trying to be nice to your ex

[LoveKat]

my ex wanted to stay close with me,
but i was having too many emotional problems over the summer
which he didn't understand
so i told him that i needed my space

now that i feel more sane, i emailed him
but he never wrote back
i asked him about it on the phone
and he told me that he deleted it without reading it
so i told him that i would send it again
he said "fine" and hung up

it's sad because he didn't understand why i needed space before
and decided then that i was being immature
and now he cannot give our friendship a chance

*huggles*

[SomeGuy]

It's ok, some people are just like that, I'm probaly guilty of that same charge with at least one of my Ex's. It's really hard to see someone you really care about and have been in a relationship in as just a friend, it takes time to adjust. Hopefully he'll see what he's missing out on, goodluck I hope everything works out. :)

[c.tard]

it's hard to stay friends with an ex.
i think most importantly, you both need to give each other time.. time to think things over, get through that hard time, and then try and be friends.

being friends right away, doesn't work. each person needs to give the other time, after that it can work out.
sometimes it will, sometimes it won't.

it's hard to totally let go of someone like that, but sometimes it has to be done. you never know what the future will hold though.. =) good luck hun.

[LoveKat]

that's the thing though
he was the one who was wanting to be friends
and i couldn't handle it
but now that i want to start a friendship
he has pulled away :(

[BB_YungYung]

*HUGS* to lovekat

I shouldn't really judge anyone that I don't know
but I think your ex is being a little bit of a JERK!

I know where you have been
where you lost so much of yourself that you don't even know
who or where you stand anymore.
and you can't take it anymore and you just need to find yourself
or you'll just go crazy.

If he can't understand why you needed the space
You have to really think, you tried to tell him
it's not that he can't understand, to me it seems like he just doesn't want to listen.

You needed the space, not wanted it.

My words are harsh

If he wanted to be your friend more than he needed it
than you don't need him even as a friend.

If you do not know or love yourself
how can you come to know and love anyone

[Stephanie]

Maybe he needs more space than you did. I mean what you're over now, that you were getting over before, may have stirred up issues with himself that he is not over yet. Give it time.

Otherwise, he's someone who ain't worth your breath.

[galaxie]

Nathaniel, I've said it before and I'll say it again : You're too damn good for him!

*hugs*

[LoveKat]

*huggles* natalie

you are a sweetie! let's go to burger heaven sometime soon! :) i miss you!

[stabmyhead]

Sometimes it doesn't matter how nice you are to someone if they don't understand how you feel towards them or don't see that you have made some kinda self realization about yourself and the relationship that has happened.. some people just won't give you the chance....

Maybe he is just holding a personal grudge because when he tried to talk to you and such when you guys broke up you were trying to keep your distance and you were perhaps cold to him.... I guess just give him some space.. maybe he'll lighten up and you guys will be able to be friends again...

Remember kids: love is a big long road of tragedy.

[LoveKat]

that's true stabby :) you are always the bearer of good advice :) *snuggles*

ps come by and visit again soon!!! :)