leaving, on a jet plane..

[mojo]

and she will be back in 10 months : (

we have only been together 8, but for the first love deal, it feels like a lot longer. i just came to the conclusion as she woke me from that " almost asleep" state that im not gonna get those phonecalls anymore, come the 25th...and well, that sucks.

ya, im young
ya, whats 8 months?
ya, if you love something, set it free......yadayadayada. ive heard all that shit. it still blows to feel like this though.

anyone ever had to end a relationship that was working perfectly?
did you get back together? did you want to?



wow..i just popped my heart-to-heart cherry.

[miss.myra]

I was in the same situation- first love and we'd been together like a year and a bit (which was weird because it was my first 'real' long term thing)

I'm just so stubborn, I was in love and I was really determined to make it work. For the most part, it did. It was really hard for me, and even harder for 'us'. I don't know that I'd do it again.

I mean if you feel completely in love with the person then you're not willing to give up without a fight, why should you? I wouldn't think you were totally off your rocker for at least trying to work it out.

[penguinabc123]

heart to heart cherry, i love it.

but yah a couple years back my girlfriend of a year had to move to toronto with her family, it was rough we were doing awseome, like just a perfect relationship.
i flew down to see her, it was awseome,e xpensive but worth it, then she came out here once and things were a little wierd, but still good.
then i flew out to see her once more and she had changed so much it wasnt the same at all, didnt end up working. i think the town changed her, which ican understand becuase the people are deffinately different there. it was sad, very hard aswell. but if shes coming back then youll make it. we tried for a year with her in toronto and we almost had it.

good luck to ya!

[mojo]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

I'm just so stubborn, I was in love and I was really determined to make it work. For the most part, it did. It was really hard for me, and even harder for 'us'. I don't know that I'd do it again.

I mean if you feel completely in love with the person then you're not willing to give up without a fight, why should you? I wouldn't think you were totally off your rocker for at least trying to work it out.

i am in love with this girl. and im certain of that , which adds to the suckness becasue it took a long time to be sure. we want to be together, its just that shes going away travelling and i know from experience the mind frame you are in when abroad. its too much to ask her to stay with me while she is away "experiencing" herself. so, as hard as it is, we decided to just end it, and if we find ourselves together again come sept 2005, then ..thats what happens.

i just hate knowing that shes is going to be gone in 2 weeks.

this love shit is no cake walk, thats for sure.

thanks for the input guys

[galaxie]

Why not try the long distance thing?

My man and I had only been together for three months when he got a job in the Caribbean and moved away, for what was going to be one year at the least. Fortunately for me, he hated it there and came back after only a month, but my point is that if you love something, don't let it go. Fight for it, and do all you can to make it work. Love isn't about just giving up and letting go!

[veN]

I had a most enjoyable time traveling while staying in a relationship with my boyfriend who was back home. It was for only a month, but I have no regrets for continuing the relationship while I went abroad. She can still have a great experience "finding herself" with you still in the background. I think Natalie is right, if you want to be with her, why give it up? Yes, you are young (if you're under 30 you're still "young"), and 10 months is a long time to be away, but 8 months and the amount of closeness you seem to share with her are equally valid points. You guys could give staying together a try, and it might not work out. On the other hand, it may be the best decision you ever made, bc it is a true test of the strength of a relationship - to be distanced from someone you really care about, but to be faithful and respectful of that person and your relationship. I know you have lots to think about. Good luck.

[ppcock]

dude.. you should listen to Chicane Feat. Bryan adams - Dont give up

listen to it for 8 months.. you'll kill yourself in 4 :P

[PwInCeSs]

awww poor mike
well u never kno what will happen whe she comes back
maybe the distance will tell u if shes right...

[veN]

^ I v.much enjoy your sig. :) v.nice PwInCeSs!

