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Jan 09, 04
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gah!
man i am fed up with those fucking kinds of friends who are so completely 2 faced and just terrible friends. they tell u they r ur friend and they will always be there and then they never are, like this one friend of mine. i am getting soo sick and tired of this shit going on. i am like positive my "friend" whom i have known since grade 6 has been stealing stuff from me like money and other stuff. yet she would tell me she takes me as one of her best friends. i dont know how she can steal from me and lie to me and be so 2 faced. i dont know how someone could have the heart to steal from friends or anyone for that matter. she does it to other friends of hers too and tells me about it so obviously now i have put 2 and 2 together. I haven't said anything - yet. there was this one time we were at a party and i had no pockets or anything so i put my bus pass with money in it into her pants pocket before i started drinking and when i asked for it back she gave me a bus pass with no money in it. there was s'posed to be 50 bucks in it. and when i asked her about it she said i probly lost it myself that night cuz i had been drinking but i wasnt drunk or anything and that is totally impossible since she had it with her the whole time, plus she went there with no money and then all of a sudden when we left she ended up having money cuz i saw her lending her friend some money. she doesnt know i saw her do that and she acted like she had no money after that when we left so i donno what to do and have been avoiding her ever since.i havent caught her red handed but im not that stupid, it is pretty obvious it is her doin this crap. i have done so much for this girl so i dont know why the hell she's doing that shit. it makes me sooo mad. looks like this friendship is getting thrown in the trash cause i have had enough of her shit. it is time to disassociate myself completely. the thing is that i don't know if I should confront her about the missing shit or just totally not even bother. i am starting to think that she just isn't even worth the time. :finger: stupid lying thief! I can't believe I trusted her and didn't figure it out till now. I feel so stupid :soak:
 :finger: :finger: :finger: this makes me really appreciate my few REAL true friends so much more. fuk i have aquaintances that r more honest then this girl has been to me. so my question is... do i confront her and hear what she has to say to defend herself or to explain why she did it and then tell her i no longer want a friendship or any association with her, does she deserve a chance to explain? OR should i just put it all behind me and stop my association to her with no explanation needed? 
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*hugz*
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wow ppl dont be soo supportive.....shes really searching through all the suggestions to try and find which one would be more useful
personally i think that you should confrot her about it this way if she fesses up due to the fact she doesnt want to lose such a "good" friend u might get some of your shit back if you dont care about your stuff tell her why you dont want to be friends cuz then she at least gets a reason and isnt all confused on why u stopped talking to her give her time after losing u she may realize what shes done and apoligize for it she may realize that what shes doing is wrong and shes losing friends over it tell her that what shes done isnt being a true friend and if she wants to get anywhere in life she needs to be honest and have trust with those that love her let me know if ive helped u in any way
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Jan 09, 04
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In all honesty, I recommend never associating yourself with her again. If you're worried about never having someone as a friend as close as her, allow me to tell you a little tale...
I had a good group of buddies in early high school. But I soon learned they were stealing shit from me and I ended up cutting off ties with them for good. Granted, I was a bit nervous about it as anyone else that I knew were nothing more than passive aquaintences. Still, I eventually became good friends with another group of individuals, and when our interests began to diverge (being a 'raver' when grunge was all the rage was quite unique back then), I became good friends with yet another group of individuals. Very rarely those who we associate with for a chunk of our life will be there forever, much less even a large portion of it. If you can't get along with someone, why put yourself through the aggrevation of it? Fear of loneliness? Well, that's where socializing comes in handy. Lesson? Find someone new to hang out with. There's no need to put up with someone else's shit.
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Jan 10, 04
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thanks pussy_cat and sykonee for the advice.
I don't care about getting my shit back cause it was mostly money and other stuff that wasn't really a huge deal if I lost it. It is wayyy more the fact that I totally trusted her as a good friend and she totally betrayed that trust by stealing from me and lying and being all sneaky acting like she was such a good friend to me despite what she was doing. I know it might help to talk to her but I have decided I really would rather just get rid of her completely and not give her the benefit of the doubt to explain herself. She has had more than enough time to feel guilty and come clean on her own and if she has to be confronted to finally feel bad for what she has done than she isn't worth my time anyways. In all honesty when I really think I remember when I was first suspecting her and she didn't know it she was telling me how she stole from this friend of hers that I don't know and when I said that it was so wrong of her to do it and asked what if he found out she showed no remorce, she just laughed and said "if he asks me about it I'll deny it 'til the end". I bet if I did confront her she would just "deny it until the end" and definately wouldn't give back my stuff or repay me for the stolen money. thank you so much for the advice you guys, now I know I don't need to confront her about it, I just need to get her out of my life for good, and given that I have started to do this already now I am much less stressed and much more happy. YAY FOR ME! :D
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Jan 10, 04
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burn down her house, steal her women and rape her horses - problem solved
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