compliments

[bob]

^^dude those kinda situations happen in surrey all the time...
it ain't no 'extreme case' out here...

[yoko*]

^^nope, you're wrong. It happened to me twice.

[bob]

i usually only get the "you're a geek/dork/freak/weirdo" ..."i meant that as a compliment" lines...

i really hate it when drunk people compliment me... this one girl i work with was all drunk with me last week and she kept saying shit like "i really respect you, and i think you're a great guy, etc...", she musta thrown 200 compliments at me... and i didn't appreciate any one of them. even if she meant it, if she can't say that kinda shit to me when she's sober, then it doesn't mean a thing to me. (even though i say shit when i'm drunk that i wouldn't say when i'm sober, whatever).

[yoko*]

*cough* major hypocrite *cough*

[bob]

^^i'll take that as a compliment!

[Magi]

I guess I just don't get out enough...in Surrey anyways.

But yeah, my point still stands. This goes for guys/girls.

If you don't want compliments :

- Don't apply any makeup/do up your hair

- Don't put on any perfume/cologne

- Wear your grubbiest clothes and shoes

problem solved :)


for added kick, try and act like a doofus.

[[edit_out]]

dude you just listed my morning procedure in point form.

[justa~gurl]

i don't know what to do whenever i get compliments

i don't get them too often.. but when i do i'm just like.. "oh... uh. ...thanks"

or sometimes i say stupid things i can't remember what stupid things i say but i know they're stupid... or i'll just give a funny look which later i regret..

[yoko*]

hey but magi we're not just talking about physical materialistic compliments heh?

[Magi]

Originally posted by yoko*
hey but magi we're not just talking about physical materialistic compliments heh?

Would you approach a bum on the street who was playing his guitar for spare change and compliment his playing skills?


Thing is, if you don't make yourself approachable, then noone will approach you. Sure, everyone has nice qualities inside them, but for most people it's hard to see that unless they see a nice exterior first.

[Magi]

Originally posted by [edit_out]
dude you just listed my morning procedure in point form.

LOL

Even the doofus part? :p

Atleast you don't have to worry about people giving you compliments. Hell, I don't think anyone would wanna approach you.

[yoko*]

okay you're going way beyond what I was trying to say. I'm not trying to get all philosophical here, i'm just saying that not only can compliments be about PHYSICAL apperance, they can also be about some one's work ethic, personality, drive, passion.. etc...

I'm not talking about no bum on the street

and YES, i have complimented a person on the street who was selling their artwork for some spare change. Also, a guitarist who oftne played @ granville station, I also bought her cd. I have also bought another guy's cd caled "SLO". He had a beautiful voice. And yes, I have had two guys shake their dicks at me. Two consecutive friday night heading toward columbia. refer to the punching bag section...

[Magi]

Originally posted by yoko*
okay you're going way beyond what I was trying to say. I'm not trying to get all philosophical here, i'm just saying that not only can compliments be about PHYSICAL apperance, they can also be about some one's work ethic, personality, drive, passion.. etc...

I'm not talking about no bum on the street

My example was just a general one I came up with at the spur of the moment.

Yes, you CAN compliment someone on something other than their physical appearance, I did not say otherwise.

My point is that when someone doesn't appear "approachable" or "friendly" the average person would be less inclined to compliment them on whatever outstanding qualities they have, physical or other.

and YES, i have complimented a person on the street who was selling their artwork for some spare change. Also, a guitarist who oftne played @ granville station, I also bought her cd. I have also bought another guy's cd caled "SLO". He had a beautiful voice. And yes, I have had two guys shake their dicks at me. Two consecutive friday night heading toward columbia. refer to the punching bag section...

Yoko, I should have rephrased my original post.

IN GENERAL, a person who is less approachable would be less likely to receive a compliment from a person, save a few who are kind/brave enough to do so.

Also, selling CD's? Doesn't sound like a bum to me. When I say bum, I mean like, holes in pants-missing shoe-dirty face-found my guitar in a dumpster-bum.

Guess I should have clarified that too, didn't know that there were "tiers" of bum existence.

Also...I'm trying hard not to sound philisophical or anything, I just have great difficulty expressing myself clearly without having to use some big words sometimes.


On another note, this is the first intelligent discussion I've had on these forums without it degenerating into randomness ^_^ nice to know there are some people here willing to talk.

