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Aug 24, 03
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i really need help!!!! someone talk to me plz~
me and my b/f got into a really bad fight this morning and i am totally freaking out and i need someone to talk to and this is my first fight wit him and we have been going out for almost 6 months now. and i don't want him to break up wit me!
i'm really scared and don't know what to do!!!! i don't know if i should call him when he gets home later or just leave it and call him tomorrow or something. here is what happened: today has been a pretty shitty day. my mom has been yelling me all day and so i asked Sky (my b/f) if i could comeover (not telling him y) and he said yes and then we were talking about what we were going to do and shit i had to get off msn so i told him that i would call him later he said ok. when i called him later he told me that he doesn't want me to comeover anymore cause he is going out wit his friend. and then i got mad at him and hung up on him cause he always does this kind of thing to me and i couldn't take it (my mom yelling Sky ditching me being stuck in the house almost all summer) it was just all pileing up and then i hung up on him. then i came on msn and emailed him and was bitching at him cause i didn't want him to hear me cry. and i called him to check his email and then he hung up on me. so i called him back and told him what was up then i said good bye and went to see if he was on msn. i talked to him on msn and then he left and went to kelowna not even caring that i was hurt and crying. he has been in kelowna for hours now and i've been putting up wit my moms yelling for hours and i have been really scared that i have ruined everything and that he might break up wit me. some one plz help i don't know what to do i am really freaking out!! 
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Aug 24, 03
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the best thing to do is talk to him.
it doesn't sound like he is really putting a lot of effort into your relationship to make it work. he doesn't sound like he wants to be in a relationship and ditches you all the time to hang out with his friends. i don't want to put him down but it really looks like you could find a nicer guy who cares a lot about you. but just talk to him honestly and tell him how you feel. do what is good for you! :)
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Aug 24, 03
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awww....i dont think he will break up with you hun....if he does then he is a nob. He is just doing stupid guy stuff. (trust me i put up with alot of it.)...and he doesnt realize he is being a bit insensitive. Just wait till he calls you and talk to him about it. im sure everything will be ok. if not then i agree you could find someone alot nicer that cares about your feelings more.
;-) ~V
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Aug 24, 03
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Im sorry but your boy friend sounds like a fucking asshole. Your a dumb bitch for sticking around for treatment like that. I dont understand how females can let them selves become a mans door mat. As far as im concerened u deserve to be treated the way you are because you sound like a co dependant person and supa dupa WEAK. I know i sure as fuck wouldnt stand for that kinda treatment...if my man ever fucked off when i was in need of tenderness, YOUR GOD DAMNED SKIPPY ID TELL HIS SORRY ASS TO SKATE!!!!
But im sorry to be agist here but you are only 16, I seriously suggest getting rid of the fucking loser because guys like him are going to make u jaded and bitter when your older, and you`ll fall victim to many complexes........ not to mention you wont have time to grow as a person. You cannot commit yourself to someone at such a young age when your just starting to get to know yourself.Quit depraving yourself of your youth,learn to love urself first b4 u go and try 2 play house with some fucking shmuck :)
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Aug 24, 03
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talk to him and explain u'r stresses
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Aug 25, 03
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well lastnight me and him talk and we agreed to start over and take it more slow. and today we might do something together and talk abit more about it and maybe have make up sex.........lol.jk i just hope he understands. i'm staying wit him cause i have never been happier and he is such a sweetie (except for some days like yesterday) he does everything that i want to do wit out complaining (he never lets me do what he wants to do) he likes me for who i am and he told me that he never wants me to change. this is y i am staying wit him cause i love him and want to be wit him right now.
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Aug 25, 03
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I TOTALLY agree with sidewayz luv on this one...
I know we have all heard this like a million times over but communication is key in any relationship. Now don't get me wrong, it was insensative of him to do what he did however as I have said in previous threads, the one thing we all have control over is ourselves. My suggestion - when things like this pop up, stop playing the whole MSN game thing... I know you were stressed from your Mom and then he "ditched" you but that could have been avoided if you would have picked up the phone and said, "I really need your help and support right now and this is why." If the guy cares for you at all, he would be there for you. Communicating these kinds of emotions over MSN is NEVER a good idea. I know as well that you didn't want him to hear you crying but why not?!? -- Again if he trulyl cares for you, he will offer the support you need. Good luck.
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Aug 25, 03
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sure you might hang up on one another a couple times and call back that's part of the teenage love dance it can be so easy to get lost in online words - caught in the moment and without actually hearing the other person, it's hard to really realize what sort of effect you are having on one another You guys are still learning how to be with one another - still learning about love and how to work with a relationship - flub ups are bound to happen - Communication is always key - no acting sad and hoping the other party guesses what's wrong - Don't be afraid to show him all of you - even the sad parts - We all have those days, we all have those moments with our parents - I'm sure he would do his best to understand and console and if he isn't - Well , best you know that now.
