice on something here as well..." But don't get stuck getting advice from them all the time - move on to teasing them as they're giving advice cause your goal is to attract them and not get info from from as you would from girls that work in the cosmetics department of London Drugs. Your style of conversation should always be light, casual, fun, etc. You should never telegraph any predatory and desperate ambitions. One dude once said: "man i was doing so good with this chick but as soon as i realized that i liked her - it all went downhill" Last edited by FireWire; Feb 21, 07 at 12:30 AM.
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Feb 21, 07
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hahaha ipods are the wall between my love...
consider yourself quoted. But in all...stuffy like stance....(kidding kidding).. Be honest...id say, say what's on your mind...or something on the like..even if it may seem totally bizarre... Before in my singlehood realm of the past I was in exactly your situation.... the headphones. Eyes meet eyes fall...ooooh song number 7 ....niiiiice.. looks down for a moment....looks up......future husband has since departed. Try the "What are you listening to"...because it's....even in the not romantic sense...an AWESOME QUESTION...I dont know ...i love it... I once had a guy tap me on the shoulder and said do you mind...where he then proceeded to alter the ad above me....and i said no... and thus was a very interesting conversation after his spoken hand was done...So excellently random. If her shoes make you want to become an astronaut...or climb everest because they give you the Tibetan vibe...tell her.. I think the only thing that matters is that you remain self....just open to possibility...dont force ..let it ride... Of course it's cool to do this...speak to humans and such...if you feel it's the right moment...It's all you...you create your own path, the norm ...there is no such thing...it dosen't exist if you dont want it to...my opinion on this does not matter... Keep on the flow....it'll happen when it happens.. Speak forth! If you wish to....strum forth..sing forth...sketch forth.... Do what you feel. You only live once. Last edited by Rayeine; Feb 21, 07 at 12:30 AM.
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Feb 21, 07
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I guess sometimes i have this wall built up of what I think is the norm and how people should act and end up denying myself alot of experiences in the process. its good to be reminded of this. great words rayeine
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Feb 21, 07
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GUYS - this shit right here is gold! It just shows you that those ipod listening girls aren't really listening to anything...
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Feb 21, 07
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treat her like shit, she will love it. joking joking!
shes probably the same, multilayered person who is probably thinking the same that that you are about the ipods and likes you too. and she is writing on another forum asking the same questions. if she has headphones on, poke her a few times wait till she turns around then fall on your ass and cry like a sissy. she will then take care of you forever
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Feb 21, 07
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k you almost sounded not dumb until you advised me to cry on the bus for no reason...
everyone else. good advice. phrenetic. see a drug counsellor asap mmmkay
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Feb 21, 07
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Feb 21, 07
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Everytime I see a girl who gives me that chill, intellectual vibe... whether it's the book she's reading or even a unique style of clothes, I always start tapping out a beat with my hands. Eventually, one of these girls will join in and we'll make beautiful music together in every sense of the term.
I will only date a musician. It's my only snobbish trait.
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