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Mar 16, 04
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State of Confusion....
So it's been three years and i've yet to let go of my ex. She don't even live here no more and yeah I wish sometimes I could turn back the hands of time. It's life that I have to live and learn to deal with, but then I wish I could change everything back to the way it was before.
I miss her too much you can say, but in the end is it worth it is the question. I just dont' know what to do no more. I've dated countless of girls without having that same connection. I mean i always end up wanting her more than anybody else. It's weird...it's confusing...but honestly what would ya'll do? 
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Mar 16, 04
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its time to make urself a mean person and forget about her
being attatched to someone for so long ain't good for u, it just influences ur relationships in the future. its like when u've dated these other girls, u can't commit to them fully bcuz a part of u is still with ur ex, which is not fair to the other girl nor urself i have only had 2 boyfriends, like long ones...i've fukked myself over so bad bcuz i let myself become attatched to them, causing me to be afraid of relationships, thinkin i'll always get hurt. for me to forget about lingering feelings or even just thoughts about my ex's, i become some cocky bitch and try to think "yah i was too good for them, blah blah, it was their loss not mine", hey it helps...sounds gay..but it does..better than thinking "man how come its over, i must have done something wrong" and u'll keep blaming urself for something u probably didn't do. everything happens for a reason there is no time to dwell in the past..and what could have been or should have been, u have to realize its over and done with, moooooove bitch, get outta the way!! kekek darren, its time to see the happy times in the future and how u can be happy with the next lucky girl, cuz she'll now take the job of making u a happy happy boy :azn:
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thanx michelle i appreciate it =) do you have msn? PM me with it please :D
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Mar 16, 04
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(damn it a accidently deleted the first post i wrote... :finger: )
wat would i do?? i would stop thinkin about the past and everything that happen way back when and get on with my life. im not sayin totally forget about her cuz ovbiously you guys had sumthin.. but dont let all those memories bring you down. its pointless. think of all that as a great experience and sumthin you learned things from and work it out from there. i've gotten to you know a lot better lately and i can tell your not just the "typical" kinda guy so hold you head up and good things will happen to ya! take care =) (there was more but i cant remember).
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only thing u can do is tell her how u feel, and if she doesen't agree then u forget about her and move on, it will only make u stronger for who u are. i've been in the same situation, u just gotta do what u believe in, but if she dosen't feel the same it'll hurt, but u can move on and it'll just make u more stronger.
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so you are living in the past..and since you can't do that you are missing out on your current life Sure you mayhave dated girls that 'don't compare' but the more you compare, the more you idealize exes often become this thing of perfection that no one can ever live up to -- it's not the ex so much but the ideals she now represents in your head Let me say it again - Time heals nothing without help -- i bet after ever break up you think about this other ex..oh how things would be so perfect with her..... but that's 3 years ago now and i am willing to bet money that if you and the ex did get back together it would be absolutely nothing like you're thinking it would be and it wouldn't be like before It's because you haven't had anyhing that made you that happy since that you let your mind float back to her -- and the more you float back the more your subconcious will pick out the wrong girls for you now I suggest writing a long letter - detailing everything it is and was about the girl that you miss -- and then get honest with yourself, are those qualities you can find with someomne else -what about the reasons you broke up? what about the bad times? Your brain as you idealize will forget the bad things - you're going ot have to conciously remember them Bottom line - you can't move on unless you try to it's okay to think back fondly and wish for something LIKE that again..but that specific girl is not the root of happiness that's a burden too big for any one person to carry
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