My bf left me

[mugsy]

^ so basically youre giving him permission to sleep around... test the water?
lady going on a "break" is the same thing as breaking up. i say banish the word break. keep up the communication and stuff, but dont say youre on a break, somewhere inside your gonna have hope of gettin it on again.
and also you will be waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more hurt if during your "break" he does test the water and climbs into bed with someone else. and even if you say hes not like that, hes different then most guys, hes a guy. hes gonna be thinkin with his dick no matter what. and he wont think if will hurt you much beacuse you guys are broken up. and logically speaking he would be right, but emotion doesnt always answer to logic.
and be single for a lonnnng time. see other people, but dont get into anything. be casual, go to vegas, tear shit up.

[kandy kid]

But the whole reason he broke up with me in the first place is because he just wants to be alone as I've said. He's not going to go out looking for someone else and neither am I. We can date other people, but not sleep with them. It wouldn't be worth it to me to sleep with someone else and ruin my shot at maybe getting back together with him.
I don't know, isn't a chance it might work later better than saying it's over forever? Because we know we are compatible, he just needs to find himself, he's been so busy and the small amount of free time he's had has been occupied by me.

[ebbomega]

Originally posted by kandy kid
But the whole reason he broke up with me in the first place is because he just wants to be alone as I've said. He's not going to go out looking for someone else and neither am I. We can date other people, but not sleep with them. It wouldn't be worth it to me to sleep with someone else and ruin my shot at maybe getting back together with him.
I don't know, isn't a chance it might work later better than saying it's over forever? Because we know we are compatible, he just needs to find himself, he's been so busy and the small amount of free time he's had has been occupied by me.

Here's a male-to-english translation for you:

"want to be alone" = "Not want to be attached" != "Not want to have sex with anybody for a while"

[Lil Bunny]

sorry to say this but bein on a break doesnt mean shit. im still "on a break" with my ex and look where we are now. He's moved in with his new gf and i met an incredible sweet guy that i might actually consider movin to winnipeg to be with him (yeah yea leave me alone). so i think that you should just admit to yourself that you guys are broke up and deal with that. if u two were meant to be.. u'll end up 2gether somehow. may it be this week.. next month or 5 years from now. if it was meant to be it will be.

[Kandyapple]

My long term ex broke up with me once. We were appart for 3 weeks he got freaked out from being appart and came back but I had shut down emotionaly and slowly it just deteriorated. I became the cold one. I would only treat him as a friend. when I would stay at his house there was no intamacy. It just changed.
He may come back, he may mean what he says about just wanting to try things alone to see what he wants.

But you may change so don't hang on to the break thing.
I've been on breaks that just turned into break ups. they are ususaly just an easy way of avoiding the "I wan't to see other people" talk or "I just want to end it please don't cry."
Other times it was just wanting to see what they want. but most of the time its just ended the same way.

Whatever you do don't wallow or hold on to the thought you may get back together. Just cry its good for you.
You say you would never take him back and he said he would never come back for seconds. Doesn't sound like a lot of confidence in the strenght of the relationship.

If you want to stay together and your happy good for you. But whatever you do don't wait for him to make up his mind.
Not to say that you are but I have and it's just the shitts.

Take care of you.
good luck.

[mugsy]

so the guy wants to be alone... i'll give him that, but he'll still want to get laid.
ever been in the middle of an argument and things got real hot, you thought the argument was over soy ou two got down, only to find out afterwards he was still mad at you?
all im saying is dont sit and think and sich and hope that you two still have a future. too many fish in the sea.
and as it has been stated many times, youre gonna be sad, its gonna suck and no one knows for how long.
just go be sad..... dont think about getin back together think about it being over.

[kandy kid]

Originally posted by Kandyapple

You say you would never take him back and he said he would never come back for seconds. Doesn't sound like a lot of confidence in the strenght of the relationship.

Ack I knew someone would bring this up, what I meant was, if he had simply broken up with me and we didn't have this whole "going on a break" talk the other day I wouldn't take him back in future.

Blah I don't know anymore, I'm so confused, all these emotions running wild...

[Hot Karl]

yea don't let'm get holiday bonings' for free.