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Jul 26, 01
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since most ppl have a diff opinion....what do u think?
what do u guys think about people goin out with best friends. Like what I mean is, one of your best friends went out with one of your friends. And your friend dumped, your best friend. And things werent kewl between them, and disliked your best friend. But then your best friend likes their ex's best friend but cant do any about it because of the so-called stupid rule that people have for dating... But their friendship is really good between them but unorder for your friend to get some where with that person they say, that they are only ones that can make the move and not them.
Right now my friend Nicole and I are argueing about how this works. Personally I dont think it would happen becuz of the stupid rules and how the best friend went out with the first person then wants to go out with their ex's best freind, because thier ex's might conviece them not to go out with them. I think the only possible way it would work is if their ex's best friend made a move or something to show that they liked them and talked with their best friend about it. But right now I have no idea what to think but that sounds really complicated.... hmmm... just happy its not actauly going on, or that would be crazy! luv jovi 89112991 
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Jul 27, 01
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haha..jovi..that sounds so confusing...hmm..can i put letters into this??..so i'm there's friend A and their best friend is B..and the ex bf is C...so C and A wanna hooky up rite??..i think its possible if B is totally over the guy and doesn't care at all...but usually..that is not the case...that unspoken rule of no goin out with ur best friends ex is well known...i dunno..A could be a bitch and do it behind B's back but then again..i think B would find out sooner or later nad then A and B wouldn;t be best buds no more..ahhh..too confusing...but if it were to work..B would have to be ok with it..~:Lazee:
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Jul 27, 01
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thats pretty much what i was thinkin jen, but it would be hard if B to deal with it if he/she dont want them together. But if A and C really like each other then whats to happen? does C ditch their friend for a relationship and ditch the relationship for a friend or try and convience B that he/she wants this or what? totaly confussing if u think about it!?arg... my heads hurting *literally*
im done for now -Jovi
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Jul 27, 01
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hmmm..if B doesn't want them to go out...then the friend has gotta decide whether this guy is worth their friendship...cuz it would for sure jeopardize the friendship...damn..i hate stuff like this..A could also not do nehting until for sure B was totally over C and totally ok with them goin out...but that would mean that C would hafta wait..i dunno..but B mite never come around cuz sum feelings never die rite?..or if B sees how much their friend really wants to go out with C...then maybe they'll put their friends' happiness infront of their own..??..but i dunno..there mite be bitterness behind each smile?.. aiys...its complicated...i hate situations like this..~
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Jul 29, 01
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well if B's gonna be difficult they should all atleast talk something out... cuz if the feeling were to never die and they were never to know what were to be mad of this.. and if somethinf special were to happen between them but didnt them that could be mad cuz the person may never go for ne one else and wait or something cuz u know how psthetic some ppl can be... arg.. so confuzzling... but if B and A were to become friends again or somethng then perhaps they could work something out...!?or maybe B would set them up his/her self??
-Jovi 89112991
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Jul 30, 01
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if B is selfless..and willing to put their friends feelings infront of their own..then the relationship of A and C could work...yet A would have to be sensitive towards B cuz B would still be sorta sulking..yet happy for their friend..and at the same time..maybe jealous...i dunno..this prob sucks...but no matter wut happens..i just hope A and B stay friends and don't let C get between them...
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Jul 30, 01
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if they just talk it out and came to a good and equal understanding all would be goo as long as B doesnt do ne thing stupid and could be nice it would all be good. but A would have to understand their friendship. but lets just hope they dont fight over spending time with the boy/gurl...
luv jovi 89112991
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Oct 11, 01
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sounds all too familiar..
my friend ***** used to be going out with this girl ******* and that was like a long time ago right and they had been broken up for a long time but he still had trouble letting go of her and shit even though it was obviously over....but then this girl confessed her feelings for me and i was sorta into her and stuff and somehow i got talked into going to a drive in with her and stuff and we kissed and i continued to see her and it turned out that it was becoming serious...so i was forced to break it to ***** but i didn't tell him that i had already been seeing her and i jus brought it up to him and told him we liked eachother and he said go for it despite still having feelings for her which at the time i didn't know...so then later on like the first time he ever saw us together at a friends house he was drinkin and he made a scene and shit and it was all awkward for a bit and we didn't talk much but then we did and he's cool with it now....so i guess really it jus depends on how u go about it.....but get permission first...don't sneak around....cuz if u get busted then ur in trouble....cuz thas not cool and such...*oops*... if theyre cool then theyll say its cool.. but its a sticky game.... corrie
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Oct 13, 01
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actually in retrospect on that post...
if they say its cool watchout!!it might not be cool..hehe.... i agree with u too galaxie...but i let myself get in too deep...and i had gone out with her previously a couple of years ago....she confessed feelings and like the good manipulator a woman can be i allowed myself to be sucked in by her womanly ways and i was trapped..... i swear! corrie
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Oct 13, 01
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It's no big deal. I personally have been one of the peoples in that confusing triangle thing. Thing is it's not that complicated. I went out with this guy named *Joe* a while back anyway things were great it was a happy little relationship because all my friends were dating eachother and me and *joe* were friends and so on. Anyway one at a time our friends all started splitting up. Everyone was single before me and *joe* broke it off. Once we did however, one of *joes* best friends, *dave*, and i decided we had the hots for eachother. At this time everyone was still trying to hang around as a group and *dave's* ex gf, *cindy* was still clinging on to him. *Joe* on the other hand couldn't give a fuck if me and *dave* ever hooked up, matter of fact the only one that cared was *cindy*. Now i wouldn't have ever called me and *cindy* friends but the mutual respect was there. I understood that she still liked *dave* a hellovalot and *dave understood that too. The thing is we had both moved on from our previous relationships and had decided to go for it anyway. *Cindy* pretty much didn't talk to me until she herself did the exact same thing with another one of my friend's ex bf's, *andy*.
Anyway what the point of this little tale was that it's not a big fucking deal. If a couple breaks up they break up. Which means they are both single and both are entitled to a relationship even if a friend objects. The ex will get over it in time. But until he/she is fine with it the couple that got together should have enough curtosy and respect for that person that they don't rub it in their face. IN other words keep the PDAs to a minimum.
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Nov 02, 01
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eep... jovi.. I think I lost you about half way through that.
if its an issue of which friend you side with, I say don't take sides at all. I have a feeling it isn't that though, cause the right thing to do in a situation like that is painfully obvious.
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Nov 03, 01
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J'nette..err...Jovi...Whatever! 89112991
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