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Sep 25, 03
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Direction
i dont think i have any:(
i have been thinking a lot recently about my life and what to do with it....partly cus my mom is pressuring me to go back to school ,and partly because i just dont have any direction. its kind of depressing, because i dont know where i see myself in 5 years, let alone 1 or 2. now im not lazy, i do want to do more with my life, i just havent found anything i am passionate about in life to put the effort towards. the only real thing i know id be killer at is being a dad, and fuck, im not doing that right now. all i want to do is save money and travel the world, but where does that get me when i return? right fucking back at square one. im just curious if any of the elders online here have come accross this? if so, do you have any advice on what to tell my mom so she doesnt kick my ass out by jan if im not registered, or what i should do. thanks mike 
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Sep 25, 03
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I'm in the same situation. My parents want me to go back to school since I'm there "last hope", so to speak. I don't have as much pressure as you though, but I'm just as lost.
I have no direction. It's like I'm just wandering aimlessly through life, and that makes feel absolutely worthless. And that, is a shitty feeling. I have no clue what I want, where I want to be, or anything. I envy those who have some idea. :(
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Sep 25, 03
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i was in like the same position but now i decided what i wanna study i just gotta accomplish one of the prerequisites and get a student loan then i am set. Im not too sure tho when I want to start cuz I wanna work for a little bit first and save up some cash and go to Calgary for a bit AGAIN, so yah im semi lost haha :toasted:
Maybe instead of being a dad... you could go get ur early childhood education certificate and work in a daycare or something?? Or do what Im doin and go get ur community support worker certificate(which can be put towards a BA) and help troubled teens or what have you. Have you given any thought to going to an employment centre and getting an evaluation done on you to see what career would best suit you? Good luck!:)
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Sep 25, 03
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To regurgitate something i've read. 'travelling is the fool's paradox'. Young people most often travel these days to find things about themselves that were always pretty obvious, it's really a distraction indicative of a mind that is wandering in an unhealthy way.
There is nothing wrong with going places and seeing the world, imho, it just seems silly for people to do that to try to find themselves ('man, i learned so much about myself getting drunk with other canadian backpackers in a foreign place!':P) It's fairly normal to go through periods like this. If we didn't come to these points, how would we ever know that things had to change? Don't do anything because you should just be 'doing something', do it because you want to do it. Trust yourself, because you don't know what you want to do now, it doesn't mean this will never come to you. M
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Sep 25, 03
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I took off for a year and went travelling, I came back and my whole world was flipped up side down. I had the most amazign experiences while I was away but I had changed differently then my family and friends in canada. So if change is something your comfortable with travel and adventure is a really good way to have to start out fresh. It's a pretty serious head trip though, but I'm soooo happy I did what I did.
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Sep 26, 03
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i was away for 6 weeks in the summer, and it was amazing. it was enlightening to meet so many grounded , true people. it was such a good experience that i want to do it again, but not as a copout because im idling in life....just because it is fucking wicked.
i want change, thats the thing. something needs to change in my life. where did u go soma?
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Sep 26, 03
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I don't think it's so much travelling that leads to this "Self-discovery" that people talk about, i think it's just "experiencing new things" in general, that does this, and "travelling" is just another good example of one of the things that you can do to achieve this.
you don't always need to do everything that you WANT to do. You don't always have to do something that you're passionate about. Sometimes doing things you don't necessarily want to do, directs you towards what you want to do. ie- i hated my summer retail job, but hey i learned a LOT.
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Sep 26, 03
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If u really want change, ask to move with a family member somewhere outside of BC. Traveling is an opnion for many who are lost. also, dont jump into school and study something that you don't really enjoy. its a waste of money and time. It's better to have studied something you love and not find a job than study and get a job that you hate.
Also, school is nothing if you don't have experience to go with it. I know someone from HS who just graduated from SFU and is now totaly lost because they don't know what to do with there english degree. he didn't work much, he didn't travel and he didn't experience life during his 4 years up @ bby mtn. good luck.
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Sep 26, 03
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it was pretty crazy I want down there knowing nobody. I did have half a dozen email address for some of the peeps that I met online before I left. but i didn't know what to expect and basicly started my living my life my way with a completely clean slate. So I was a pretty hectic way to move out of my parents house/Home as I knew it.
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