GirlFriend Trouble-Need Advice PLEASE!!!

[Trucker]

I dont know if I am over reacting but I am kinda grossed out and am thinking about breaking up with my GirlFriend who I have been with for over 3 years I love the girl but I just found out things that were kept from me, she says it was for my own good because she is embarassed and has changed1.she has slept with 9 guys(she's 20) 2.one of them was one of my old sleazy friends(before we knew each other)3. This is the worst a year before we met she had a minor std that she conveintly forgot to tell me about.(I never caught it) So I dont know why I am wrighting this I guess I just want an opinion on what I should do because I dont want to break up with her but I feel disgusted.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???

[MC Hammered]

Time to grow up and have a reality check.

http://www.fnk.ca/board/showthread.p...threadid=34617

[Starberry]

I would have to say...get over it. If you break up with her for this, you are too immature to be in a relationship. People make a lot of mistakes when they are younger, especially when they are younger and single... and people do change in those respects. If she has done nothing lately to aggravate you or for you to lose respect of her, I see no reason why something like this should cause you to end the relationship (on the basis that she had a wild past!).

*Jen*

[miss.myra]

..and I'm going to bet your sexual history is squeaky fucking clean?

Come on, I know plenty of my male friends who got with 9, or pretty close to 9 people before they were 20. They got high fives.

If you've been with her for over three years, then her past should be completely irrelevant to you. If you cared enough, it wouldn't take you three fucking years to get that information, perhaps you should have tried to obtain it before you got into a serious relationship with her. Same goes for the STD. She may have not told you these things, but did you ever come right out and ask her about it specifically?

[Jingles]

Originally posted by Trucker
1.she has slept with 9 guys(she's 20) 2.one of them was one of my old sleazy friends(before we knew each other

-- She's 20 and has slept w/ 9 guys
So? Does she compare you to every one of them - does she make you look at pics of her naked w/ them? Is she still sleeping with them now?
and you would break up w/ her because she slept w someone 'sleazy' before you two met? You call that love? You love her, but you are judging her like that? Does her experience make you less of a man? Or is it when you look at her you can't stop imagining her w/ other men?
And if that's the case - ask yourself why you are haivng these mental images, if you know that while she's with you she wouldn't do that.....

Hun, I just don't know about that one

[/b][/quote] 3. This is the worst a year before we met she had a minor std that she conveintly forgot to tell me about.(I never caught it) So I dont know why I am wrighting this I guess I just want an opinion on what I should do because I dont want to break up with her but I feel disgusted.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??? [/b][/quote]

So she HAD an STD, was it gone and all cleared up when the two of you got together - something like crabs - that once it is gone it doesn't come back?? Or is a reoccuring one like herpes, that she still has and you had a chance of catching - In my opinion the two are different , because in one situation she is putting you at risk and in the other it's really her private health info.

Your girlfriend of multiple years disgusts you because she has made some mistakes and now you know about them - you look at her and all you see are her mistakes - If you can't get over that, then you shouldn't be with her
otherwise you might use her mistakes as weapons against her in the future
Imagine all she saw when she looked at you was your most embarassing moments - your biggest mistakes

how hot would you be? How great would that make you feel?

[cinist]

i think there is probably some deeper problem within the relationship that is bothering you, maybe you realize that you are "comfortable" and not "in love"

big diff yet hard to tell the differance

[sungoo]

this sorta reminds me of 'chasing amy'...

[Mc*Phee]

My advice is..if you realy love this girl and want to make the relationship last no matter what... (you realy have to think hard about this cause its not somthing you can just sleep on)...then you need to talk to her about honesty. You want to beable to trust her, and right now you probably feel like you can't. These are serious things that she keept from you. Espesialy ones that could affect your health. When you have a serious realtonship with someone, you would think that harming them would be the last thing you would want to do! let alone imagine! If she doesnt understand this, or you cant get through to her, I would serioslyconsider ending the relationship. Beacase in my opnion(and yes its a cliche) Honesty is the best policy. Both people in the relationship need to have trust.And you can't have that without honesty.

[zarlon]

What Jingles, and a lot of other people said.

How can you really be 'in love' with someone if the number of people they've slept with disgusts you? I mean, fuck, nine people isn't really that much - I've heard wayyy worse numbers.

It seems trivial to me, and you should either grow up.... or get out.