Friends after relationship?

[veN]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

So for those of you who say "NO", does that mean no contact, out of my life, ill say hi, but dont really care what your doing in your life any more?

OR

Im over it, laugh at all the bad things, it was fun, im happy to talk, happy to listen, happy to hang out, I like to know how your doing and hope your well, and the only reason we dont hang out is because were so wrapped up in our own lifes and our own friend ship circles that we just dont have the time to keep in touch anymore.

For the most part, I really just mean NO. But that's only speaking for ME, and I'm not going into specifics about "this relationship ended like this, so actually its not so complicated, whereas this one was and...". I think people need to make their own decisions - trust their own instincts!

[ebbomega]

Everybody's different really.

I have two exes that are amongst my closest friends. One was a fling-type, one was a one-year serious relationship. I've also had a short fling turn out bad, as I've had a long-term relationship end with a sour taste in my mouth and a desire to never really see her again.

Point is that you can never say with any finality. Just because you've had bad experiences in the past doesn't mean you're going to always be the same with every future-ex you have. Just because you had a relationship that broke smoothly and you've turned out to be the best of friends doesn't mean the next one isn't going to involve drunken 3am voicemails about how horrible a person the other is.

"In this life there are only possibilities"
- someone else

[t-skywalker]

you need a good solid 6 months b4 you can hang out with out one of you having some sort of bad reaction to certain situations at least. id even give it a year from my experiences. although to be honest it takes even longer depending how serious it was. i wish you luck with this situation

[mojo]

Just be greatful you don't work with one of them.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

Point is that you can never say with any finality. Just because you've had bad experiences in the past doesn't mean you're going to always be the same with every future-ex you have. Just because you had a relationship that broke smoothly and you've turned out to be the best of friends doesn't mean the next one isn't going to involve drunken 3am voicemails about how horrible a person the other is.

I totally agree.
Everyone and every situation is unique.
As a rule, it's good to give each other some space. It's inevitable that one person will still feel more strongly than the other, time will help with this.