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Dec 04, 03
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ill give you some bad advice
this is what i would do -push it out of your mind and dont deal with it -avoid them like the plague -when they are around, be rude to them (itll make you feel better) -hook up with someone else to occupy your time in reality, all you can do is give it some time everything fades with time :D 
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Dec 04, 03
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hey dude ive just been hangin with friends all the time went to the stippers got drunk maken sure i got plans to do shit all weekend so i dont sit around and pine over it ive been spinning alot too not sure if u spinn but music really helps.
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Dec 04, 03
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yeah i know what u mean man. Ive been doing that too but theres moments like right now when i just feel like shit. Music is very therapuetic and its helped me out too. I just find myself talking about her all the time when im hammed with my buddies and shit eventough i dont to. Its fucking hard to deal with.
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Dec 04, 03
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i found that after a while i just had to let go of my feelings.
somtimes what helps is a symbolic act. burning a picture. locking away your notes memories in a box. having a good cry. sometimes finding someone new in a 'no strings attached' fling helps a lot. personally, i found letting the bitch out of my makeshift basement prison worked really well. you can't get over a girl who you constantly hear screaming about rats and spiders. sure, she would have eventually starved - but sometimes the smallest act of compassion can lead to the road of friendship... and that means no one pressing charges.
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Dec 04, 03
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i got dumped a month ago!!
woo us :c-tard: i think i've moved on, but only time will tell.. but you got the wrong attitude...you don't need her, you know you'll move on sooner or later, it just takes time girls come and go, there's someone else out there for you, you're just learning what to contrast them against go out with friends, talk it out..i didn't really like talking/whining bout it, but it really helped to think things out and get it out that's probably the most important tho... rebound box, go out and get laid or hook up with a old booty call...but i don't think that's for everyone, i still haven't, and i think it's better that way..outta respect to the ex and cock, and myself fuck i'm horny$#@# talk to her, come to terms of why you got dumped...it seemed pretty clear/reasonable why we broke up, but there were still some stuff that made me frustrated so i brought it up and i understand now...that's if you kids are still friends if you are still friends i'd take a break from em... exercise...there's so many days that i just wanted to sit at home and scream, but i went out too the gym and just worked out or went for a run and ran till i couldn't breathe when it got really bad and i didn't have time for exercise, i'd listen to aqua and just run around screaming and dancing i went away for the weekend, and found a new hobby i really like i went hunting out in the interior and it really calmed me down...sitting out in the wild, being quiet and shooting things..heh but it really helped..getting away from all the drama and chilling i really enjoyed it and im taking a gun course in a week! i did lotsa shopping...it was kinda sick tho, but i love stuff spending $50 on eyeliner and buying sexy underwear that i would have only worn for him..big waste of money but it made me feel good spend money on someone...take a friend out for dinner or buy groceries i got my haircut and kinda changed my style...it made me feel like a different person, which made the transition easier think bout all you got out of the relationship...i feel like a better person, and now i know what i want in my next relationship think bout all the free time you have now to spend time with those friends you kinda flailed on since when you were with your girlfriend..i missed my friends sooooooooo much ..ehhh so that's what i did, but i'm kinda weird so you might need something else oh yea, drink lotsa water...i get headaches when i'm frustrated, and water makes me feel beetter good luck! ps you're young, you shouldn't let shit like this piss you off at such a young age...cause as you get older and relationships get seriouser, you'll only suffer more ;)
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Dec 04, 03
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^what can i say? getting dumped sucks :(
it's all still fresh in my heart and i feel for the kid..that's right, i got heart belms, i got some more stuff... go out on a date...gives you something to get excited for but it's nothing serious! listen to sappy music...my favs this time round was jewel you were meant for me, dido white flag, and john mayer it helped me get it all out and cry...but it's pathetic so don't let anyone know what you're doing oh yea...and be a fucking man it's cool cause i'ma chick, but there's something bout raver boys and them liking to show how biga pansy they are.....jk but not really, think bout it ;)
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Dec 04, 03
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its strange because i never thought it took long for guys to get over girls... oh being nieve how i love it....
