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Sep 19, 03
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i don't know man. If you felt the same way then I would understand....right? Because If that mutual feeling has been there from the start after a month and a bit the girl will usualy say it.
But if you don't feel the same way then it's kind of wierd for her to start saying that. Sound like she's trying to tie you down, know what I mean. Tell her to stop if it really freaks you out. 
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Sep 19, 03
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I think it's possible to love someone pretty darn quick - but that doesn't have to mean you are 'in love' - you know what I mean? I meet people and it doesn't take long for me to love them, genuinely as a friend
So she probably really does love you, but may not nessisarily be 'in love' with you just yet. i wouldn't worry about it too much, unless she wants to end all phone conversations with 'i love you' and as long as she isn't pressuring you to say it back to her If it had only been 2 weeks I might freak - but 5...well I think that's a pretty normal on the girl timeclock - now you know where she stands -- that can be a good thing
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Sep 19, 03
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I have loved 2 people so far, one was a really close friend and that took like 2 years to realize that I loved them, but it was just as a friend. The second took only 2 months for me to realize and I was scared as shit to tell them because I thought that it wasn't normal for it to happen that fast. But I guess it just depends on the two people and how well they go together.
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Sep 20, 03
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mike, your a very prone soul that gets attatched to ppl very quickly which isn't bad, but if she is saying I LOVE YOU to you already after 5 weeks then you have to ask yourself if that is what you want? Do you like it when she says that...and better yet do you think she really means it or is just saying it? Ask her that...and you better make for damn sure that if you say it back, that you mean it.
The last thing you want is to get hurt which you may or may not have already, but I would probably pull back a bit if I was you. Last edited by Lady_Venom; Sep 20, 03 at 01:34 AM.
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Sep 20, 03
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its over.
cut and done. shes moving in 10 months anyways. so if emotions are growing this fast, its best to end it now, instead of dealing with it and being worse off in 10 months. it was nice to hear those words, but without me really feeling love back, it did freak me out sort of to much. cut and dry now. yaaaaoowww.
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Sep 20, 03
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id run away - love is scary
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Sep 20, 03
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^^ agreed run for your life
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Sep 20, 03
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no, we just met 5 weeks ago.
the thing is, we were never really together. just, kinda, together. not bf/gf, just you know, seeing each other or whatever. we spent a few nights a week together, so it was cool. but yeah. bah. 5 weeks is way to fast. i could tell, i would love her eventually, but, not this soon. bye bye lilssssssss, haha.
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Sep 20, 03
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then again there are alot of people who dont take the 'L' word as seriously as some of us might.
you can love a person in so many different ways. and some people dont know what love is. maybe shes really in 'like' with you but the words "i like you really really alot" sometimes just dont cut it. alot of people just say "i love you" to express their happiness and caring towards another person. but meh i dunno it is fast but not unpossible
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Sep 20, 03
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some fall hard and fast so you can't right that off.
the problem is if your not feeling it your self are you comfortable around her now? do you still want to be around her now? is it unfair for her to dump her heart and soul into the relationship with out your own contribution ( and it is a serious one). I've been in a similar situation where I did truely love my girl friend at the time (after a couple months). I told her that and she couldn't say the same in return... for a while. It was uncomfortable a while after but it work itself out. If you can both be honest with how your both feeling I'm sure it will work out.. as long as she's worth it that is.... Last edited by soma; Sep 20, 03 at 09:36 AM.
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Sep 20, 03
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she doesn't want a bf either. she just wants....umm. you know, someone to hang out with, but without the titles. i want to be able to see other people always, so we were not bf/gf. never were going to be. just dating or seeing each other.
bah, doesn't matter anymore. whats done is done. thanks for the advice.
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Sep 20, 03
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To be honest with all of you...there is no true definition of love. 5 weeks is not love. I'm sorry. No matter what you two have been through...it's still not love. Everybody has their own definition of it...they just have to figure out what they expect from their partner. it's easy to say...but hard to express and feel and understand. Why do you think so many people are single? Love causes drama and stress...it's just those times when you have your ups and you have your downs between the both of you and your able to battel through them no matter what..once you have that down...you'll slowly understand your partner more...and start to slowly take baby steps to building in your strength and courage to tell your partner that your in love with them. Don't rush anything...take your time and play things to you as they come.
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Sep 21, 03
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Sep 21, 03
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You may never have experienced 'love' in 5 weeks, and you may never, but for some people it is very real and very possible.
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