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Apr 25, 03
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Incapable of being close???
I think it's me and it sucks... I'm incapable of having a close relationship. Everytime a person shows some interest in me I put up a wall and block them off...
I'm afraid that if this pattern continues I'd live my life being single... Damnit!!! something has to change... 
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Apr 25, 03
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I always say, "what is meant to be, will be."
In your case this means that maybe you haven't open up to anyone interested in you, because your not interested in them. Maybe you really just don't need someone else. When the time and the person and you are all in "alignment" it will all come together- just the way it is supposed to. Ganit- you may think I'm making things seem easy- but really- if you don't worry about things- they are easier. There is way too much BS in this world to be worrying about the little things- do what makes you happy- don't worry about what other people think- and you'll be a happy person- live life simple- It keeps your brain and heart from hurting so much. peace, love and free jelly beans! :smoke1: Dr. Megs Oh yeah- and keep smiling- it makes your face look better! 
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Apr 25, 03
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I`m the complete opposite! I wanna feel for sumone but i always attract losers and i get burned so BAH :finger: *anti feelings mode*
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Apr 25, 03
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zoren; you need some REALLY good sex.
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Apr 26, 03
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>>Supersonic, not wanting to get hurt is one reason why I put up walls...
>>Dr. Megs, that's what I'm thinking too... >>mugsy, I've done that to death and analyzing for me just makes things worse... >>zarlon, I'm trying to do that... >>goddessa, hope that the next person you'll open up to would be the guy you've been looking for... >>methodical, Sex is good but I'm not looking for that. I'm looking for something more... Well I keep myself busy all the time to stop me from thinking about being with someone. I don't want to spend a whole lot of effort trying create a relationship. To me, I think being in a relationship should be easy, it should just flow. It shouldn't be analyzed to death, it should just fall into place. I guess there is two ways of looking at this: 1) Take chances, open yourself up, date a lot of people until you find the right one for you. or... 2) Take life as it is and let things fall into place. Keep life simple. >>I'm believe more in number 2.
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Apr 26, 03
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i dont look for me they seek
humble errection ;left weak
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Apr 26, 03
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dont neccessarily analyze yourself... just be alone. being alone doesnt mean you have to sit ther and pull through your thoughts. just be comfertable being by yourself outside.
its helped me fro the past week overcome something\start to ocersome something i thought fro my entire life i would never be able to. its not that im really figurein things out, im just accepting myself more... the right person usually finds you when you least expect it... most can agree. right when you give up and say you dont want it... it comes to you. like your number two... allow things to fall into place. its a good beliefe, but dont forget life can be a struggle sometimes, and you do have to fight.
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Apr 26, 03
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/\sounds like breeders to me
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Apr 26, 03
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i am incapable of being close. but i'm fine with it. i can accept myself as who i am, and i know that if i was meant to "be close", then it would just come naturally to me. the important thing is that i don't feel left out, i don't feel like i'm missing out. and therefore i don't have to try to be someone i'm not, simply to please my own human nature, or lack thereof.
the only thing that sucks is when other people try to blame me for my own inability to 'be close'. i don't like feeling like i'm defective and/or less of a person because i live a life of isolation. i don't like how people see my personality traits as problems, and judge me by only that. failing to aknowledge the simplest of fact; that i am happy with everything i am, and everything i do. people think that if you don't behave like a character off of Friends, you're fucked up or something.
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Apr 27, 03
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im scared of what boys can do.. i reliezed that they are capable to tear my heart into little pieces and pretend that they didn't do anything.. powerful fellas. im really scared to get into a relationship, but at the same time i would love to have the permanent company. maybe one day you'll meet the special someone and actually want him to be part of your life.. if it was meant to be of course...if not your senses will automatically block him off. treat it like a self security alarm system. wonderful thing to have.
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Apr 28, 03
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ZoReN, maybe your just jumping into shit too fast? Both girlfriends I've had I only knew for like 2 weeks then I jumped right into a relationship with them and my second relationship scared me cause I wasn't prepared for the commitment she wanted so, poof I dissappeared and hurt a really great girl. I to put up walls cause I got rejected a lot when I was younger, look at girls as people, just like your close buddies and just chill with them for a bit and who knows, maybe something will develope, everyone alway's say's the best relationships start as a friendship.
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Apr 29, 03
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>>Supersonic, Mugsy, SomeGuy, Bob: I guess it's Unanimous, #2 it is (Just let it fall into place). I think that's the best way too...
>>Mugsy, I actually did that, Saturday Night after a nice performance at HDC I just walk around downtown listening to some summer disco music checking out the night life, got some Mondo Gelato. It doesn't sound much but I felt content, enjoyed the company of ppl downtown, felt good, didn't feel alone. I don't know why tho... Thanks mugsy... sometimes you all caught up in work, activities, gym, computer that you don't spend some time to yourself... >>Supersonic, Bob: Yeah, I know... Not everyone have to have a person or two and/or a backup person in a relationship all the time. I think they're just soo used to that lifestyle that when they see ppl unlike them it's bizzarre... >>BeBu*FunFun, That's a nice way of looking at it... Security Alarm =). Thanks for the encouragement. **One Extra background: I actually haven't been in a relationship... just friends. Whenever things start to stir up and become more than just friends I get weirded out and try to downplay it so we can still keep being friends. Thanks for your great advice and insight you guys. I'm just relieved to be able to get something like this off my mind and get some informed feedback and knowledge that it's not just happening to me.
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May 01, 03
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^ hmm.. dude from what you just said about backing off when getting close, I think your just scared of losing friends. Which is smart cause the truth is, your young and most relationships do end and a lot of the time you can't have the same friendship that you had before with that person cause it's just awkward, but at some point in your life you have to realize that you gotta take a chance on someone cause there worth it, maybe you just haven't met that person yet.. g'luck, hope everything get's better.
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