brand new school, feeling so out of place.

[Rayeine]

Aside from the butterflies and new faces.
Along with a new school, come the threatening stares, creepy looks, evil glances, and the cliques.
I love meeting new people, but alot of the people Id like to get to know already have a tight circle of friends.
Its so dumb. I always feel as though im intruding on their little "pow wow". I dont want to be a loner this school year, Id like to hang out with people with similar interests as me.
.....arg, this whole thig is overwhelming.
How do I make myself feel more at ease, and not worry.
I know alot of people go through the awkward phase..
I just seem to be stuck in a rut, its reminding me of elementary school.grrrr.

Any opinons or past experiances from the Fnk elders
would be most appreciated.

thanks
Charlene

[MC Hammered]

It all depends on what you want to be in life... do you want to be a leader or a follower.

There are only two choices.

To be a leader means one does has to be alone at times but you blaze your own trail.

I don't know what it is like to be a follower as I have never been one.

My advice is to be who you are. If people don't like you for that then they are not worth your time.

Don't force the issue, it's not worth it.

Just be yourself and your confidence will be noticed and people's interest will be piqued and they will come to you.

You'll just have to trust me on this one... but remember it does take some time so you can be lonely for a while.

Just be strong. :)

[cinist]

say this

everyones a looser and they're all naked i am the coolest of the cool

repeat

worked in sum movie, i think or they shot him and left his body to rot

either way just remember everyone there is feeling awkward i bet and would be happy to meet you. high school is bullshit if i could do it over again i would have even more fun skipping class and smoking pot:)

[KandyKid]

Hang in there Babe... I went through that a few times in my life, once when i moved to Van, and another time when i Moved aroudn in Van. Its a VERY unpleasant experience becuase you lose contact with some of your olf friends and have to try and make new ones.. which is sometimes a problem like you said with people already having a tite group of friends.

Its just something you have to wait out, jsut be yourself and im sure people will love ya. Dont try to act all cool around everyone jsut to try and make some friends, because those friends wont last, you have to be yourself, then if you make friends, they will last longer :y:

omg I know this feeling all to well.
I hated elementary school because I was always the "new girl" and you know the "new girl" is always a threat for some stupid reason, and we should all treat the new girl like utter shit. They would be my friend one day and alllll hate me the next. They did such mean and cruel things to me, and omg..if only I could see them now I would show them.

Anyway...I know your post isn't referring to elementary...but thats where my problem was with being new in school. Once I got to highschool everything changed...but its still so scary sometimes being new. Hang in there you will meet some wicked ppl =]

:)

[SpikeyLuke]

I didnt really fit into any cliques in highschool. I pretty much kept to myself. After i graduated life openned up. I still dont belong to any cliques, instead i just have several groups of friends and fit in just fine with each of their cliques (i guess you could say).

My advice is dont worry about if you get wierd looks or people's cliques, cause those are the same people that will come up to you after highschool at a party or whatever and kiss your ass. Instead just be laid back and out going. Get along with who you can and dont worry about those that you are unable to get along with. they'll cave in if they want to and if not whats the point of caring what they think. Dont stand out by bringing attention to yourself, stand out by being yourself. Being positive and easy going will make others notice you over time and soon they will show interest. People dont respect try hards, although try hards get noticed much easier, so dont ever feel the need to draw attention to yourself to get noticed. Once you make a few new friends im sure it will branch off until you become well known as someone people enjoy being around and having class with.

[mojo]

i say mc hammered gave the perfect advice

be confident and be yourself