fucking up relationships...

[SomeGuy]

Is there anyone else out there that is like me and just seems to fuck up good relationships only later on to realize how good thing's were. I don't think I've had a bad girlfriend yet, but I keep breaking up with them, even if there really good girlfriends. Why can't I stop this? I've done it to 1, 2, 3 GF's and infinite would be GF's. Why am I so scared of being with a person, I don't get it. Why do I love being so independant but at the same time I want to be with a person, WTF is wrong with me?

[krisamata]

i do the exact same thing.
always have.
i hate it

[dj4mula]

Your need to give me some of the "stuff" ya'll have. I seem to get into bad relationships.

[Bitchin]

your prob gonna think I'm wierd for saying this but its true... your prob the type that needs a 'part-time' relationship.... but then again... that might not work...

have you ever had your heart broken before? cause if you havent... then maybe you just take girls for granted and now you sorta need to know how it feels to be dumped and what not.

not trying to be mean here conor just givin you a few ideas :)

[Guice_39]

When you find "the one" then you will know that you should stay.......until then, its kinda good to try it out with different people cause if you don't then you'll never know.....its not your fault if you don't fall in love wit'em, at least you tried. Just try not to hurt their feelings.......the worst would be if she fell in love with you but you didn't exactly feel tha same.

[SEAN!]

Originally posted by SomeGuy:
Is there anyone else out there that is like me and just seems to fuck up good relationships only later on to realize how good thing's were. I don't think I've had a bad girlfriend yet, but I keep breaking up with them, even if there really good girlfriends. Why can't I stop this? I've done it to 1, 2, 3 GF's and infinite would be GF's. Why am I so scared of being with a person, I don't get it. Why do I love being so independant but at the same time I want to be with a person, WTF is wrong with me?

nothing bro...shit happens, don't worry about it, i do it myself.

[SEAN!]

Originally posted by Guice_39:
When you find "the one" then you will know that you should stay.......until then, its kinda good to try it out with different people cause if you don't then you'll never know.....its not your fault if you don't fall in love wit'em, at least you tried. Just try not to hurt their feelings.......the worst would be if she fell in love with you but you didn't exactly feel tha same.

fuck man...your a genious. yeah connor listen to what guice sez.

[*STARFISH*]

uh....
yah....
?...
:014:

Originally posted by Bitchin:
... your prob the type that needs a 'part-time' relationship..

uh.. *cough*
/me jumps up and down waiving her hands in the air...


hmmm...
all i can say to this post is...
IT THE RETURN OF SOMEGUY!!! AAARRGGHH!!! RUN!!! *LOL*
(just kidding! i *heart* you conor :kimmie: )

[Timdareez]

FUCK EM ALL !! CONOR !! Plain n Simple !!!

RULE #1 of Reez Philosophy !! If your scared of gettin hurt
by either you fuckin somethin up or them fuckin you over....

Don't EVEN GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP !!!! It's CRAP !!

RELATIONSHIPS SUCK ASS !!!!!

THE END !

[krisamata]

just get laid by random people.

[Res]

take my advice, dont get in a relationship

please please no no !!!!:moon: :PartEkid: :moon: :PartEkid:

[Breezy]

i have the exact same problem... I tend to avoid gettin involved with anyone...
jus dont settle for anyone, find someone that fits your needs too, and don't jus dump them for shit reasons.. you'll regret it when ur miserable single!
gooood luck dude~!

[Timdareez]

exactlly.. and if you wanna know why.......

look at it as
avoidin GETTIN HURT !!!!!!!! either you hurt them or they hurt you.............. just don't even let it get to that in the first place..... and you won't feel like that again............

[sNyx]

Originally posted by krisamata:
just get laid by random people.

you better believe it.

[bebu*funfun]

its ok da conor...it happens. u get into a relationship...fuk it up then u look back to it and u find out wut u didn't cherish. kinda sucks but relationships always backlash on yah. i personally think wayyyyy too much and i dont "go with the flow", even though i tell myself to do so. i over analyse everything...even lil details. being independent rocks...wait ive always been independent. sometimes we just crave to have someone at the side who cares for u in a special way... someone who u can lean and fall back to..someone who can hold u're hand... someone to listen to u blab on and on about bs (u get the point). seriously start cherishing wut u have RIGHT NOW..cuz i promise the girl rite now will be a keeper *winks*

[stabmyhead]

I don't think it's an independence thing, I think it's more of an insecurity and perhaps fear of getting hurt/commitment or having someone dig around and find the side of you that you dispise? I bet deep down inside you want them to make you fall in love with them. As for finding "THE ONE" -- BULLSHIT. There is no such thing as "the one, and only", someone is not going to fit into your standards forever. People change, people grow up, mature and what they want and need in a relationships change. Honestly, the only reason why some relationships last that long is because both parties are too lazy to break it off because they are so comfortable in their "Oh we've been going out for about 4 years and no one else is going to put up with my crap"-ness that there really is no "point" in breaking up.

