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Nov 01, 02
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Club Whores = Friends
I don't know what to do about all these guy's... there my best friends, I've known a lot of them since elementary school, but we can't ever see eye to eye. There idea of fun is going to a hip-hop top 40 club packed with asians, I mean I have no problem with the asian content but Top 40, I just can't take top 40. It lacks uniqueness and insperation and lately the crowds just suck. Everyone goes all GQed out, trying to show off there money, popularity etc.. etc.. and it pisses me off, everyone is alway's so vein and I've even argued with my friends about shit like this but they don't understand what I mean... I can't stand people who follow the crowd... USE YOUR OWN MIND, IT'S A BEAUTIFULL THING!!!
I can't stand.... Followers/assholes/racism/dimeaning another/bad mouthing/sexism/stereotyping/bullying I see people everyday fall victim to shit like this, I FUCKING HATE IT!!! why must people follow to be popular instead of getting some balls and using there own fucking mind, why do they have to do this or that cause everyone else is doing it, just do it cause YOU enjoy it.... grrrrrr... And why the fuck do I keep getting slammed in a category just based upon my look, WTF is this, I'm not a fucking piece of paper, what you see and who someone is are two very different things.. I can't stand all the fucking stupid people in this world... 
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Nov 01, 02
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I know what you mean.
I went through that phase you are in or that you see years ago and realized that people that have it don't need to flaunt it. Who the hell was I trying to impress anyway. When the Drink used to be called Madisons (or Systems) there was these huge lineups outside with kiddies all dressed to impress. I knew the owner, the bartenders and bouncer staff and had a nice priviledge of being able to bypass the lineup. So I walk to the head of the line in my jeans and T-shirt and all these people stare and razz me for looking the way I do. I remember once these guys and girls at the front of the line pointing at me and laughing. I loved their faces when the bouncer opened the rope and stepped aside to let me in. What I am trying to get at is that ego, vanity, arrogance are phases that one goes through. In a group environment these traits get magnified and makes no one look good in the end. As long as you think you look good and have confidence in your own abilities (they call this self esteem) then why give a shit about what other people think? In the end, does their opinion of you really matter that much? If it does then you should take a serious look at how you are living your life. If it doesn't then I pat you on the back and I'll buy you a beer. Last edited by MC Hammered; Nov 01, 02 at 03:41 PM.
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Nov 01, 02
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Because that makes them easiar to control.
There's a comfort in being looked as 'one of the group', someone that belongs. People that act on alone, end up alone. Everyone is a stereotype. I can smell the hypocracy in this sentance: "And why the fuck do I keep getting slammed in a category just based upon my look, WTF is this, I'm not a fucking piece of paper, what you see and who someone is are two very different things.. " You are slamming those guys based on their appearance and whatnot just as they are to you. People were given opinions, some abuse them, others have none. If you can't deal with it, don't go. You grow out of your friends, it happens, it happens quite a bit in your life time infact. You can't expect to have the same tastes as those around you forever, PEOPLE CHANGE. You weren't the same person you were when you were six, just as when you're fifty, you won't be the same person you are now. You can not like something but become tolerant of it for your friend. HELL, my bestfriend wanted me to go to some silly goth night with her for her bday, I was willing to go, it's called making a sacrifice. You could easily not go, EVERYTIME, or maybe even suggest going to something you would like more. It's all about communication, and sadly you seem to lack it with your friends.
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Nov 01, 02
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I dealt with the same kind of people all through highschool. And despite the fact they were my friends since elementary I went crazy (literally) and just ditched them.
My advice is RUN Connor, as fast as you can. It's not like you don't have other, better friends (I'm assuming :P) And If not you live right by me so give me a call fucker.
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Nov 01, 02
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*cough* call me sometime *cough*
weve talked about this before.. but all i can say is be yourself... and be happy with who you are.. youre an awesome guy.. be glad youre not like them :)
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Nov 01, 02
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Connor, its what asians do. A lot of my friends are like that. They dress all in black. Hit up Sonar, Purple Onion & Wett Barr (closed) and dance it up to the Hip-Hop,Rnb & Reggae. They also just sit there and act hardcore. They jump on the opportunity to start shit.
