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Jan 28, 05
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In Need Of Advice
I need advice on how to get over someone, me and my ex-boyfriend broke up in November and Im still not over him or anything and I dont know what I should do to start the process. its horrible cuz it seems like hes forgotten about me and even thinking about that makes me feel worse....
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yeah but ive decided that I dont wanna be with anyone else cuz i wanna get to know me better then maybe next time i have to get over somene it wont be so hard...
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Break ups are always hard, I take it you guys went out for quite some time. I think if the relationship meant anything to him he hasn't forgotten you. Just because you can see yourself falling apart, it probably seems like you are a lot more hurt by this than he is. But do remember that people hurt in different ways.
Anyways, I'm not saying to completely forget about him, but learn to talk with him effectively without missing him. Don't get caught up in reminising until you are over him and do not get all teary eyed about it. It makes things a lot harder on the both of you. Take everything that reminds you of them and put it away somewhere, get rid of it if you can. Material items hold a strong nostalgic value, if you find yourself getting lost in the moment, just hide it away somewhere. Try burying it in the backyard - it's a lot harder to dig through a pile of dirt than to open up your drawer. Things will get better, but you have to let them. Go out, find some new hobbies, sometimes heart break can be a blessing in disguise. I think it's always the best time to rediscover yourself. Personally, it's the time where I usually produce some of my best works. Take it as it comes and let the good times roll.
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^^ thanx:) good advice
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lol i was gonna post something bitter and mean but.... okay.
Slow music = out. Go out with friends. every small thing that reminds you of him .... turn it into a negative.. don't worry about what he is doing. worry about yourself. blah blah blah and the list goes on.
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Download some Cyndi Laupher - Girls Just Wanna Have Fun, get the girls together, slumber party!
Seriously, that song makes being broken up that much better :P
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Jan 29, 05
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Jan 29, 05
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dont rub salt in your wounds!
and like neoh said THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER SOMEONE IS TO GET UNDER SOMEONE! thats my quote btw but neoh stole it because hes a quote stealing bastard!
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Jan 29, 05
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I forgot who said it though, it was in a sig somewhere but I coulden't recall.
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I dont wanna be under anyone or get fucked up thanx..
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pray.
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Jan 29, 05
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Spoil yourself rotten :)
Being single you get to be selfish: You don't hafta consult anyone or be considerate of anyone and you get to spend all your money on YOU! Pamper yourself. Go shopping. Get your girlfriends together and just live it up. Spend a hundred million hours getting ready JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN. Catch up with old friends. Make new friends. Try a new hobbie or something POSITIVE to get involved in. It's gonna take time. You can either waste that time feeling shitty about what is over, or you can take that time and freedom to do whatever the hell you want. It's a time to grow. Seize it.
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Thats good. I'd say be selfish....Now's a good time where you can concentrate on other things in your life.....weather it be thru skool, work, working out, or any hobby that you like to devote time too. Essentially anything that will help take your mind off of the negative aspects of reality will help make time move a lil faster. The more productive you are in a positive way for yourself....the more you will get out of it and the better things will sort them self out. I hope that helps.
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Jan 29, 05
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well.. i'm still in love with my ex's... always will be, i just look at the bright side, at least the person i love is happy, thats all that matters, when i fall in love, that person keeps a peice of my heart with them forever, unless the dont deserve it, like cheaters... anyways... a good night out should make you happy, and also just the smile on his face should make you happy.... and if he's in a bad mood a good way to make yourself feel better is to make him feel better, but not through sex, that'd just fuck your head up more... just treat yourself to something good, make yourself look pretty, it'll make you feel pretty on the inside... and stabmyhead's advice is awesome, reminders always make things worse, i can relate to that one... and like everyones been saying, time heal's everything, and its true....... think about it.... in 10 years you wont even remember this person!!!
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