[[edit_out]]

holy shit. a literate and non-biased reply that actually addresses the issues to which it is responding. a rare thing.

[yoko*]

Originally posted by Magi


My example was just a general one I came up with at the spur of the moment.

Yes, you CAN compliment someone on something other than their physical appearance, I did not say otherwise.

My point is that when someone doesn't appear "approachable" or "friendly" the average person would be less inclined to compliment them on whatever outstanding qualities they have, physical or other.



Yoko, I should have rephrased my original post.

IN GENERAL, a person who is less approachable would be less likely to receive a compliment from a person, save a few who are kind/brave enough to do so.

Also, selling CD's? Doesn't sound like a bum to me. When I say bum, I mean like, holes in pants-missing shoe-dirty face-found my guitar in a dumpster-bum.

Guess I should have clarified that too, didn't know that there were "tiers" of bum existence.

Also...I'm trying hard not to sound philisophical or anything, I just have great difficulty expressing myself clearly without having to use some big words sometimes.


On another note, this is the first intelligent discussion I've had on these forums without it degenerating into randomness ^_^ nice to know there are some people here willing to talk.

What exactly was the long reply meant to accomplish? Anyways, I think it's fair to classify people on the street who sing for money in the same category as other differently dressed ppl with holes in their socks, who've "magically found guitars in a trash cans." They do the same job pretty much, and i don't see either class dressed up in designer gear. Besides, I compliment their MUSIC or VOICE not their appearance, cause when you're walking downtown minding your own business all you hear is their voice and it's not their clothes you listen to. (if that at all is possible)

anyways, i'm gonna stay away from a long reply for a topic that I don't really think requires one. I'd rather use my brains on something else, like picking at my nails or something.

/me goes back to braindead mode

heh i'd have to disagree with you about the intelligent conversaiton bit. i'm sorry but i personally don't think that the nature of this topic can lead to an intelligent conversation... oh well.

[Magi]

*sigh* well... I tried.

I guess then I shud like talk like everyone else then so people will like talk !

~!~

What exactly was the long reply meant to accomplish?

Did you even read it?

Besides, I compliment their MUSIC or VOICE not their appearance

YOU MISSED MY POINT ENTIRELY

You would be MORE INCLINED to APPROACH a person who was singing in the street and give them a compliment if they were wearing clean clothes rather than if they look like some bullshit son of a bitch homocidal fucktard. The singing is irrelevant.

I did not say people CAN'T compliment them on their musical talent or voice, nor did I imply that you couldn't either.

If they did look like some bullshit son of a bitch homocidal fucktard, but they had a beautiful singing voice, would you still walk up to them and say "yo you're voice kicks ass!"?

From what I've observed, people tend to avoid bums. I worked outside, right in front of the harbor centre for a year selling hotdogs from a cart(wat wat!) and I did not see a single person playing a instrument for donations recieve a compliment. Rather, people just dropped their money off and left. Believe me, I've seen them all. Some guy even brought out his flute and powered it up with his amp so the whole street could hear it.

Maybe I just didn't look hard enough?

i'm sorry but i personally don't think that the nature of this topic can lead to an intelligent conversation

You can if you try.

Final words, meant to address thread as a whole and not a person in particular.

- If you don't want to get noticed then don't. Don't fish for attention and then biatch about it.

- If you can't walk the walk don't talk the talk. I tried expressing this in a more clear, non-flaming manner, but I'm afraid some of you may not understand, or may get offended. Trying to express your point, and then falling back to the "you're getting too complicated" excuse when you can't articulate your argument well...

- Myself as well as millions of other people out there will continue to dish out complements when we see fit, whether you like it or not. You have to realize that compliments = good tidings and you're gonna have to learn to deal with them.

Any responses to this that you want me to see will have to be pm'd to me, because I'm done looking in this thread. Sorry to sound like an asshole, but HEY! there's tons of you out there so I fit right in! Just look at [edit_out]!




peace out.

EDIT: Added some tidbits.

PS. I will probably read and ignore any pm's sent to me about this.

[bob]

Originally posted by Magi
You would be MORE INCLINED to APPROACH a person who was singing in the street and give them a compliment if they were wearing clean clothes rather than if they look like some bullshit son of a bitch homocidal fucktard. The singing is irrelevant.

here's the problem with your 'point'... you're trying to argue a 'fact' you derrived out of an assumption. when you say "YOU would...", you're basing your opinion solely on what you observe, and what you'd probably do in the same situation (you probably think you're normal and everyone else would do the same as you, and thus you think you've validated your 'fact').

i don't have the time or energy to argue with you. but you're an idiot. the singing is relevant.