I see this issue from both sides. I was like this and at times I still am. The thing is a lot of "asians" think being asian is to dress all in black, act hardcore and shit like that. There parents probaly immigrated to Canada and want the best for the kids. So the kids are raised to have this mentality. I'll admit I have this mentality. I still dress in total black with the slick back hair on occasion. Why? I'll admit it feels good. But I learned a few years ago that being totatlly like this just makes you less asian. A lot of "so called" asians know nothing about being asian. Some can't even understand there own language. Trust me Connor. Your friends are going through a faze. You seemed to have discovered how the real world is. Hopefully they will find out soon. Just be yourself.
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Nov 01, 02
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^ it's not just asians that do this. And most people that haven't figured out that shit is pointless.. never will. At least any time soon.
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Nov 01, 02
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conner - nowadays there are soo many people like that basically no one i know follows there own brain. theres rilly nothing u can do about it unless u wanna ditch them all together which i doubt seen as ure good freinds with them......the jist of it is people are stupid!
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Nov 02, 02
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im sorry, so ppl who listen to top forty are:Followers/assholes/racists/dimeaning another/bad mouthing/sexists/stereotyping/bullies? whatever man its just music. i happen to enjoy top forty and i am none of that shit. seems to me like the "in thing" is to trash top forty.
why must people follow to be popular instead of getting some balls and using there own fucking mind? all my friends diss me for listening to pop. do i give a shit? no i use my own mind and have the balls to say whatever, i like this shit.
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Nov 02, 02
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2 words: meat market
john 2899131
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Nov 02, 02
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Don't go to those club nights then... it's just thhhattt simple.
I'd say I -used- to have that same problem too but I found a simple solution to it... go to clubnights that you wanna go to with people that enjoy the same thing as you. i'm almost positive you can find a ton of people to go with ya off of this site! and if you do end up goin to those type of clubs/clubnights with your friends, make sure you're not the dd and DRINK YOUR ASS OFF! trust me, when you're drunk, you'd have at least 60% of a better time! -TiFF- and its' not only an asian thing... have you BEEN to voda or aubar? bleh~
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Nov 03, 02
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gold streaks ~ I don't think that's what he meant. he was just saying he doesn't like people like that, not that all people who listen to top 40 are like that. =)
i'd say just don't go with em. go maybe once in a while, drink your ass off (more fun that way) and whatevers. i mean if you still want you could always go somewhere with some people, them somewhere else and just chill afterwards or something.
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Nov 03, 02
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the plaza club aint that bad...but there alot of funny people there to laff at Last edited by SEAN!; Nov 03, 02 at 02:31 AM.
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Nov 03, 02
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Nov 04, 02
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I'm just PO'd, I alway's go to these clubs with them but whenever I tell them they should check out this or that, I end up going by myself, none of them are willing to try new shit. There all stuck in there rut, club, top 40 hip-hop and nothing else, I mean there's more to this world and I don't hate top 40 some of it is good, but most is just repetetive crap. I don't want to ditch these guy's, there like brothers to me, nicest guy's in the world.. but I've lost touch with them, our interests differ, I think the only hobby/interest any of them have is girl's..
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Nov 04, 02
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ya, i know what you mean. same thing with me and a few people. you just grow apart afterwards.. and sometimes i don't even see the point in trying anymore. once you've lost touch, you've lost touch. you're different people, you can't get back what you once had. i mean you could keep trying if you wanted, but it wouldn't work.. i'm just rambling so i'mma shut up. i need sleep. =\
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Nov 04, 02
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conor just wait 6 months or and i'll hit up any weird clubs, new shit, funky hippy places..nething. i'll come along. u have me da asian sistah! i wont dress in black..i'll dress in red and pink. OTAY!
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Nov 17, 02
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haha asians who dress in all black...
its the AzN style... asians who dont wanna look whitewashed but dont wanna look like fobs either. they are stuck in between worlds... they cant be considered white but they cant be considered true asian (because they lack their true roots)... so they must identify themselves as another "group" of ppl... but i digress from the topic at hand... u cant impose ur own interests on all of ur friends... everybody is unique in his/her own way and each person has different preferences. While ur friends might have different interests... it's just trivial. as long as u can still CONNECT as FRTIENDS deep down on a certain level... then these differences in terms of interests/hobbies/etc are just trivial.
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