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Oct 21, 02
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friends that do too many drugs
I've never been one to advocate the use of drugs (as most of you probably know), but i dont think I've really ever bitched anyone out about drug use either. However, now I've come to the point where I'm worried about a couple of friends of mine. They're doing "hard" drugs on a regular basis, and frankly it seems like theyre turning into different people... not as happy, they cant focus... but most of all you can see they've changed when you look in their eyes (no matter how stupid that sounds). I don't know what more I can do about it, as I have voiced concern about it in the past. I don't want to tell them how to run their lives, but it comes down to the fact that I care about them too much to see them throw them away either. Any ideas on how I should deal with this? Constructive comments are appreciated :)
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Oct 21, 02
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what my friends did with me ...
they cut me loose. (for the time being) ...i hated it, i felt REALLY guilty, and wanted them back. so i chose them. tough love i guess. but. i respond well to guilt and toughness. we are really good friends once again, and after 2 years i dont do those drugs anymore. that method may not work on everyone tho.
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Oct 21, 02
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I found that you have to sit down with them and show them what will come if they further down this path that they choice. But this isnt very effect but works. I think that if you make them stop it helps, but i am not very good at stuff like this. All i know is that one of my friends went though the same thing and i just sat her down and told her to stop and made her promise to try to quit or cut back to a level which was normal. She is currently cutting back.
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Oct 21, 02
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*this reminds me of my friend who lives to shove things in her mouth* BAHAHAHAHAHA
okay no jokes... i get so worried..too worried. but theres really nothing i can do.. i dont wanna be someone elses mom. but christine i believe someone has to step up and let them know.. tell them flat out wut u think of them. hopefully it will work...grrz
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Oct 21, 02
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coming from someone who used to do ALOT of hard drugs (and trying to cut back!!!) ......maybe this is just for me buuut...it duzint rilly matter what ANYONE sez until the person comes to the realization that they have to stop becuz its bad for them....you should still tell the people how you feel though becuz ure imput mite help bring them to the realization of how bad thier drug use is getting.
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Oct 21, 02
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I agree, not much you can say to them will work, i know from experience, myself and friends, if your into drugs alot only you can stop yourself, anything other people might say doesnt really register because your right and you feel that the person giving advise doesnt fully understand your thoughts and why your doing it. The tough love thing would definitely be the most effective, but still keep within arms reach for a shoulder incase they need you.
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Oct 21, 02
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they won't stop unless they themselves actually wanna stop or cut back...from personal experience...wutever u say..could go in and out their other ear...express ur concern and be there for them..but in the end..only they can help themselves..it sucks..but that's how it seems to work..
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Oct 21, 02
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In my current situation, I feel like shit because I can't do anything about my 'friend' that's doing too many drugs...because it is my bf of 2 years who just broke up with me to do those drugs. The saddest part is that he thinks that it is not influencing him because they are 'socially acceptable' drugs....weed and alcohol...but I honestly believe that they are making him into something that he is not. Mean, uncaring, unthoughtful, self-centred. I wish I could point it out to him and help him through it, just as any friend would, but because he chose them over me, I have no say in the matter. The only thing I can do is hope and pray that he will look in the mirror one day and realize what he has done to himself and realize what he has lost.
I HATE what alcohol and drugs do to people. I absolutely HATE it. They can take perfect things and produce evil. *Jen*
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Oct 21, 02
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well i woodnt say my friends do hard drugs all the time.
but they do alot of e. i did 2 tho but i think im finally out of the phase. i just wish they wood do the same now. were all getting older now and we got other things we shood be worrin about. not just how were gunna get drugs for the weekend. as of now i dont try and counsil them 2 not do drugs, but i think its time they realize that they cant live like this... as for my advice as what u shood do. if sum1 is really doing alot and your starting 2 worry. obviously u cant just ignore them, hell there your friends, but u gotta just talk 2 them and try and give them a reality check. try and convince them 2 do things with u that dont involve drugs. maybe it will get there mind off of it and theyll find sumn else fun 2 spend there $ on. but if they wanna boge let them. i stand fully behind any stoner. pot is great!!!!
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Oct 21, 02
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what needs to be done is that you let them realize how stupid they are themselves. nasty addictions and habbits to hard drugs goes down deeper inside peoples heads and the only people who can get out of the habbit are themselves. they were the ones who got themselves hooked on it in the first place, so they should be the ones who stop. i used to be sympathtic to people who got hooked on hard drugs but now i'm not.
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Oct 21, 02
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This is a tough situation. Tough love does work on some, but sometimes it might drive the person to do even more drugs.
You have examine your friend and see why there doing the drugs in the first place. Some people do them to fill a void. The question is what kind of void it is. Bordom? No family? No friends? Whatever it maybe, you have to fill that void.
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Oct 21, 02
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tough love is the best way but doesn't work for everyone. I cut a friend of mine that way.. about a year ago.. and they're still cut. they chose the drug over me.. though they were supose to be a really good friend of mine. :(
but it can work for others.. but it may have to be a group effort.. not a one on one thing.
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hahah shaun your the shit... i worry about my friends who do drugs and aren't part of the rave scene..i don't see em much anymore, but when i do there usaully ultra fucked on alchohol, E, or coke..i don't know what to say and i don't think they relize how bad they're damaging themselves Last edited by SEAN!; Oct 21, 02 at 09:17 PM.
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Oct 27, 02
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He was just kidding around...Andrew doesn't "call names" like that. Last edited by galaxie; Oct 27, 02 at 06:49 PM.
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Oct 27, 02
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thats not a fun position to be put in unfortunately... but courtney's right they have to learn it for themselves... u jsut gotta be there for them and watch them, and let them know that u are worried.... it's not up to you though...
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Nov 04, 02
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I had one of my best friends go down the drain with speed. We're not friends anymore, I moved to coquitlam when I lived in BC to get away from that shit. But she was horrible...had sores on her face..when she talked to you she'd pick at her face and omg..it was so revolting. Im hoping she got outta it now...but who knows.
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Nov 05, 02
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my best friend does way too many drugs. everyone comes and tells me whut he does and i have always just believed him when he has told me that it wasn't true. this has been goin on for years and it sucks i let him know how i feel about it and bail him out when he gets into shit but other then that i am backing off for now, he has to come around by himself. for now i am just happy that he "says" that he has stopped selling. thats good enough for now i guess
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