In Need Of Advice

[*Geminiz*]

Whenever you find yourself missing him, remember why you are not together and know that everything happens for a reason. Try to keep him out of your mind (at the same time let yourself grieve or else it could come back at ya later).... stay busy and make sure you do A LOT of what makes you happiest - spending time with people who make you happy and going to places that make you happy (for me it was Stanley Park so I would go there 5 days a week!). Honestly it's true - time heals, but in the mean time just concentrate on yourself and although there will be hard times still they will eventually become far and few between. It's great that you realize you need this time for you, so embrace it!

[*K*i*t*t*e*n*]

Thanx guys <3 it really means alot that yuod take then time to say stuff it helps alot:)

[dj_skratch_1]

No worries. Glad to help. :)

[StiDzOfReNiA]

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[mojo]

well, there has been a lot said already but im going to add my $0.02

dont try to get over him. it wont help, and there is nothing you can do that will speed the process. i think that this premiere breakup is something to be relished, in a way, cus i doubt you will feel this kind of loss, romantically at least, ever again. its special, so try to find the good in it.
make new friends.
advance your creative side.
just stay positive. cus im sure you will find yourself in that position again in no time.

dont sit at home though, your house is probably full of memories you shouldnt be reliving at this time.

[*K*i*t*t*e*n*]

Yeah I dont sit at home just all my friends are friends wiht him too and somehow everyone always ends up talkin about when we were together and its just too much reminising and makes me sad... and i cant really give up my friends. thats something Im not willing to do...

[Mr Ektion]

a lot of the advice that people are giving you are great. and in the mix is also a lot of really bad advice. But the key things are knowing that time is the ultimate healer, and it's totally unfair for you to avoid all of the things from your past that you did with him.

If you guys were together for several years, then you probably did everything together at some point, and dwelling on things like that will corner you with nothing but bad feelings. Re-experience those things! don't 'turn every small thing that reminds you of him into a negative'. you'd be transforming yourself into a bitch. If you spent all of your time with him doing the things that you enjoy, you're going to end up running out of things to do because you'll hate everything!

Be with understanding friends who can be supportive as you regrow the backbone you need to do the things that you enjoy doing again! Go out of your way to do things that make you happy, not to distract yourself, but to remind yourself of the things that you can do.

Also, by TRYING not to think about him is counter productive. That's like telling yourself not to think about the time. The more you try not to think about it, the more you are aware of it... and.. i dunno.. does that make sense?

[dabbler]

some breakups are ridiculously easy to get over, some are equally ridiculously difficult.
the only thing that solves these problems is time. eventually, you'll be over it.
problem is, you never really know how long it'll take. i agree with the
"don't try to forget it, it'll make it worse" advice, but at the same time,
get out and try something new, find some more friends
(don't have to ditch your old ones, just find some more)
and you'll find new things to think about.

[dabbler]

^^^easier said than done, btw^^^^^^^

[*K*i*t*t*e*n*]

everytime I make new friends things fuck up ... doesnt work out and the more i try not to think about him the more i realise hes on my mind all the time