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Nov 22, 01
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Shyness, Timid, Quiet ect.
Is anyone one of those and more?
Opposite to ougoing, talkative, loud etc. It's frustrating, sad, pathetic, i meet some stranger or acquaintances and all i can say is 'hi', make extreme small talk or someone talks the most, I listen & put in the occasional blurb here & there or I go all sweaty and red-faced. The worse thing is I shake uncontroablly under tension like I have parkinson's disease or something. It gets even worse when i find someone attractive and they notice me. Imagine a rabbit fleeing from the predator, that's me and i will actually do that! Yet, when i'm with my closest friends, I open up like a chatterbox, relaxed and fine. I try to relax, be myself but it doesn't take me far. So now i've taken on this indifferent attitude, made sure I've taken off my glasses so I can't chek out hotties or anyone looking @ me. so wut, I may miss oppurtunities, i'm not really trying to get hooked. ok, i could beat myself up sometimes :P So ppl think I have this stuck up attitude because I don't say much or nothing @ all. Well, I don't know wut to say or should I ask at all. I'm scared to say something stupid or i begin to stutter and wutever comes out of my mouth will turn into gibberish. Will they even understand what I mean? 'A picture is worth a thousand words' yet words have a thousand meanings. Ppl perceived me as this docile, do as asked, quiet individual where ppl can take advantage of. It's been so many times at work, at home & especially in highschool. They know i will not make a scene. I know that I am not all that but sometimes, i wonder if it's worth to continue on. 
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Nov 22, 01
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EXACTLY!
wow... aaahhh that's just like me! -lauren
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Nov 22, 01
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I've always been outgoing & flirty...just my style...however when I really like someone...I get quite shy & timid...but once I know that things are cool...I'm back to normal...it "IS all just a state of mind!" -jess famous last words :160:
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Nov 23, 01
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it all depends. if i really find the girl attractive and i wanna hook up, i become this babbling idiot that can't say what i'm thinking. even if i plan it out, when it's showtime i forget everything i know i should say. and she gets away...:043:
but if it's some girl that i think is cute but don't really wanna hook up, then i am the HUGE flirt and say all the right stuff, and wouldn't you know it, we end up hooking up and that's not good cause i really didn't intend to. well, i shouldn't say it's not good cause that's not fair, but i just wish i could be that way with the ones i try to go after. does this make any sense at all? :047:
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Nov 24, 01
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I'm like that sometimes. Very quiet when people first meet me.:Kimmie: (ie at the f&K meet @ Spooky), eventually I do open up. I have found out that its easier to talk 2 people that have things in common with you. So hang out with people that have the same interests as you.
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Nov 25, 01
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It all depends on whether or not i feel comfortable around the person or not.
Usually im shy and stuff but there was a couple times when i was totally outgoing and i could say other things then "hi", "yeah", and "hehe" . i dunno im really shy most of the time...but when i eventually get to know them better i am able to hold a small conersation with them. It takes me months to be able to hold a good conversation with someone, and usually by that time they're gone. But with the people who arent gone i can talk to them as easily and freely as i want...well usually.
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Nov 25, 01
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really depending on my mood and who i'm with whether i'm outgoing and loud or shy and quiet..
i use to be always loud and outgoin all the time but have developed the shy and quietness recently...but once i get over that "lil awkward afriad of talking to people mood"..its all good..=)
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Nov 25, 01
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I meant......an overly mean/rude remark......without justification! You -know- my justifications...growl!
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Nov 27, 01
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I think that can be "classified" as social anxiety ..
I mean .. It's just a tendency to get overly anxious/scared/paranoid in social situations.. It sucks.... It happens to me too, but on a milder degree.. But it still isn't fun at all.. When I'm meeting new people and I'm not with a good friend and I only know like ONE person there, I'mn all weird.. and just sit there and am like "I want to leave.. fuckk" ANd then panic attacks.. ARE NOT FUN.
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Nov 30, 01
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all you have to do is think "i don't give a fuck" and don't give a fuck no matter how stressfull the situation seems... i mean does it really make a fucking difference if your a babbling idiot or if you just stay quiet? ELL NO! besides if a guy came up to me and started shooting his mouth off like nothing i'd be like "oh hey he's just nervous" it's cool man... most people should understand that people are for the most part shy... those who don't are stuck up biotches... but really relax... it doesn't really matter what you say as long as your happy saying it.... if people don't like it... fuck em... you got a better life without em... cheers mate!
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Dec 05, 01
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Re: Shyness, Timid, Quiet ect.
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you just described me exactly :Power-P: and no, i know it's not the most easiest thing in the world to be, but what can you do? i ask myself time and again "why can't i be out-going? what is wrong with me?" being shy and all that stuff makes everything so damn akward! :219: with me, it's not that i have something to say and i'm too shy to say it..cause if i have something to say, then i will.....it's just that most of the time i have nothing to say! i can't help it! :310: then you look back and wonder if you came off snobby to the people you were with, and that starts a whole other worry...cause then you feel like you have no chance at being friends because they think your a snob, so they won't talk to you, and you definately won't talk to them first cause you never have anything to say. and when you finally get the courage up, you get all flustered when you do try to talk, and you feel like you made a fool outta yourself in your first attempt in a new crowd/group.....and then there is the red face......don't even get me started on the red face...i am the leader of all red faces!! i have so many nick names my friends have so kindly given me..and it doesn't help when your walking down the hallway and you hear "hey reddy!! (how original) "how's it going red?!?" "hey red face!" (and our personal favourite) "ar! Captain Red-Face!" :043: it's all fun and games...but it doesn't help me out with keeping my face it's normal colour :288: anywho... i am a very introverted person, and i kind of like it (to an extent) i am a listener and an observer, and i love to think and daydream. :Kimmie: don't get me wrong...i love talking to people too..but it does take me awhile to loosen up around people i don't know very well...like 2 months or more maybe more ..depends on the other person :Power-P: in the past few years i've slightly been developing the "who gives a fuck" attitude ...it's been and is still going to be long road, but slowly, i'm getting there!..... :288: having a hired self-esteem really encourages that also :D: and YES.......it is definately worth continuing on! never think otherwise! (being behind a computer screen also helps me come out of my shell as you can see) Last edited by Manda~Panda; Dec 05, 01 at 11:18 PM.
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