ugggg i'm stuck in a rut

[Kandyapple]

sooo yah I guess i'm really starting to feel like a loser and well i guess its my own faul, ok it is my own fault. but yah for some reason i think i've been freeked or something to get something going in my life and make a decision. go to school, work, travel whatever. i did a semester when i got out of highschool and then quit to work for some cash to travel. my job turned into the shits so i didnt make enough money to travel for long.
it was kinda more like a long vacation. so i get back and work for my dad for 3 months. since then i have had no job and must admit that i have done very little to find another one.
thankfully i live at home or i wouldnt be able to sit on my ass as long as i have been. but its lame i get bored and my sleeping habits are all messed up. i don't even like this but for some reason i won't get off my ass and do much about it. i've gone back to an old job that has given me 3 shifts in about 3 weeks. so that again is going nowhere. I actualy had an interview today but for some reason I feel even more upset with being unemployed at the moment.
I'm sure ppl on this board have been here before. any advice for motivating yourself?
I just feel like I'm a drain on the ppl around me that i care about and its an awfull feeling but here I am still on my ass.
three months of doing nothing to change this is kinda starting to look bad.
I need a life. I guess i just gota give myself a kickstart. I think my confidence is down or something.
blah so thats my little rant for the day.
*sigh*

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[Akeel]

I've been in this same boat many times, switching schools and programs, changing careers and jobs all the time, it can get pretty frustrating if you dont know what direction you're headed in.

my advice is to right down your goals and aspirations. Where do u wanna be in 10 years? what kind of industry do u want to work in? what would u enjoy learning about that could be a career?

Start asking yourself questions like that and writing down the answers. I find putting things in ink lets me visualize what i want, and then go after it.

hope that helps :)

[agent.starling]

look in a local bulletin. i know it sounds cheesy, but if you can frind something that catches your intrest, take it. like typing class, or leadership or something ... it really motivates you. or you could talk to a career counsellor?

[*Geminiz*]

I have definitely been unmotivated in areas of my life, not usually job related cause I've been with the same company for 5 years, but I have been unmotivated to look for something new and different because it's easy where I am. There a number of things I do to get out of a rut. As Akeel mentioned - writing down your dreams and goals. Read it everyday, put it up on your mirror or beside your bed or somewhere you will be sure to see it. Start waking up at a decent time (make sure you have a routine) - say 8am, get yourself ready to go, and make sure that every day you do something productive - going to the unemployment office, sending out resumes, looking online for employment, even going to places where you would like to work. Also if travelling is what you are interested doing, as well as looking for a job, look online about places you'd like to go or go to the library - this will keep your mind on your long term goal as well. If school is what you would like to do now, start visiting schools to get info on programs/classes you want to take. I find that I can sit and think of everything I want to do - this just frustrates me and brings me down, or I can force myself to get up and start doing stuff. Also, give your self dead lines and write down certain days you are going to get things done.

Hope this helps :)

[Ragga_Wh0re]

just get another job or go to the gym or do both or something,i was a lazy cunt but then im like funk dis ish i dont wanna be living with my mom and dad anymore,im 19 ineed a job and i need to get the fuck out.so yah i got a job altho its only part time and still going to the gym and trying to find another part time job somewhere else so i can move out by like march or something.
You may not wanna do anything but force yourselfto do something,your gonna fall into a deep depression if you dont and that will not only hurt you but those close to you.

good luck.

[Kandyapple]

thanks you guys. yah writing does help I think that’s kind of why I’m putting this out here. it gives me a chance to actually work out what I’m feeling. and yes the career thing is a big part of what is bogging me down. I've never known exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I have always been interested in travel but more I wanted to travel. But finding a job in that field was a thought for me. It just gets so easy to get yourself down at times. you think to travel you gota get a good paying job I gota go to school to get a decent job. but you also have to pay for school so you go around and around in your head instead of getting off your ass and doing something about it. but I remember that when I’m actually working all these things feel a little lest daunting.
but yah that list I gota sit down with some time soon cuz I do want to figure out what I want in my future. because right now I’m stuck without a goal except for getting a job to get by. and well I’m still here. and hey I got up today at a decent time and didn’t want to roll over and go back to bed so that’s an improvement. lol baby steps here. it does feel good when you get up before the day is almost half way through. thanks for all the advice you guys the feed back is much appreciated. :kimmie:

[Ragga_Wh0re]

dude dont get all depressed just cuz u dunno yet what u wanna do with your life, its okay ur only 18 you still have lots of time to figure it out. I know what I wana do BUT im just not ready yet 2 commit to school im still in party mode ju kno.ne ways keep ur head up things will get better.

[Kandyapple]

yah its just hard not to get a little down when your whole life your used to that "what do you want to be when your older?"
question. then when your out of highschool it seems to get worse like what are you going to do with your life, do you have a direction. your sister has a job why don't you go out and find one. blah i don't know. i think i just gota tune it out and find out whats right for me.
but on the good side i got 4 shifts next week, yay money!

[Discord]

I am going though the exact same thing..


5HTP helped me. :)


er good luck (at least you have some small income ihave 0 :( )

[Kandyapple]

yah thats just recent. but its getting me off my ass. :kimmie: