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Oct 01, 03
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sudden death
You never expect to hear a call with bad news like this.
My old highschool friend got hit by a car on his motercycle and was killed. It's wierd how I initially reacted...it's kind of hard to really believe that it actually happend until it really hits you...hard. A happy, healthy person just dies...without a chance of saying goodbye to the people he loved: his family, his girlfriend and his friends. Doesn't even get a second chance at life. I next imagined what his loved ones are going through...how emotional it is going to be for them, and for me. It's really hard to believe this is actually someone I know and was close with for time. Usually if you hear in the media that someone has died, it doesn't really affect you on a personal level. But when it's someone you know, it hits you like a rock. 
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Oct 01, 03
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My favourite grandfather who raised me as a baby died when I was 20 and I was distraught.
My father passed away last June and I still see images of him when I close my eyes and sometimes I can't sleep at night. You are right... when you hear of other people dying it doesn't hit you, friends dying it hurts, family dying.. well.. let me say that I hope NONE of you experience that feeling for a long, long, long time.
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Oct 01, 03
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It's so easy to say "I know how you feel", because we've all lost someone close to us (hell, my grandfather passed away not even a year ago). But it's never the same.
Good vibes and thoughts to you Aki...I know you have lots of people to give you the support you need.
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Oct 01, 03
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That sort of thing makes me realize that we all need to keep living and loving life to its fullest everyday as if its your last!
AGROout
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Oct 02, 03
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to a t-- you just described what happened to my long time friend last year at this time.
it's still unbelievable that it happened. i still feel sad for him, his friends, and especially his family. i gave myself time to grieve, and said my goodbyes at his funeral, and he's still around, just not in a form we can see.
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Oct 04, 03
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My Dad passed away nearly four years ago, and there are times when I still can't believe he's gone. Aki, the best thing that you can do is have a good cry (and more whenever you feel the need), and to think of the good memories. He wouldn't want you or anyone to think of the times you could have had, he would want you to think of the great memories you shared. Good luck, let the healing process begin *hugs*
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Oct 04, 03
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i toatally agree with you dave..dont sit around day to day and think about negative things and waste time ..........live, love and learn....cherish every moment you have.....cause u never know when your time will come.........
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Oct 04, 03
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There are quite a few people on here who know what you're going through unfortunately.
A friend of mine was killed instantly in a freak car accident (he wasn't speeding, wasn't drinking, was just driving--on a rainy windy night--and he lost control of his car) last december 11th...He was one of the most amazing, talented, fun, caring people I have ever known. We lost a great guy that day. He did somehow get to say by and "love you" to his family though because he was in a band and he had written a song that started "If I were to die tomorrow..." and went on like that. Anyways, it's still hard. Just last night I was lieing in bed thinking about nothing. All of a sudden his name popped in my head and then I remembered..."Kyle is dead." I felt all too wierd, just like the first moment I heard that he was dead... Natalie has good advice...just have a good cry whenever you need it, remember the good memories, rejoice of the time spent with that person and being around people who knew that person as well is the best I find (they are very supportive then). I'm sorry about your loss. :(
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Oct 04, 03
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celebrate life, don't mourn death. that's my advice, i've learnt that through personal experience as well.
you'll always miss the person, but like i said before, it gets easier with time. my mom has been gone 6 months and it feels weird as hell. talk to someone about it, you're not alone. it's the worst feeling when you think no one understands, so let it all go and tell your close friends how you feel. good luck, and my best wishes.
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Oct 08, 03
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No problem. =)
If you live your life in fear of death, are you really living? That's MY question.. I'm also pretttty sure that any friend/relative who passes away would not want the 'grieving' to feel sad forever.. It's good to miss them but you know, it can only go so far. Ok I'll stfu now. =)
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