[yoko*]

^!!!

magi, I am not you, and i'm not a product of your stereotype that you put on every one else. To me, there's a difference between a pan-handler and some one's who's actually making an effort. Yeah I don't compliment people sitting on their asses with their hand out cause they're not doinganything special, but those who are at least making the effort to perform is a different situation, REGARDLESS of the clothes they wear. And obviously your amp. equipped bum, is not so much of a bum either if he can afford an amp. I'm sorry that when some one's singing whole heartedly you perhaps or the majority are listening wth their EYES and not their ears, i pity them. Nice to know that working at a hot dog stand must have made you such a bum expert heh? Something to be proud of, congrats.

I am not you, thank goodness though cause I'd rather waste my thinking energy on something that matters, rather than to nit-pick some one's post that really isn't arguing anything except for my original point that: COMPLIMENTS CAN BE MORE THAN JUST PHYSICAL. I don't require a long essay response to know that that's true. I hope you don't require an essay for that one too cause I simply don't care to.

PHYSICAL COMPLIMENT: YOU LOOK GOOD TODAY
NON-PHYSICAL COMPLIMENT: YOU ARE A HARD-WORKER

And wow, this can apply to "bum"s too!

PHYSICAL COMPLIMENT: YOU HAVE NICE.... DREADLOCKS
NON-PHSYICAL COMPLIMENT: YOU HAVE A NICE VOICE

As for intelligent conversation, i think it sounds more like you're trying to make an intelligent conversation out of a stupid one that really has no substance. You're nit picking stupid shit, imho.

[Magi]

i don't have the time or energy to argue with you

I'm sure your arguments would be poorly executed anyways...

You're nit picking stupid shit, imho.

Aside from the spelling error, you're spot on. You can go back to biting your nails now or whatever it is you do.

Just getting my last shots in. :smoke1:

Alright guys...sorry for making that post and sounding like an asshole. It's obvious we'll never see eye to eye, so sorry for ruffling feathers. You are completely right in that this topic is shit and is not worth a discussion, and I wasted a lot of time and energy making those stupid posts.

[tufflove]

WOAH YESTERDAY NIGHT I WAS ON THE SKYTRAIN , JUST SITIN' THERE AND sum guy popped in his head thru the door and he was like "your pretty" and then his friend was like "i second that" then dissapeared i was like "aww thanx"
and turned all red , but it sooooooo made my night, i was smiling all the way home.
i like complements like that

[.muffy.]

I think that compliments are fine as long as their not the sleezy type.

I had a guy come up to me at work and ask for a "glass of water from my beautiful hands" once. It made me totally uncomfortable and now whenever he comes in (which is like every night) he leers at me and grosses me out.

When it's meant in a sincere "nice" way tho ( ie: "you have a nice smile" or whatever), I dont get offended at all...in fact it kinda makes my day a little.

Compliments from strangers always give you a bit of an ego boost.

[bebu*funfun]

compliments make my dimple flare..... i hafta say its just recently that ive been getting more and more.. being nice really helps. ill never "get used" to compliments..its always soemthing nice to hear. but when it gets creepy and its constant hitting on... its not cool... i hate creepy guys.

[yoko*]

Originally posted by Magi


I'm sure your arguments would be poorly executed anyways...



Aside from the spelling error, you're spot on. You can go back to biting your nails now or whatever it is you do.

Just getting my last shots in. :smoke1:

Alright guys...sorry for making that post and sounding like an asshole. It's obvious we'll never see eye to eye, so sorry for ruffling feathers. You are completely right in that this topic is shit and is not worth a discussion, and I wasted a lot of time and energy making those stupid posts.

I thought you were going to shuttup, but I guess you're just one of those kids who always likes to be right, just as I thought.

oh a grammar attack heh? OH MY GOD LIKE YOU WIN!!! LIKE CONGRATULATIONS YOU'RE AN F&K STAR!

lame.

[Magi]

ffs drop the gloves yoko, you win.

I am a fucking fnK star and don't you forget it.

[yoko*]

I'm only curious to know what you edited..

heh.