compliments

[Kelster]

i hate getting compliments or sweet talk....it makes me uncomfortable and i feel like i'm expected to say something sweet back
it's not that i don't mean what i say back, but it's just cheesy as hell
sometimes i just say thank you, but then there's this akward silence where we're just smiling and it's creepy and cheesy at the same time (when maybe he's expecting me to compliment him)

like once in awhile, randomly isn't too bad but when someones totally serious spewing that crap out to me...it makes me want to cry

i know it's not, but i just feel rude when i just say thank you
like do i even need to thank someone for a compliment?
if it gets out of control, how do i tell someone to stop?
how do i get used to it?

[specialkonrd]

its an aquired taste, much like beer

[mugsy]

when a real compliment is made i dont think you should feel you have to thank the person.. but i have felt that way before too.
if it gets outta control and youre not comfertable of course tell them to stop, if you dont ya'll will get hurt\messed up in the end.
and like i said before - a real compliment isnt something you should get used to. you should already be used to it - i find the people that im close to either male or female\intimate or friendship i can take the compliments from. its takes awhile cause i think its about believeing the compliment.

[Kandyapple]

I feel that way all the time. I just never know what to say. it makes me feel very awkward at times. I think the only time i ever realy feel comfortable it is cheezy cuz then i usualy tease the person for being such a sap. but if its more than that but not realy a comfortable moment when you feel like you realy dont have to say anything but take it in you just feel like you have to reaturn the gesture and it gets uncomfortable. I say thank you all the time now but it still feels strange.

[Jingles]

I was at the mall yesterday on the escalator and a man came up beside me and said he just had to tell me how beatiful i am - I said thanks - and things should have been left at that...but then he wanted to know where i live...yeah, right.

compliments are fine, but I am suspicious of strangers with mal intent - Sometimes when I'm at the bar I'll go up to a gal and tell her how pretty she she is nad just wander away - I honestly want them to know, but I don't want to make anyone uncomfy

[miss.myra]

It's natural to be flattered. Too little or too much of a reaction is unnecessary and rude. I also cannot stand people whose first reaction to any compliment is to automatically say something that is just further fishing for compliments (everyone is guilty of this, myself included)...like "oh wow I like your shirt!" "IT MAKES ME LOOK FAT@#%@" etc. :sick:

The best thing to do, wether or not you agree with what the person is saying is "thank you" and move right on.

M

[tufflove]

haha i hate complements .....but sometimes random polite ones frum strangers are nice.
kelly if u dont know whut to say thank-you is always a good thing

[Filo]

i find that's a problem with a lot of people these days. they get all weirded out by a compliment.

[SomeGuy]

I agree, compliments can make you feel real awkward especially if you don't have a compliment for the other person..

[agent.starling]

im pretty sure that i just tease them about something afterwards to relieve the akwardness that sometimes can linger. werks quite well i must say.

[tufflove]

Originally posted by Filo:
i find that's a problem with a lot of people these days. they get all weirded out by a compliment.

yea fo' sho'
some people think "oh my god he said he likes my hair ewwwww he wants to sleep with me, im telling everyone"
when clearly u just like there hair!

[Kelster]

i'm fine with physical compliments bout my hair, clothes or style or whatever

but like compliments bout my physical appearance or their feelings towards me makes me uncomfortable...maybe it has something to do with self esteem

but sometimes people don't mean what they tell you, they're being sarcastic because you're the exact opposite
a lot of my immature friends do that kinda stuff to strangers...it's kinda funny, but really mean

[~lazee_grrl~]

^..i kinda understand what you mean..i know my self esteem isn't that great so when i get compliments..i get paranoid and sense a hint of sarcasm..so that's why i hate getting them..

[Chi Chi]

Compliments make me defensive, I dunno why but I either think thier jus tryin to get in my pants or makin fun of me. So in responce to most compliments I just go "PSHT, if you say so."

[Moon]

sometimes i really dont know what to say when someone gives me props other than thanks =p most of the time it becomes an awkward situation when someone gets really intense when theyre complimenting you.... haha i find a simple 5, pat on the back or hug makes things less awkward.... cuz then you dont have to come up with something fancy to say since most of the time when you try, you end up saying something really stupid and cheezy =p

[tufflove]

yea high 5's are good!

[Jingles]

Imagines self doing this at the club.....'You're pretty - now HIGH FIVE!!'

why are you looking at me like i'm crazy?? althoughdrunk folk may go for it

[Kelster]

hahah i'll try that the next time someone gives me a compliment in bed

oh man...that'd be too funny

[Moon]

hahaha alrite not the same thing i guess then

so if someone calls you pretty then you feel uncomfortable? haha girls who get all annoyed about it are prolly either insecure or just not too fond of the idea that an ugly motherfucker is trying to pick em up.

but hey if you're complimented that you're beautiful i see it as more of a reason to feel more comfortable about yurself and put those good looks to good use hey hey?

high 5!

[yoko*]

i'm especially insecure about compliments when I don't feel as good about myself or what I've done/created as much as they do. When you don't believe in your own potential it's easy to think that soe one is just complimenting you to insult you, like lazygirl said up above...

Nowadays I just shrug it off with a "thankyou" or just GLARE at them if it's an old creepy man... or creepy men in general.

[Moon]

^ from the pics i've seen of you so far i cant really see any reason why you'd be insecure about how you look =)

[[edit_out]]

i love compliments. people are all like 'Damn boy, you are teh fucking shit!' and I'm all like 'You damn straight *****!', and then I roll down to the club on my 20s and hit some women up.

[Magi]

There are tons of girls out there who are dying to get as much attention as some of you girls supposedly get.

I was under the impression that girls get angry when you DON'T notice them...think about if you were walking down a street full of guys, and noone noticed you at all. Would you like that better?

If you don't want compliments, why not dress as fugly as possible. That should stop those compliments from coming.

[yoko*]

^attention is not always POSITIVE attention, it can also be negative. I personally don't find a guy shaking their dick at you in the skytrain a flattering thing, nor do I find it flattering when a drunken fat dirty greasy old man starts harassing you on the bus.

[Magi]

Obviously, I don't mean every kind of attention. I in no way implied that in my post. Some of you complain over the littlest things though...

find a guy shaking their dick at you in the skytrain a flattering thing, nor do I find it flattering when a drunken fat dirty greasy old man starts harassing you on the bus

Those are extreme cases. I doubt that's happened to you more than once, if it's happened at all.

Besides, some girls are just asking for it (not to imply that you specifically are of course).