What The Fuck?!??!

[dj4mula]

K, im confused as fuck. MY ex broke up with me. She said she wanted to still be in my life. Her reason for ending it was she was expecting us to get closer and we really didnt so she says.

After the breakup it seems like I dont exist to her. We work together so this makes it kinda weird. I'll be there and she wont acknowledge me. She said she still wanted to be friends and she was the one that broke it up.

I'm confused. You'd think id be mad cuz she broke up with me, but i'm mad cuz were not friends. It makes me wonder why we even went out. My confidence has been shot cuz i feel like shit when shes around. But when shes not around I feel find.

Someone help??!?

[Timdareez]

oh no don't tell me your ex gave you the " FRIEND Break up routine " TIM !!!!!! ahhhhh

sorry to hear man !!!!
but what does the reez always say...... RELATIONSHIPS ARE GARBAGE !!!!!

PERFECT EXAMPLE PEOPLE !!!!
screw em Tim lets go find some FIEGS !!!!!!!

[dj4mula]

ya...she said.... Honestly girls. If you dont want to be friends then dont say it.

By saying it your putting shit into our heads.

[stringbeans]

smack that two-timing bitch and be like "whut?"

john
2899131

[stabmyhead]

Chances are if she broke up with you because she was expecting you guys to be closer than you really were she is disappointed that you guys weren't all in love.. and now that she has made the decision as to breaking up she's feeling like she's failed, and maybe feels ashamed to see you or talk to you.

These things take time getting used to... You can't really expect her to jump up and down and scream, "OMG! Things didn't work out as I wanted them to but hey! Who cares! Let's just be friends!!" Especially if she cared deeply about you, or was expecting more things outta the relationship...

ramble ramble ramble...

[dj4mula]

Leslie,

Ya I dont expect a friendship to blossom right away. But I mean I still exist. It almosts seems like the relationship was kinda pointless. And to me, that kinda hurts.

PS - I luv when you respond to my posts. You put things into perspective.

[SEAN!]

Originally posted by stringbeans:
smack that two-timing bitch and be like "whut?"

john
2899131

hahah word bro..u know we don't play

thug 4 life bayyybEE

[Guice_39]

Theres probably a whole lotta shit runnin through her head right now......mixed emotions and shit. Just lay back and chill......give it time.

[miss.myra]

ehh..

I don't mean to come off as harsh, but I don't really understand the idea that it is essential that people stay friends after they break off a relationship.

I think a lot of people say it out of politeness because it is what is expected after the meltdown. Undeniably, 90% of the time it's just fucking awkward for both parties involved for the first while. It makes it worse because people feel bad if they don't want to stay friends with the other party because social obligations tell us it is absolutely necessary.

I find with people I've dated or had relationships, I have an easier time staying close friends with them if we don't engage in the whole "let's be friends" talk.

It's also MORE annoying if the person tries to pressure me into being their friend after the initial event. I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but it's fantastic we shared days/weeks/months/hours or whatever, I just really don't feel the urge to be their friend afterwards.

I'm rambling on here.

Just remember, although it hurts, whatever is meant to be is meant to be. Chances are if this girl is a liar who is indecisive about things, then she's not the one. There's better things to come your way, make sure of it.

M

[Moon]

i dont wanna sound harsh either but i think she said "i think itLL make us closer" just so you wouldnt be too upset when u broke up. so in other words she ended the relationship and lied to you as well.

cuz breaking up to get closer just doesnt make any sense whatsoever.

but thats fucked up for her to pull shit like that bro.

[cheeseburger]

Hang in there man..

time will tell

Keep busy, try not to get jealous


GO HAVE SOME FUN, OR AT LEAST TRY TO!!

[dj4mula]

Myra, I agree. Friendships dont always occur, but people shouldn't say "I still want to be in your life." That's pretty much rubbing salt in the wound.


Thanks for all the encouragement ya'll.

~Tim

[BB_YungYung]

I know how you feel..... me and this guy broke up from a okay relationship.. things just went sour.. and we both said that we wanted to be friends still...
But after that.. HE ignored me, I guess it was harder on him than it was me... I would always say hi.. and I wouldn't even get a smile, just a hey.

I feel that it was a good thing that me and that guy broke up and good that he doesn't talk to me anymore... sometimes I even think why the hell did I go out with him for..
And out of it all it really felt like I put in more than I got out of it, and I'm glad I got out before I sank even deeper.

DJ4.. if she acts like you guys never went out, then act like a stranger to her, say "hi how are you doing?" like you would do to anyother person that you know in a causual way.
Be happy that you didn't stay in it long enough in the relationship
to find out that you don't even know why you are staying in it in the first place. + just think to yourself.. you needed better ne ways