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Aug 25, 03
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i actually got into a fight with my bf over something similar...his buddies got mad at him cause we were together the whole nite at pne n fucken he went to kick it with them at the beer garden i was just standing there with my friends n i got bored and finally when he came out i fipped the fuk out on him n i was screaming get the fuk away from me blah blah blah i fucken hate u..then i ran off to the bathroom cause i had to pee n he called me and i hung up on him a couple times then he was like can't we talk and i was like i don't wanna do it on the phone hung up and he came up to me and i wouldn't talk to him or look at him then finally i noticed how sad he was THEN i talked to him....i don't kno some ppl think i overeacted but i don't think i did...in the end just talk things out...he thought i was gonna break up with him over it...i wouldn't break up over something so small but i don't kno i was pretty mad and the part that made me most chocked was when i found out my friend told him that i cryed..i was like omg u fucken bitch...w/e everythings all good now thats all that counts..just talk it out...cause i care about him but i guess the reason i couldn't talk it out with him earlier was because i couldn't get over my own stubborness...
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Aug 25, 03
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well you guys can forget about this whole post cause he broke up wit me after almost 6 months and i have been crying for 8 hours straight and i really want back!:090: :386:
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Aug 25, 03
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i really want him back and there is nothing that i can do about it and my life is falling apart...
i'm losing my bestfriend i lost my bf my parents hate me i have no friends i am really stressed out i don't know what to do!
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Aug 25, 03
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^^^thats true
yeah talk to him thats best.. and remember... dont fucking panic but speak your mind.. even if its not positive if u keep it within yourself its gonna eat u up and then backfire at the worst possible moment... but obviously hes a pretty damn shitty boyfriend if he ditches u for someone else like that and goes to kelowna not giving a shit about you while ur having trouble at home.. i cant understand why u want him back so badly if hes such an asshole i say dump his ass when he comes back and about your parents... dont worry everyone has their stages when they have fights with their parents... and you will always make new friends Last edited by Partizan; Aug 25, 03 at 08:35 PM.
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Aug 25, 03
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thank you everyone for the help. and i don't know why i want him abck but it has been the best almost 6 months of my life and he was my first everything and i don't want to do that stuff wit anyone else cause i am so use to him and i am comfertable around him and i don't want to go for anyone else cause i don't want to get hurt anymore.
but it is going ok we are really good friends now and still talk and stuff and sometimes act like we are going out. but ya i think it is going to work out. it might take awhile but it will (i hope)
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Aug 25, 03
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after reading this thread, i wonder why you think you deserve any sympathy. you claim that this guy ditched you on several occasions, then left in a fit of rage to kelowna, and then AFTER you took him back, he then dumped you and NOW you're "good friends" with him? why are you wasting our time with your sob stories if you're too stupid to realize that this guy is a LOSER? someone who obviously has no regard for your emotional/psychological well being. otherwise, he would never have left for kelowna when you got into a fight (i've had worse fights than you and i'm STILL with my gf), come crawling back and then dump you on your ass. and even after all that "suffering", you still say he's your "everything" and you don't want to feel this way about anyone else. so you're telling us that at the age of 16, you know exactly what you want? come on, look where that school of thinking got you the first time. grow a brain.
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Aug 25, 03
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now watch all the little idiots who are saying "poor girl" come tell me to back off.
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Aug 26, 03
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^BUDDY I COULDNT AGREE WITH YOU MORE!!! Fuck thats almost exactly what i was getting at with mypost for fuck sakes.
sexy nat please read what I and omni have said and put some serious thought to it. :) U can think cant ya?? 
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Aug 26, 03
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i think alot of girls on here can relate to this story.. first love....
its gonna hurt and suck. your parents hating you? thats gonna hurt and suck but it will pass. its just a stage of growing up. youll realize that maybe you didnt respect them enough, maybe they will realize you deserve more respect. now um... no offense... but if a boyfriend of mine were to leave me to go be with his friends i wouldnt be pissed off enough to throw a fit. i wouldnt even get mad. and yes i have had bad days, terrible ones, but you have to come to understand and realize that so do other people, and also realize that you are not his life, he has a whole other one invloving his friends and family. rely on yourself. im sure you probably already do and you dont even notice it. coming from experience staying friends isnt always the best thing to do.. feelings linger and you can end up getting hurt even worse. the best thing to do is take some time away. dont talk to him every day, try once a week.
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Aug 26, 03
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^sorry but when i was 16 I knew alot more than she does so ya
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Aug 27, 03
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^Yes, but some of us are bubble children. :319:
I've learned more in the last 3 years than I did in my first 19 when it comes to relationships of all kinds. Honestly, I agree with omni and godessa, but only becuase I've been there. If you let this fucker treat you like shit now, you're setting yourself up to be a doormat for the rest of your life. Do yourself a favor and cut him right out of your life. You'll thank yourself. Not now, not soon, but eventually you will.
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