[PwInCeSs]

thx..:)

[Ree Fresh]

I know Mike it really sucks :(

The emotions are terrible... totaly know how you feel. Ive tryed it a couple of times and it can be done. Once i was apart from him for 5 months
(could of been a year)
Wasnt too sure if we should stay together... turned out we stayed very loyal and didnt want to loose each other :)

Well looking back now... in those 5 months I think we were growing apart with out notice. I discoverd more about myself in those 5 months which was cool... and I think hes a bit diffrent after he came back? Sadly after we took a trip together shortly after... things just wernt like b4 when we returned and we ended up breaking up :(

I dont really regret what we did/happend.... but I think if I had the choice again I would let the person go completly. Not to be mean, just to do with the porpose of traveling and what ppl go through with it.

The first month or so is VERY tough... but I sugest if you really care about this person, live your life and let them live theres. Its really hard to accept, especialy if they start to see other ppl, but hopefully thell return... see what happens then :)

wish you the best, and you should smash pumkins with me some time!?!

[Ree Fresh]

PS: Were talking about 10 months... a month isnt bad at all... however it was for the guy I was seeing and he cheeted on me shortly b4 I returned

Anyways mike... its a really hard choice, but i think your doing the right thing? Your very brave to make that disition as I dicided to take the chance.

[mojo]

the closer it gets to monday, the more my feelings sway.

some of you say to try to make it work, but 10 months to be apart is a longggg time at 21. with no contact, or smiles, or any of that stuff that makes it what it is, it would be extremely hard to stay loyal. right now i say" ya i want to stay together", but come 4 months from now my feelings might start to drift.....and because of that we figure that it is easier to just end it now then to have to email the other person and tell them that we want to break up. thats ghetto. then there is part of me tha wants to try to make it last, and i think that that is going to happen even though im not intentionally doing it.im so mindfucked right now.

the rebirth of this thread is funny because i was thinking about adding to my original post. in any case thank you all for you kind words and perspective, it is appreciated. there will be more sad depressing posts from me in the future im sure: (

and rhia, hell ya. pumkin smashing is always a good time.

[PwInCeSs]

well you make the best point yourself mike
10 months at 21 is a long time
maybe take these 10 months to as rhia said get to kno your self like she did, its time apart from eachother and if in 10 months she comes back and its still all there then it was obviously meant to be. Sure theres always that chance that one or both of you find sumone else, and if that does then happen, think of it as a sign....

[miss.myra]

Man, I don't envy your position at all right now.

It's like you know something sad is going to happen, and you don't want it to happen, but the days are just dragging on so slowly that you just feel like you can't deal with all of these feelings and you want to get it over and done with.

You've probably got some pretty good friends that will be there for you, even without you asking them to do so.

I also suggest you go out next weekend and have a TON of fun, it feels good!

[mojo]

fuck, i feel like shit

its like there is an absence in me somehow, i feel so miserable all the time. everyone says that it gets better with time, but i dont want it to get better. i want it to get gone. i wish i didnt have to feel this feeling of loss, like im dragging my ass through the day, just to go home and be all alone, and have to wake up to another shitty jenna-less day. and i dont even know if i can just not love her anymore.....AHHHHH.

this feeling sucks people, i wouldnt wish it on to anyone.

[Ree Fresh]

In time mike! Day by day you slowly get over it... the feelings come and go too. I think both of you will always have a place in each other's hearts... but your young and big stresfull comitments arnt goign to help.

Take up a hobby, get out of the house. In the five months by bf was away I felt like I found myself again. Focus on that, there are positives to be found in this situation =)
I know the feeling sucks and hurts so bad... but it will fade and youll learn to cope in time.

What you up to next weekend? Definently should hit up some drinks and find some thigs to smash :y:

[Ree Fresh]

Oh yeah!!! Arnt you heading off to Australia soon... lucky bastard ;)

[Jen-E-03]

awww I'm leaving my bf for an entire year...we are still staying together though. I know I'm young and all that but I've been with the guy for about 17 months or so...I even went to Japan last year for 6 months and we stayed together. We wrtoe eachother e-mails everyday, and I called him whenever I got the chance. Can't you make it work?

[galaxie]

^ Good for you. I think it's awesome that at your age, you and your bf have the level of committment you do. Kudos, and have fun girl =)