Giving yourself a swift kick in the ass

[ƒORM]

Ever get the sense that you can do better? :262:

I think one of the hardest tasks is life is keeping yourself in line and making the necessary changes to better yourself. When you're growing up you always have these envisions of the type of person you'd like to be and the type of person you long to be. At seasonal events and family gatherings the family is always asking you what you want to be when you grow up. Most of us have something to say. Year in year out that vision might change but as long as it's a respected career the family approves. I look back at all the goals I had and I can honestly say I’ve accomplished a fair amount of them. Some of them I never expected but I realize that they have become a part of me for a reason. It all becomes a giant recipe of good and bad ingredients. The problem I face now is looking in the mirror and knowing I can do better. It's no easy task changing yourself when you've developed a routine or cycle. The hardest part is letting go of the lazy attitude and bad habits. At this point in my life I’m at that stage. I'm grateful for what I have and also content with what I’ve accomplished, however, I know that I can make the knife much sharper. So how does one do it? It's hard to say. The main issue is waking up everyday and keeping that vision strong, never letting anything get in the way between you and your dreams. With so many distractions these days I think this will be the hardest thing I’ve ever attempted to do and I see it as a complete challenge. I've pretty much got the gloves on it's just a matter of when I'm ready to step into the ring. The first step to self-improvement is isolating the flaws in ones character. If you smoke and aren't happy about your energy levels then you must convince yourself you don't need it. If you're always indoors and lack social skills then you must find ways to keep yourself active and outgoing. If you look in the mirror and feel as if your not in the best shape then you must engage in activities that will make you look and feel better. For every glitch there is a patch. The hard part is applying the patch so it doesn't fall off.
I'm ready to take on this challenge....
I just have to get my ass in the ring....

[bob]

apparently i take pictures of my ass rather than kick it...

i'm pretty proud of myself... i think i'm doing ok... considering my grade 7 teacher didn't think i'd make it past grade 8... i saw him a few months ago, i was with a girl, and i was lookin' pretty smooth at the time... i just laughed in his face, it was a great feeling...

i think i can go further though... i have other areas i need to improve on... i'm working on it though, and effort is all that matters to me rite now...

[kiMMie]

I know how you feel Lex... We had a long talk about this yesterday, didn't we? I'm glad we did, cuz I found out that I wasn't alone in feeling this way. I've been feeling this for a LONG time now. Just wasn't able to say it out loud to anybody else.

I know what you mean by looking in the mirror and not liking it. I wake up every morning and look at my reflection...and question "Who are you?"

I think it comes it stages...when you're a kid, you want to be a better teenager. When you've accomplished that, you want to be a better adult. And now that we've reach adulthood and somewhat achieved what we hoped for at this age...we're looking further into our future. I'm also happy with what I've achieved so far in my life. But I also feel I can be someone better...and with this knowledge and motivation I will strive myself to do and see better....hopefully :)

So Lex, I'm lacing up my gloves, and I'll meet ya in that ring. *Ding Ding...Round One* :105:

[T U F F Y]

I...now is in the ring fighting my way through.
Academic wised and career wised.

Changes and opportunities are always there, it just the matter if you wanting to take on it or not.
Distractions are only illusions, no matter what, trust your senses & make it happen.

-Human only aim for progress in life that's the world will never stop spinning.




Sorry, I'm pretty down today. It just hits me.

[yoko*]

yeah.. man that post totally applies to me,
I realized a lot this summer about myself, my priorities and what I need to do now... I kind of became blinded to reality by outside influences whether it be, friends, family, school, partying, drugs... But they're not to blame, cuz I let it influence me....

What's hard for me is to try to remain grounded.. Try to be myself when I'm not even so sure who I am, and all these people are telling me who I am.. It's hard not to listen, because you almsot crave being defined by some one else... when you're lost...

There are so many things about myself that I'm so unhappy about... but like many people have said, rather than complaining and sinking in a pool of self-pity why not take charge?... So I have...

I'm really conscious about the "not in best shape.." part... I know I could look better and feel more confident about myself if I took action and "engaged in activities that will make me look and feel better.".. so I have... I've been real conscious bout food n wut not... careful not to bee too obsessive and starve myself or anything.... I don't want to cross borderline again like I did in grade 8 and starve myself.. I barely ate anything for a couple months till i realized what I was doing to myself.....

Maybe I'm still letting "outside influences" get to me... but in a way I think that it isn't so much about the outside influences but myself.. Like you guys have said, every day I look in the mirror and can't stand to look at myself and really be satisfied... I can't be happy with myself like this and it affects a large portion of my life... I've been doing things differently for these past 2 weeks and already I feel much happier.. just at the fact that I've been able to keep a promise to myself for longer than a couple of days... and I'm sticking by it...

wow sorrie. this was kinda boring fer y'all...

