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Dec 28, 03
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My bf left me
After 14 months my boyfriend broke up with me, on Christmas day of all days.
Everything was totally fine, but we ended up getting in a fight and he went off the deep end and said it was over. And get this, his reason for breaking up with me is not that there was a problem with our relationship, quite the opposite. He thinks if he keeps going out with me that he'll end up marrying me and he's not ready for that kind of a commitment. I've never even mentioned wanting to marry him though! I'm 20 years old for god sakes, it's the very last thing on my mind. I love him soooo much and am totally heartbroken. I'm sure none of you care, just had to vent. :( 
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Dec 28, 03
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Jacqueline dont say that people dont care becuase I CARE!!!!!!! he is an idiot for leaving you, you are the nicest person I have ever met, he gave away the best thing that will ever happen to him, dont worrie my friends and I are here to support you, I'm glad you came out lat night with us and it looks like you had a good time :kam: , so call me anytime you need a hug cause I will be there as fast as I can.... TTYL and remember the Burnaby crew LOVES YA~!!!!!!!!!!! :kimmie:
Last edited by GUYVERUNIT; Dec 28, 03 at 01:59 PM.
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Dec 28, 03
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WARNING: I'm an insensitive bitch and don't read this if you don't want an emotional cold shower. I may not even be right.
Most definately sounds like there was nothing wrong with the relationship then. Except for the fact that it's over. Never accept what a guy says to you when he's trying to console you at face value. Especially if it involves his feelings. Sounds to me like he's been wanting out of this for a while. It might not be that he's not ready for a commitment, but rather that he's not ready for it with you. There's nothing you can do now except forget about him or pretend to forget about him.
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Dec 28, 03
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Maybe things will work later on in life, let him cool down, and see how lonely things get
this is what happened to a late friend of mine and his girlfriend.. and it ended up .. really fucking badly. To talk it out... let him go (you know, let it go, and if it comes back.. its ment to be) good luck sweety pie.. i hope things work out.
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Dec 28, 03
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Keep in mind that if you let it go that it's also a good time to reconsider yourself and where you saw that relationship going and if he comes back is it really worth it? I mean, you may very well end up as The Backup when times get rough and he's feeling lonely.... So just keep all that in mind....
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Dec 28, 03
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watch dirty dancing and cry, eat some ice cream and cry... just keep getitn it out. be sad, then be mad. then youll realize "you dont need him" and two weeks later youll be sad again.
this probably isnt your first break up so you know other boys will come.... but if hes willing to break your heart, then he really isnt worth it. but this will all seem nonesense now, and plenty of ladies and some guys understand, your gonna be sad for a while. so do it, be sad.
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Dec 29, 03
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^ in rebutal for all the men out there... what the fuck is up with women? all we do is bitch and complain and expect boys to deliver us our needs on a silver platter. not to mention that girls always seem to be the ones who need to be impressed, boys seem to always have to do the impressing. we direct our pms towards teh guys, all of our sorrow and woes, and all guys really want is the understanding nature girls can have. that they dont always have extensive wonderfully said reasons for their actions, they dont need to express themselves to show they care. now do they need us asking them whats the matter all the time.
i know this doesnt apply to all girls, but ive been seeing alot of "its all his fault" or "hes so stupid youre soooo much better" posts... and i know i have made some, but who really knows? why cant the guy ever be better then girl? why cant he deserve something better? maybe im lucky to know some amazing men, but not all of them are worthles jerks. but alot of girls are bitches, i know more bitches then assholes. and this is not directed at anyone, so no one is to take offense to it. to the origional poster i stick with my origional stuff. just go be sad until you can realize there are more guys out there. its not gonna happen over night maybe it will take you 6 months... but it will happen. take care.
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Dec 29, 03
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Nothing's wrong with most of us, just the crazy son of a bitch's you date!
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Dec 29, 03
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I don't think there's anything wrong with him at all, he's an amazing guy. I miss him sooo much already ugh.
And I really don't think he wants to play the field, he just wants to be single again. He just wants to hang with his boys. And if it turns out he made a mistake, I really don't think I would get back together with him. I know there's a million other guys out there, and I couldn't handle the same heart break twice. He even said to me after I said I wouldn't take him back in the future, that he "doesn't come back for seconds." Well I'm going back to bed to cry some more.... :(
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Dec 29, 03
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Dont cry
 becuae when I see friends sad it makes me sad
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Dec 29, 03
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I'll be wearing my new t-shirt, FCUK like a bunny, hehe. And probably my blue pants, look for me, I'll need lots of hugs that night!
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Dec 30, 03
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Cry. It's good for you.
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Dec 30, 03
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Dec 30, 03
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Dec 30, 03
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megan you really need to write a book... you have the knowledge that girls NEED TO KNOW
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Dec 30, 03
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I think it's interesting you put it that he 'left you'...
I mean he did break up with you, and I think putting it that way makes things a little more dramatic..I mean it's not like he left you on your ass with a shitload of kids after years of being 'common law' :P... and really, this won't make any difference now..but in the end, you'll be thankful this happened sooner rather than later (things could have been potentially more serious, and the fallout much more severe) you're young, love it while you can..and even if you said you never wanted to 'get married', living together can be a huge step- that usually either makes or breaks a relationship. So yes, hurt, feel awful...but realize you've got so many years of your life to live ahead! M
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Dec 31, 03
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ack thats horrible!! sorry to hear that he'll probly come back begging for you in a week..
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Dec 31, 03
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But....here's the latest development, after hours of crying (on my part) and a very long conversation, we've decided we're "on a break" rather that it being over forever. I'm going to give him a few months on his own to really think about it. So really I could be in the same exact spot a couple months from now. But before anyone freaks out, I'm NOT gonna put my life on hold waiting for him. I'm just going to be single for awhile, which I think will be good for me. In the past 3 years I've only been collectively single for a few months. If I end up meeting someone else so be it, if not I may get a second chance with my ex. He said he's not making any promises as to what's going to happen, so I'm not going to get my hopes up. But if we get back together I'll know it was meant to be.
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