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Jan 27, 04
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Leaving?
So my gf of a month is going to leave to another country by the summer time. I've started to fall in love with her over this month because she is so different. I know she feels the same way for me cuz she has told me and showed me.However she's starting to limit herself because she is leaving. What am i to do? It sucks that i meet a girl that means so much to me and has to leave.:(
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Jan 28, 04
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where is she moving to?
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Jan 28, 04
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Belms! I so feel ya! That sucks big time, but you gotta let it go. If you two were meant to be together then she will be back in your life at some point. May sound really stupid, but I know what I'm talkin bout. I had to leave my of that time bf after we had just been together for 3 months, when I moved here to germany.... Truly sux shitt! :finger:
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Jan 28, 04
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it is true. sometimes you just have to wait alittle longer at the stops, you know like if its not a b-line then you gota wait a half hour. plenty of bunnies in forest. when one dissappears, ten more replace it.
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Jan 29, 04
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If the dude was serious about falling in love (for the record, I don't) then it's a lot more difficult to get on the "relationship" train than just hopping on. It's a shitload more complex than that. All relationships between two people are unique and as easy as it is to believe that you can always re-grab something with someone else it would never ever be the same. That being said, like I said, I don't really think you were actually falling in love and a month isn't _that_ long of a time to get to know someone. Maybe enough to know that you're in love but not enough to have committed such a deep relationship that you're ready to spend the rest of your life with them. Certainly not know enough about the person to really even know if you wanna spend the next month with them. You may think you do but you really have no clue. You're still tearing down your fantasy of this person and trying to replace it with the real them. Fuck, I've been dating my gf for 2 years and I'm still getting heftily surprised. You're young though, so I wouldn't stress too much. On the day she leaves, do something very unmanly and cry about it, get a best friend to give you a hug and then take you out drinking and meet some booty 'ho to give you pleasure for an evening. Maybe not necessarily in the same night, but it'd help.
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Jan 29, 04
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Thanks man. Some good advice. IM not in love with her but it slowly happening. The reason i posted this was because she'll be leaving around summer time. I want to stay with her until she leaves, but she's shit scared. We talk about it and she always gets down and sad. I was just wondering what to do.
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Jan 30, 04
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so hey ebbo, your tellin me that the guys hosuld be crushed froever cause he met one really amazing girl?
there are alot of amazing girls out there. and im pretty fuckin sure he knows it, and i never said that he would forget her or any other girl would be the same, because no other girlw ould be the same. because they wouldnt be her...DUH!!!! however, its not like he cant find another amazing girl that would steal his heart.... the world is fucking big, and like you said its only been a month. now belms, its up to your emotions on what to do. do you think that by the summer time your feelings will grow emensely? because if you do, then the girl is right, why make it hurt worse? but then again theres the ever so present "enjoy it while you can" and creating all the happy memories with her to have. and it never seems right to end a relationship when everything is gooing so well. its up to you, and its up to her. all i was saying is jsut remember there is more then her out there, im not saying abolish your feelings for her, jsut remember that she isnt the only one for you.
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Jan 30, 04
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I say enjoy the time you can have with her now! Don't waste it! You will have so many good memories. Plus you'll be hurting one way or the other, so why not make the best of it?
Otherwise you will keep asking the what if's and if only's over and over again!!! And trust me, I know what I'm talkin about!
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Jan 30, 04
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if its really love, then she would stay or you would go with her.
if those choices are not made, then it can't be true love. so you'll have to take the hit in the heart for puppy love. i had the same situation come up with my gf, but she decided to stay for me. so i hope it all works out for us, heh.
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Jan 31, 04
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I've never gotten anywhere by listening to all the bleeding heart advice that everyone seems so quick to offer. "Oh, it'll be alright, you'll forget about her, blah blah blah." It's pointless drivel and a waste of the electrons used to communicate it. And it rarely helps. Life isn't so simple. If it were, everybody would be a shitload happier than they are today. Do you have any clue how much of our population is clinically depressed? I'm not saying wallow, I'm saying that being naive about it is just going to result in either disappointment or further heartbreak, if not yours then someone else's. Why such a need for people to dissociate with love just because they had a bad experience with it? Christ almighty.
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Jan 31, 04
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bad experience?
no wallowing? when did i say that? please dont put words into my mouth. i simply stated the lighter side advice. i could have gone into detail about how its ok to be sad, but instead of typing what most people would i decided hey lets not. and the guy is more then likely intelligent enough to realize i was being light hearted on the whole situation.
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