just wait.. everything will be better later. youll remember the freedom of being single, not answering to anyone, not having to have the other person tag along... or whatever. for me usually i walk alot when i get dumped. i just take off, people around me worry, but i need to think things out for myself. i need to be away from everyone and everything and i dont neccessarily want to talk cause then i have to repeat the situation in my head. i also draw, write, paint or just make marks on paper or whatever is in front of me. i also cry *gasp* alot. actually its more like weeping. but i do feel better afterwards. oh and keep yourself busy, be with friends. i find that some moments i just need to have someone else in the room with me, i guess to balance the moments when im sitting alone somewhere. meet new people. thats a biggie. see everyone else out there. noting has to be romantic, jsut talk. it will be easier to just talk to people and get to know them when youa re not sexually interested in them. but truely i dont know. we all get dumped, we all get sad, and in the end we all get over it... but it can seem like forever, u just gotta ride with it.
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Dec 04, 03
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hmmm after my last breakup..i guess you can say it was pretty recent. the way i did it was i went on MASSIVE shopping sprees.. and its weird the more i dont care about my ex the less i shop. =) the shopping made me happy for a few hours then i just got even more upset at myself. not the best plan to go to.
i agree with linz though.. seeing other ppl to occupy your time helps. ive been tryin this "casual dating" thing for the past month now and damn i feel a lot better, and kinda built myself back up again. and outta no where i found a guy who i actually dig and would like to get to know more about. now im actually pretty bitter towards my ex.. god he was an asshole. and DONT PIG OUT! ahhh i was super uber depressed and i ate and ate and ateeeee... yea gaining weight is definately fun. say no to depressed eating, cuz it doesn't stop! good luck... takes time to feel better. dont bury ureself in pillows and fall into an anti social hole. badbadbad. talk to your friends and get your feelings out...cry it out, talk it out.. ull feel a lot better. just remember girls are bitches.. its not ure fault its hers! :c-tard: Last edited by bebu*funfun; Dec 04, 03 at 09:38 AM.
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Dec 04, 03
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Yeah im pretty sure i feel like this cuz its recent u kno. I'm mising the things i did have with her is basically what's going on. I miss her. But i know its all for the better and yada yada yada. As for now i just need to chill out and enjoy the finer things in life. Keeping busy and whatnot.
The whole getting with another gurl thing at first im like no, but then why not meet new gurls. Casual sex could be a solution. Maybe it'll be relax me. hah. Who knows im just going through a whirlwind of emotions. thanks for the "be a man" kelster haha. i gotcha. 
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Dec 04, 03
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say no to casual sex! it would just create more drama and mess. if this is extremely recent, the "meet new ppl" thing will not work out too well, because ull end up tryin to replace your ex and it might remind you more of her, which is extremly unfair for the girl. take it slow, hang out with your boys and enjoy life for what it is.
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Dec 04, 03
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sorry your wrong. BLOWJOBS solve everything.
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Dec 04, 03
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Grief is definately not a pleasant thing to have to endure and it can be a slow and painful process. However, I firmly believe that allowing yourself to grieve and accepting, rather than running away from, the feelings of loss and misery will get you farther and faster than by denying them.
I find that the more I play out the memories that upset me, the more I become desensitized to it. I personally would rather thoroughly and fully be over something or someone so that I can give my 100% to whomever or whatever comes along next. I don't agree with rebound, or anything else that serves as a way to "take the place" of what has become "void". For me, the best way to deal with loss of any sort is to learn to accept the loss in itself. Rebound, or even a change in physical setting, is only a meagre attempt to fill the place of what now feels empty, and may sometimes serve to heighten the problem. It may *seem* that changing the "surface" of things will change what lies beneath, but it isn't so. It's natural to want to rid these negative feelings "fast" but I find that people tend to kid themselves into believing that forms of denial (ie-sometimes rebound) will promote faster healing, where in fact, denial is only the *illusion* of a lessened pain, and prolongs the process of healing. Last edited by yoko*; Dec 04, 03 at 07:41 PM.
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Dec 05, 03
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lots and lots of porn is what you need! haha damn now you know what I'm getting you for christmas!:P
That's a shitty deal but sweetie it's probably for the better, spending time with the boys is good for ya.. and if ya ever need anything, I'm here for ya ok primo? :) Your new therapeutic song: Outkast - Roses... listen to the lyrics you'll know what I'm talking about. :P
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