[Serotonin]

And i ended up in Calgary

[yoko*]

musta kicked purdy hard ;)

[~lazee_grrl~]

i hate looking in the mirror...all this talk about mirrors reminds me of the song reflections from mulan...its always so hard to know who we are cuz we probably never get to know...

lately..i've been trying to get myself back together..getting closer with friends..holding onto them cuz i don't wanna lose them...and then family..trying to keep the trust and standards they have in me..with skool...actually trying in skool...don't wanna screw that part up again...and me..just trying to be happy..and doin wut i wanna do...or trying to figure it out at least...

i keep telling myself..ur still not screwed yet..u have so much more longer to go..and i know its true..but at times..i just wanna give up and give in to whoever or wutever...its easier that way..but then giving up just leads u to the bigger downfall and getting back up would be harder then before..ahhh...hopefully in time..stuff will figure itself out...

as i try to improve on myself...i see more and more flaws...but of course..nuthing/no one is perfect...u just gotta learn to accept sum of the flaws..which is hard to do...~

[yoko*]

jen.. girl i'm glad we're at the "same point" in our short lil lives.. i'm at the same place as you.. wanted to piece things back together.. and we both have our different ways of coping..

remember our lil quote from long ago?
"we're in it together"

haha. ethereal memories...

i hope we get there.. and remember, its still not too late...

i'm real emotional cuz of the caffeine overload.. sorrie.

[BB_YungYung]

I'm really lazy person.. but I am also the type of person that is positive to everyone elses out lookings that I'm to a point negative about myself. I tried getting a job, and handed out 50 resumes and only got 2 interviews. That really brought my spirits down that no one would hire me cause I have no experiences. But the truth that store owners or managers don't see that everyone has to start some where... don't they?

I really need to give myself a swift kick in the ass.. but I would also like to kick some other peoples asses TOO!

but If I kicked myself .. I think it would hurt too much.

ahh.. :BB: bb blabering

[dragon boi]

here BB :355:
kick away go for the feild goal 2 points!!!

yeah i feel like that all the time now cause my job is screwing me over and im not making that much cash ne more im trying to look 4 a new one but know one seems to be hiring y????
y arnt they hiring????
ne one know where i can get a new job????

[Jess_C]

Lex, this totally applies to me as well! Glad to see I'm not the only one in this state! There's so much I accomplished early on in life. Athletics, played on Team Saskatchewan for years (field hockey), went to Nationals, played in Canada Games, got a scholarship (but declined due to too many injuries). My family saw that as a major success and when I didn't take the scholarship because I felt I went as far as I wanted to go, they took the news bad! Family occasions I am always asked what I want to do...and my problem is my mind changes SO quickly with what I want in life...that it's never the same answer. So many of my goals in life have already been achieved...so that makes me feel good. But now I'm going to school to be a primary teacher, and yet I still feel like I should be doing something else too. There's always ideas in my head, and some I persure while others are a dream. Even though most dreams I can make a reality, I'd rather not at the same time. I just feel so confused..and would love to just KNOW exactly what I want or where I want to go...but that's a part of life...figuring it out and learning through your mistakes. I've had tons of jobs, but again, my mind changes, and I leave. Now, I don't know where I'd like to work!?! Now that I live on my own, it's harder to stay in line...focus on school...you've seen me out at the bar! I want to be all, and do all, and at the same time...I ask myself WHY? I'll do anything to help someone else out, but when it comes to myself, I will get side tracked and put it off. But I'm ready to get down to it, focus, and become that wicked kindergarten teacher! :Kimmie: It's just a matter of getting my ass in gear and going to class regularily. Don't get me wrong, I get wicked grades, even if I'm not always there, however I can't get through life forever that way...and one day Karma will bite me in the ass and I'll learn the hard way. But each day I wake up and get myself more and more into the boxing ring...and hopefully when all rounds are won...I can hang up my gloves, sit back and say, "I did it!"

[Sean]

A quote from my TKD master:

"Excellence is the result of caring more than others think is wise, risking more than others think is safe, dreaming more than others think is practical, and achieving more than others think is possible."

Actually this is really funny, I'm listening to some random song right now and the lyrics are "If you believe in yourself you'll make it". Fairly basic, but the right idea.

If you want to really change, then you have to be goal oriented. You have to set out goals, no matter how far off they are, and then set out a plan to reach those goals. Easier said than done. As Portia said, "I can easier instruct 20 on what is good to do, than be one of the 20 to follow my own instruction" (Something like that anyways).

You're not alone, far from it. I don't know a single person that is absolutely, 100% happy with their current life and would not want to do better. I certainly can improve on many aspects of my life, and I intend to do so. I don't think I'd want it any other way, imagine how boring life would be if you had absolutely EVERYTHING you wanted, and never had to work for anything. The trials and tribulations is what makes the end product that much more satisfying.

Anyways, set your goals, and follow the path to achieving those goals. If you start to stray ask yourself: "How badly do I want this?", and the rest is up to you. Ultimately, it all comes down to yourself.

Best of luck to you =)

[kiMMie]

Goal orientation + Self motivation = Positive life progression
(easier said than done sometimes) :284:

[D]

Hope things are goin' a bit better for you now Lex...

p-e-a-c-e-!