DIE RELATIONSHIPS DIE! My bf rules! *HEART HEART HEART* :)

[M!SKA]

Originally posted by snyx™:
you better believe it.

Please believe it

sorry I had to :hehe:

Conor, just go with the flow. See what happens.

[Timdareez]

no way..... goin wit the flow can get you into more trouble.... trust me been there done that........ still in my head...........


Just the flings dude.. no strings attached.. never have contact with em again...... bam !...vamoos !! GONE !!!

because the moment you start callin em up and talkin and becomin friends n shiz... then your mind starts thinkin the scariest word.......

..

" WHAT IF ..... "

[bebu*funfun]

werd to tim! what ifs scares da fuk outta me...cuz the mind plays games, and the mind can make the most twisted couples look and seem perfecto.

my conclusions..flings lead to lotsa trouble, so either have u're one time thing and DROP IT RIGHT AWAY or dont even start shits like that. be patient~

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by stabmyhead:
I don't think it's an independence thing, I think it's more of an insecurity and perhaps fear of getting hurt/commitment or having someone dig around and find the side of you that you dispise? I bet deep down inside you want them to make you fall in love with them. As for finding "THE ONE" -- BULLSHIT. There is no such thing as "the one, and only", someone is not going to fit into your standards forever. People change, people grow up, mature and what they want and need in a relationships change. Honestly, the only reason why some relationships last that long is because both parties are too lazy to break it off because they are so comfortable in their "Oh we've been going out for about 4 years and no one else is going to put up with my crap"-ness that there really is no "point" in breaking up.

DIE RELATIONSHIPS DIE! My bf rules! *HEART HEART HEART* :)

"THE ONE"........or fuck whatever, then someone who you develope real deep feelings for and mean the world to you.

[SEAN!]

when i start to think stupid sappy shit like that and regret all the things ive done in the past, and all the people that ive fucked over and hurt i get depressed for a little while, but then you have to relize that all the mistakes that you have made in the past make you who you are. Don't worry about it, because it donst matter, love yourself and others will too.

Conor this si the most important lesson that you can learn in life, and alot of people are too stupid to relize it: Nothing matters, its stupid to worry about things that happened in the past or things that you can't control, only worry about the things you can. life is meaningless, do what makes you happy.

your a good guy connor, there will be plenty of girls to worry about in the future, so don't worry about the ones in the past.


thug 4 life

[SomeGuy]

Ok, first off, thanks for all the reply's and opinions and views on things, You've all given me a little bit more to think about which is good..

1) Shawn your a Sociopath by the description you've given, so all you care about is yourself, I know many THUG LIFE kid's who live the same way, "I gotta get paid." I can't live that way anymore.

2) I've been crushed by girl's I really like a lotta times over my life so I know how it is to be really hurt.

3) I've already found "THE ONE" once in my life and I know there will be many others. "The One" is only a point in time but over time all thing's change.

4) Part-Time relationships are a novell idea if you can both agree on what part-time means...
/me just realizes something...

5) Bev, I know.

[galaxie]

The best advice I can give you is to take things slow.

Chances are, if you jump into a serious relationship you're going to get scared and frantic because things are happening too fast.

If you take things slowly, then you have time to get comfortable with each new relationship concept. Then, you'll have no reason be scared, and you will be breaking your negative cycle.

Look back on your past relationships and figure out WHAT scared you, and WHY. Then, apply that to your new relationships. And make sure you discuss your fears and past with your girlfriend. That way, if either one of you start to notice the negative pattern that you've followed in the past, you can recognize it and stop it before it becomes a problem!

Good luck =)

[crookedking]

Originally posted by krisamata:
just get laid by random people.

werd

[miss.myra]

ehhh..


whatever is meant to be, is meant to be

such things are normal, be patient, and the right person will come along.