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Aug 27, 03
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Sorry to hear about your situation. It totally sux. My words of advice: Stop crying, suck it up, forget the loser (REALLY!). What kind of person stays with you for 6 months, and just runs out you just like that? Regardless if he's your boyfriend... but you called him your "best" friend. That's not much of a best friend, right?
I know it's hard cuz he was your first "everything", but relationships is how you learn about your needs and feelings. You don't need to feel like this... abandoned. Honestly, I think you should try to salvage things between your mom... cuz she's your MOM :kimmie: 
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Aug 27, 03
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do you know what your right i don't know that much about relationships that's cause i haven't had really any "serious" ones like this. and i have stoped crying and i am over him and i am trying to put him out of my life and i have been thinking about the friends thing and i'm not so sure about that.
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Aug 27, 03
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i know what you're saying about when someone that was a part of your life leaves and you wish that they were still around. BUT the BIG but is that you have to -try- to this about the time that you two spent together as a positive, rather than focusing on the negative. he was important to you, and brought you joy for six months right? ignore all that bad stuff, and focus on how he made you happy. and that there WILL BE someone that can compare to that, and someone will keep that a continuous feeling for you.
maybe it didnt work out in your favor, and maybe you both were looking for different outcomes in your relationships. there are many factors that contribute to breaking a relationship. learn from your mistakes .... or his as the case may be. sounds to me that maybe you are just looking too hard for love. about your friend [the best one] she should be there for you no matter what. communication is the key to friendships, relationships, and family relationships. you have to be able to talk about your state of mind and so forth. if you can't then there are bound to be fights and words and so on. another key is confidence ... and by the sounds of it, if you're dwelling on the loss that you might be lacking some of that too. doing something that makes you feel good ... and it will clear your mind. there is nothing easy about life, but you CAN make it easier on yourself. you said that he was your first ... right? well this is your chance to feel the hurt that you are going to have to deal with in different situations through out your life time. i suggest that you reflect on the pain and learn your personal way of learning from it to make yourself a stronger person. there are rules that you have to follow when you are in ANY relationship : #1. Communicate. You should be able to say anything and everything when you're in a relationship without the fear of being judged. #2. Security. If you feel that you are on different levels with any person, check it out. No one should go through a relationship feeling like the lesser person. No one should, or can control you. #3. Personal Happiness. I told you that you need confidence, you must be genuinely happy to have confidence. this is just my advice to try and help you out. take it or leave it, but this is what i learnt when i was about your age, and the rules that i still live by. i have had my share of shitty relationships, and since i came up with these three little rules, i haven't had a boyfriend treat me bad, nor have i left a relationship that i didnt learn a great deal from. -la.
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