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May 06, 05
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My earlier situation...
So... i dont know if anyone else remembers the thread with my situation.... 23 year old with kids and her husband...... so she told her husband that she kissed me and how she feels.. and yah he freaked, didnt touch me, and he wont, and shes still hangin out with me and he cant really do anything... but fuk, cuz i told her... shes gotta make a choice, she can think or whatever... but until then go on a break from everything.. easier said than done, like fuck. Especially at work and all this shit is just killing me, she came over las tnight.. went to the gym and played basketball, came back for a beer and waited for her husband, chilled for like an hour and made out and shit... and couldnt stop thinkin about her all fuckin day.. and it was like that for her too, so noticable that her husband and her got in a huge fight.. and he wants marriage coucling and shit.. but fuk i dunno, i cant just be friends, i told her that weve moved past a certain point and we cant just go back, but she said its like going forward, told her that the feelings/attractions wont just go away... and she tells me she likes the feeling.. she wants to be with me and everything, but fuck i hate this, because today i even told her that we cant see eachother unless she actually does want to be with me, and if she does, she has to tell him that, even tho she did.. but he wouldnt accept it, but i cant just be friends.. im doing the right thing right? of all the peoplse opinions i got... and all day we talked, and at lunch i told her, and then she said if thats what you want.. and it was good bye, but then she kept messaging me.. and i said bye at the end of work... and then she just called and i didnt asnwer.. then she asked what i was doint hrough a text, and then she phoned and i talked... but god, if she wants to be with me.... i just got to give this time and she will come back... if not... then whatever i guess.... not meant to be, but i know how i feel about her... never met a girl like her, and i know how she feels about me.... she tells me that if she breaks up with him he will take the kids and not give her custody... get me wrong.. but usually kids go with the mom? but his mom has him by the balls and works in a government office, and has connections or some shit, she did the same shit for his sister, and shes some etard and a bad mother, but she has custody.... so i dont erally know what to do... please throw opinions...
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May 06, 05
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She has a kid?...
Though you have your own desires you have to understand that this isn't all just about your now, she has a KID. Firstly, do you ever think about what would happen to this kid if you disturbed his/her parents relationship and resulted potentially in divorce? Do you really want to be responsible for that, do you really want to get THAT involved? You're 18, you're still young. This likely isn't the love of your life and she probably won't be your last love. Is it worth it to potentially ruin people's lives (potentially including your own) just for someone who's far too immature to even BE in a relationship at all? It's hard when you really like someone to just let go like that... but not only is this entire situation hurting you, it's hurting an existing MARRIAGE, a relationship that was already established before you came along, and potentially damaging a child's life... Could you really do that to yourself, and this family? What's worse, you knowingly entered a relationship with someone who was married.. This makes you responsible for potentially breaking up a marriage and hurting a child. This woman's obviously got issues., Last edited by yoko*; May 06, 05 at 10:23 PM.
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May 06, 05
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answer this question..
if you were married and had a few kids would you want some guy to come along and take your wife away?? Would you want some guy to split up a family? Think of how the children are going to see this. I would say differently if it was just you and another woman.. but when there are children involved then other matters must be takin into consideration.. I personally would not do it.. If i did i would have the guilt of possibly ruining the childrens childhood and adulthood.. During the developing years of a childe life .. a break up of the parents can cause problems for the children later in life.. I may just be rambling on .. and i aint no doctor , but that is my 2 cents i hope the choice you make is well educated and all aspects are takin into consideration. best of luck
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May 06, 05
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this chick is fuckin bent. RUN while you still can.
unless you think she's the one, then you guys can go out and have fun, it'll be so FANTASTIC. until she meets her new flavour of the week. then she'll kick you to the curb faster than the husband she's trying to kick right now. think about that. she's obviously willing to risk her husband/marriage, but not only that, she's clearly willing to risk the child. definetely sounds like the girl you want man, a woman who doesn't care too much about her child. THAT'S THE TICKET! whatever though, it's your life, and if your life wants this crazy chick with attention issues then go right ahead. be sure to keep us posted so i have something to laugh about.
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she cares about her kids so much, believe me, i know her and i know im the first she;s done this with... he doesnt treat her good at all, shes just waiting til he cheats on her, and she says she knows he will, she just doesntw ant to be the blame of the marriage braking up.... there marriage is obviously not working before i came along, i dont want to be the guy who breaks it up, thats what i told her, i told her that i should get out of the picture and its the best for her, but she keeps coming back... and i do want to be with her, so i dont know what to do:( its a longgg story and im far too drunk to post the whole thing, not too drunk, but too lazy, like fukkk i dunno, dont think shes a bad person... dont judge her because shes an awesome person.... it just looks bad on her part, therse more to the story than that.... we will see
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Any grief you get from the situation just kind of seems inevitable. I'm sorry, but I'm reading this post and I'm hearing every single woman that's gone back to the alcoholic who gave her that nice happy shiner last night.
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May 07, 05
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the moer i go on with it.. the more im starting to believe you.... but honestly, she does like me, i know she does, because shes told people.... ya dont really know us so its hard.... but i know how she feels...
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May 07, 05
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listen to him ! This will only end up badly for you.
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May 07, 05
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He reminds me of someone who has discovered infatuation for the first time. It's a shame something that's usually pretty innocent for the rest of us had to be ruined by this disaster. Fuck, it's like watching a car crash in slow motion.
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May 07, 05
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You want some honest to god advice? Here it is, straight up, from one guy to another. do not mess around with a family. It's not a fucking hard concept dude. I don't want to sound like a dickhead, but jesus, give your head a shake. You are young, and she's just some chick... there's tons of 'em out there. Besides, she's obviously already a floozy. How could you ever trust her? She is cheating on somebody she married for christ's sake.
P.S. - If I was her husband, you would be in for a severe asskicking. Keep that in mind, because I can almost guarantee he is thinking about it. Just a heads up... nothing personal.
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If a guy shacks up with a separated or divorced woman and her kids, after a while, it might be 6 months or something, the new guy legally has some financial responsibility to support that woman and her kids.
That's right, the new guy may be required to pay for the other guy's kids. Something to think about. THAT is one of the big reasons single moms, even the sweeties, can't get a date. RUN LIKE HELL!
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May 07, 05
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yuppers... you guys are all right, it has to stop, period. thanks for your opinions, and I can see now that shes just trying to have both of us.. and me bring back the romance in her marriage or something, and yah, its going to hurt, i wont get my ass kicked by him.... im sure of that, but its going to hurt, so it needs to end. thanks everyone... its going to be hard, but it has to be done, i appreciate everyones opinions and apologize for not listening before when i needed to the most.
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