friends with ex's

this subject really to me is all messed up. It can happen yes...but just as long as the both of u can hang and chill with your 'new' partners with no hard feelings. that is when you are true best friends.....if it's weird then no can't happen. in my opinion anyway.

[soma]

Yeah it can work... normally about a year after you break up then everyone can be friendly and not :" jealous, angry, I want you back, you can't have it bitch, lets stop talking and start fucking, was this a good idea?....... "

good luck with that.

props to miss b .. love ya girl! =)

[*Geminiz*]

Being friends with ex's is hard, I think it depends on the people involved and situation. I've only been able to be friends with ex's after a couple years after the relationship - and not with all of them.

[Veni*C]

im going thru the same thing right now...
im having a hard time of grasping the concept of just being really good friends....the fact that we hang out all the time and talk all the time still (no sexual stuff) doesnt help. I want to be his best friend ..because he is mine..but it still very hard for me ..because i still wanna be with him. I need to get over him first, then it will be much easier for me to be just buds with him...i want him to be apart of my life still because we were togther for so long (5 yrs.) and he helped me thru alot of shit and im close with his family....
anyways...the only thing i can do to get over him is get away from him....im moving to van next yr....then we can get the space we need away from each other and figure out whats going on and all...and move on.
~V

[Bitchin]

its all on the reasons you broke up.. really ad if.. your honest and talk about it.

I'm still friends with some of my ex's and some of us have better friendship then before we went out.

but theres still some ex's that I cant stand and wanna hit.. but thats prob cause they were jerks.. go figure, eh?

[soma]

^it's hard.. I can't wrap my head around beeing with someone for five years. but the only way to do it is to creat some distance.. on every level. Good to hear you're moving to van though I sure that will help.

Being in love with your best friend sucks. Especially when they feel the same for you but it's just not the RIGHT time for a relationship right now...now that's frustration & torture.

[jawa]

hhhmmmm
dependson what your relationship was i think and how you communicate your "new" feelings, if you can still be open and honest even after breaking up it should be okay. If you were friends before, your relationship wasnt super "intense", and nobody deliberatly hurt the other person (cheating blah bleh....) then i think you can be friends pretty soon. If feelings were really strong towards each other and it can be harder and you kind of have to step back to seperate yourself from the situation.

[bebu*funfun]

my last boyfriend.. we broke up..we gave it a try to patch things up...it didn't work out...we broke up.. tried to be friends, but we both wanted more but wayyy too many obstacles to break through and then we broke up again..for good and we both know we can't talk or see each other, because the same routine would come again. sucks BIG TIME. from having the world's bestestest friend and spending some of my happiest days with him to no encounter what so ever, hurts like a bitch.

there are always situations like that...but most of the time i tend to be okay with ex's (not like i have many), we dont really get too close and like it was, but at least we're friends and he is not out of my life. all my boyfriends were very special/important people and i definately dont want to lose great human beings like that out of my life.