does knowing someones like you change your perspective of them?

[Mr Ektion]

let's speak friendships. people meet others in so many different ways. Our connections between one another strengthen or slip over time and, you know guys, and the reputation we have... relationships are inevitable.

When you're friends with someone and you think they start liking you, is it natural to start liking back? even if you don't act upon it? On the flip side of the coin, if you start to show someone you're attracted to them, is it human nature for them to start to grow 'something' even if there was nothing there before? even if they don't act on it? or is it creepy to you? do you ignore it till someone makes a move? (and by someone, i mean not you)

of course, your preconception of the person matters. if you were always repulsed by that someone, then them hitting on you will probably affirm their hate for you. but if it's neutral or otherwise, how far does a little communication and body language go?

[dj_soo]

so like, does that person like, like you, like you or actually like, like you like you?

[Ragga_Wh0re]

holy fuck just ask for the love of god.

[Mr Ektion]

this is hypothetical. i'm just wondering about human nature. i've been in both positions before though.

[ffdesign]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

holy fuck just ask for the love of god.

AGREED. I believe that if you have known each other long enough to know what one likes, then you've obviously built a good foundation of communication. With that being said, I think if you actually brought up the situation then it would resolve the question rather than having it drag on and on. Knowing is sometimes better than not knowing.
Give that a whirl, it definitely won't hurt.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Mr Ektion

this is hypothetical. i'm just wondering about human nature. i've been in both positions before though.

human nature says:JUST FUCKING ASK DUMBASS.

if you dont just ask youre a dumbass and should slam your dick in a door jam x5.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Mr Ektion

let's speak friendships. people meet others in so many different ways. Our connections between one another strengthen or slip over time and, you know guys, and the reputation we have... relationships are inevitable.

When you're friends with someone and you think they start liking you, is it natural to start liking back? even if you don't act upon it? On the flip side of the coin, if you start to show someone you're attracted to them, is it human nature for them to start to grow 'something' even if there was nothing there before? even if they don't act on it? or is it creepy to you? do you ignore it till someone makes a move? (and by someone, i mean not you)

of course, your preconception of the person matters. if you were always repulsed by that someone, then them hitting on you will probably affirm their hate for you. but if it's neutral or otherwise, how far does a little communication and body language go?

Maybe ask this question to a group of 15 yr olds and youll get a unanimous answer something to the effect ZOMG!!!etcetctetctetetctctetc.

Or ask the same question to a bunch of generally socially inept 20 somethings which could definately account for the majority of fnks posting population, or ask people from different social classes and youll get different answers the whole time. I dont think it has much to do with human nature as it has to do with being emotionally and socially mature as a result there are various contributing factors which could contribute to the growth and hinderance of this.

To me, this question is completely retarded and so immature. If i dont like someone, them starting to like me isnt going to change the fact that I thnk theyre a twat. If i think someone likes me, ill ask them because thats the mature thing to do and most time effective.

[cinist]

I think people can at times flirt with friends because they enjoy flirting and somehow it gets established that this can go on with nothing more and its safe, but its still enjoyable and ego stroking. I think a lot of times there is absolutly no interest for anything other the enjoyment of the attention.

If you have feelings for someone, or they for you, then id hope you would know it.

[C_squared]

If you show her your penis and she never calls you back, then I guess it was never meant to be.

Hmmm, I'm really bad at giving relationship advice. I shoot from just below the hip.

[Mr Ektion]

thanks ragga, half wit. thanks for speaking on behalf of several age groups when i'm just trying to make a conversation starter. don't troll it up if you don't have anything good to say about the topic. No shit it will differ between everyone, which is why i brought up the open ended topic. Most questions to you are retarded anyways. stop being so negative and shut up if you don't have something good to say.

For one, some people may not want to risk their friendship for the off beat chance of a relationship. Some people may be scared or timid at first so they may need to run a little prelim game. Perhaps two people have different perspectives about their friendship. such as age groups? who knows?! that's why i ask.

soo, if there was someone, i'd just go and pull on her hair. it's been working for me since grade 2.

[Disco_Whore]

I think that if someone who you were generally neutral to before starts flirting or showing their attraction then you can't help but build off that energy. It doesn't mean anything necessarily has to come of it, or that it suddenly makes you attracted to the other person, but they'll definitely be on your mind more than before.

It seems to follow what I understand from the Rules of Attraction (which I haven't read), and it holds in Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing: Without the intervention of others who trick them into thinking the other loves them, Beatrice and Benedick would never have gotten married.

[Courtney]

ive liked guys purely because they like me
but it only lasts a little..it starts to wear off and your like wtf was i thinking im not attractde to u at all!

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Mr Ektion

thanks ragga, half wit. thanks for speaking on behalf of several age groups when i'm just trying to make a conversation starter. don't troll it up if you don't have anything good to say about the topic. No shit it will differ between everyone, which is why i brought up the open ended topic. Most questions to you are retarded anyways. stop being so negative and shut up if you don't have something good to say.

For one, some people may not want to risk their friendship for the off beat chance of a relationship. Some people may be scared or timid at first so they may need to run a little prelim game. Perhaps two people have different perspectives about their friendship. such as age groups? who knows?! that's why i ask.

soo, if there was someone, i'd just go and pull on her hair. it's been working for me since grade 2.

I had something good to say, nothing that you wanted to hear.Although you proceeded to kind of agree with what I had to say so uhhh whatever.

But thinking further yes human nature has a direct impact on our emotional and social intelligence so I guess it could kind of be attributed to human nature but also involves instinct.

[Mr Ektion]

sorry ;) i was a bit mean.

[crookedking]

ektion and ragga are going to hook it up!

[miss.myra]

yes it does.

and usually, whether or not you've told the other person how you feel, if they've got half a brain they can usually tell.

[Mr Ektion]

Originally Posted by crookedking

ektion and ragga are going to hook it up!

YEEEOOOWWWWW!!!!

[SEAN!]

yeah it makes me think that i can play hide the penis with her and never call her back.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by crookedking

ektion and ragga are going to hook it up!

...but i want you? Havent you been able to tell by my body language?

[crookedking]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

...but i want you? Havent you been able to tell by my body language?

i could tell by the way your fingers typed in those words.

[GSG9]

ive been on both sides before. ive been neutral or friendly with someone and found out they liked me and right away start growing positive feelings towards them.

on the other hand ive fund out people like me that, even though neutral with them, it still doesnt interest me whatsoever.

and i also think that one little thing can have an effect on it... un-attainable people are generally more attractive than the ones that you know you can get. for me anyways. alot of people find attraction in the challenge.. the challenge to get, or even keep, a person. but if you know that person would date you or rape you, the challenge is gone and possibly the attraction went with it.

[miss.myra]

i think a lot of the problem is ppl who don't know how to accept that their feelings for you are clearly not mutual. its so shitty when you're friends with someone and they treat you like the fact that they are attracted to you is such an honor and even on principle you should be totally flattered and fuck them right then and there. Then when you don't return their feelings you're some kind of mega bitch for doing so. yeah, that can change things.

[Mr Ektion]

good point m.

[GSG9]

hmm i guess it depends on your OWN personality too then, cause im a staight up asshole to even my best of friends, and they appreciate the cold hard truth, almost as much as i like telling it.

[rawb]

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