I was just sexually harrassed

[dj_soo]

Originally Posted by Jen-E-03

he then pulled my arm back and pushed me agaist a car and tried to kiss me..

that sounds more like you were sexually assaulted. if you remember what he looks like, go to the police

[axion]

fucking japanese.

jen: is this kinda stuff really common there? when i move there, im going with my girl and im kinda worried about this kind of shit happening.

[wum]

In Japan—where commuter groping of women is so endemic that one downtown Tokyo bar is set up like a subway car so chikan (molesters) who just can't get enough on their way to work can goose passing waitresses—segregated travel is in big demand. Single-sex buses, separate cars on trains, and females-only neighboring seats on domestic carrier Skymark Airlines are on offer. Besides unwanted advances, says a Skymark spokeswoman, "some women feel more at ease asking their neighbor to stand up to go to the bathroom if she's female."

http://www.time.com/time/asia/travel...166076,00.html

All I really did was type into google "grope + japan" and there were tons of hits

[neoh]

next time, kick him in the fucking nuts.

[J o e l]

^^^yes!!!

wow thats seriously fucked up Jen...after you were just starting to have a good time over there too. I hope your ok *hugz* and I hope it didn't freakyou out too bad

[veN]

Originally Posted by mojo

thats too bad. i think you should have some pepper sparay handy when you go out, maybe take a self defense course as well.

Agreed.

Hope you feel better soon. That shit shakes you up. Ugh.

[Jen-E-03]

Originally Posted by mofo-x

that sounds more like you were sexually assaulted. if you remember what he looks like, go to the police

Well he was about 5'9", skinny, asian, black hair, brown eyes...does that help? probably not. It really sucks that there isn't much i can do about it.

Thanks for ur support fnk...it was a rough night for me. I think I'm going to find out whether mase is illegal or not, and maybe invest in some. Also, I've gotta call my office today and let them know what happened.

[Kelster]

i guess being fugly isn't such a bad thing

[.:kinkster:.]

Thats horrible.

But a word about everyones suggestions to get pepper spray...

I was listening to a policewoman talk about keeping yourself safe in Vancouver. Most of the auidence had been attacted in some way, and many had gotten pepper spray or some kind of weapon like a knife in their purse or bag. This is apparently alot more dangerous, because in a situation where an attacker comes after you, you wont be thinking clearly enough to use it properly. So what happens is the attacker grabs your weapon and uses it against you. She said that while theres a very very small percent of people who will be able to think fast enough to not only grab pepperspray and use it properly in a panicy situation, you are more likely to end up getting yourself hurt more. So be careful with carrying around things like that.

[Magi]

It's also the same reason why guards and staff in jails don't carry weapons in the presence of inmates, incase an inmate grabs it and uses it against him.

This sounds bad. Go to the police, they'll be all over this shit and send out notices and stuff and they'll also alert the media that there's a wacko around the area where you were assaulted.

[Draven GD]

true, martial art, or self defence training is the best thing. no one can take that from you.

[ty_guy]

when attacked scratch, kick, bite cause believe me that shit hurts!

[Sniper]

thats crazy.......I hope your alright and to state what has already been said I think you handled that perfectly......if you can remember what the guy looked like you should definately go to the police......and change your walking route just to be safe

[ebbomega]

Aim for the eyes. Even if you don't make contact, they tend to flinch.

First place you want to go for. Second place, almost in tandem, is to aim to deliver a blow to the stomach.

While the attacker is being distracted by two arms at two locations, firmly plant your foot past their knee. They'll go down pretty quick if you deliver _that_ one.

[winger]

thats horrible...start walking with a group of friends or a person you trust, and have your cellphone with you at all times.

and it sounds like you were sexually assualted..go to the police

[lithe]

although all these self defense tricks are great and all... it's very rare that in such a circumstance you'll have the presence of mind to remember which body parts to aim at, with what pressure, in what order, etc. the greatest tool a girl has in that kind of circumstance is her voice. if he's just being pushy, tell him firmly and loudly "NO", or "LEAVE" (if you're abroad, preferably in the local language.) if he attempts to grab you yell, scream, or otherwise make a fuss. usually these guys aren't out to seriously hurt you, they just get carried away, and as soon as you yell and make it into a big deal and attract attention, they'll run away. i yelled when a guy grabbed me in florence and tried to kiss me and he freaked out, apologized a million times, and ran away. i think my yelling, thereby showing him how seriously i took it, scared him even more than his advances scared me, ha.

[ty_guy]

someone should invent a car alarm sorta dealy for girls, so if they get touched bells and whistles will be a'ringin. but of course there'd be set backs, like if someone brushed up against you in a crouded place.

[Ree Fresh]

Thats probnly one of the scaryest things I fear when traveling alone as a female. So glad your safe!

I remember being followed by a young bloke in Sydney once. Luckly I managed to make a move were he couldnt keep up and hid in a few stores for awhile. I also took a diffrent longer bus route home that day too make sure he didnt follow me home.

[justa~gurl]

definately go to the police and file a report

it's really unfortunate that this happened to you and you should do everything you can to make sure it doesn't happen again


Goodluck!

[Euro Dollar]

Brass Knuckle & bear mace and a cellphone with 911 on speed dial.... best combo!

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by AgentMC

sometimes I'm ashamed to be part of the male species - All women gyms - because you guys cant stop staring and making the ladies feel uneasy -

Ultimately I blame women - mothers not bringing up sons correctly.
I also blame medications and the brain disease our society has created.

haaa! blame women hahahah james you're hillarious....

btw what's up with your ass nowdays? gimmie a shout sometime come out for some alcomohol...

my number is in my sig...

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by wum

http://www.time.com/time/asia/travel...166076,00.html

All I really did was type into google "grope + japan" and there were tons of hits

Months later, and you're still an idiot.

[Ree Fresh]

Originally Posted by AgentMC

Ultimately I blame women - mothers not bringing up sons correctly.
I also blame medications and the brain disease our society has created.

I dont know about blaming moms in general. However I think you spot on when it comes to raising men how to treat women. I had this discution with co-workers at my highschool and cant belive the way the boys talk and traet the girls these days.

Than again my mom lectures my brother constinly about the proper way to treat a girl. I think he gets some of it, but definenltly ignores what he wants to.

[Digital Over]

Originally Posted by Jen-E-03

I don't know what to do :(

All the more reason to carry around hair spray, and a lighter, and respond back to him with a true burn! :kam:

[justa~gurl]

by the time you get that shit out it'll be over already..