saying goodbye to a sister..

[charly]

is the hardest thing i've ever had to do.

having to walk up and see her there, lying in that casket.. so young.. so beautiful.. i can't even really describe how that feels.

it's not supposed to happen this way. we were supposed to be together, and grow to be crazy old ladies before any of this was to happen.

but it has, and i miss her like crazy.

and really, just.. if you have any siblings.. hug them, tell them you love them, and appreciate them being there. you really don't know how long they'll be there for, but i hope this isn't something any of you ever have to do.. at least not until your old, senile and crusty. ;)

[baby-phat]

I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugz*
I have 2 brothers and I love them dearly. If anything were to happen to them I'd prob fall apart. I always remind them how much I care, cuz you just never know what the next day might bring.

[Carrie]

= (

I'm sorry for your loss.

[BongMan]

Can't say I know how you feel but my heart goes out to you that would be one of the most difficult things to ever have to do.

[~god~]

My condolences. :(

may I ask what happened?

[diva]

*hugs*
msn me if you want to talk

[~lazee_grrl~]

hey babe..i am beyond amazed at how strong you are~..
and u know that if u ever need me..i'll be there..
or if u ever want..u are welcome to stay over any time!
i honestly can't imagine how hard it is for u
cuz i can't imagine losing any of my sisters..
u can share them with me if u want..=P
luv u~

[charly]

god - "accidental death". the details, we don't know yet. still waiting, but it'll be a month or so before we know.

jen - thank you.. i'm going to come visit you anyways and maybe i'll have to steal your little sister for a while. heh <3

everyone - thank you.

now go hug your siblings!

[Veni*C]

im really sorry to hear this hun....
*hugs*

always so shocking to hear when someone goes so young... its just not fair.
:(

[aCiDPt]

so very sorry for your loss. your sis sounded so rad from the few stories i heard from u. can't imagine what u and ur family must be going through. hope u guys will grow even stronger & tighter out of this.

[Chewy]

our thoughts and wishes to you and your family.

We are all here for you, you need anything then just ask

[Jingles]

in the shock sometimes it can be hard to smile and say positive things
the grief I can only imagine is overwhelming
sibling love is something (for me) that is so special
I love my brother more than anyone else in the world

I am sorry for your family's loss
She will watch you now from heaven
and though it is little comfort now...in time you feel it
and you will take great comfort from it I hope
standing before the casket of someone you love is something we wish upon no one
yet sadly, most of us will experience it at some point
I take some comfort in knowing you did get to see her go in the casket
I truly believe it is a hauntingly beautiful experince
because as awful as it is...at least it is some sort of chance to say goodbye to a love

Charly...thank-you for sharing your love with us
thank you for sharing your greif
I may sound crazy now
but i can tell you honestly that we go on after this stop
and that she will always see you
*best wishes pretty lady*

[mapleleaf4ever]

Oh damn. I couldn't even begin to fathom that feeling if my Sister was gone.

*big hugs* :(

[cubed]

my heart goes out to you and your family cheryl.

sometimes the greatest tragedies allow us to find that which is dearest to us.

[Ree Fresh]

Really sorry to hear that Charyl, I remember you posting pics of her trips traveling etc

*hugs*

Deffiently makes me re-think about how often I spend time with my brother. Especialy since I have such a small familey and we have a very unique bond compared to our parents.

[Liqwid]

*HuGz*

hang in there...

~Dalyn

[veN]

Big big hugs Cheryl. I can't even imagine how hard that must be. Im gonna hug my sister again when she comes home from work. We've been getting along better. Thanks for your advice before. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[galaxie]

*hugs*
So sorry to hear Cheryl.
You're so strong...keep your chin up. And let yourself cry - it helps <3
If you need to talk, I'm all ears babe.

[charly]

Originally Posted by Jingles

sibling love is something (for me) that is so special
I love my brother more than anyone else in the world

sibling love is a very special thing. though you may not see it, or understand it as children, it's there and it only gets stronger as you grow older. i love her more than anything, and that will never change.

I take some comfort in knowing you did get to see her go in the casket
I truly believe it is a hauntingly beautiful experince
because as awful as it is...at least it is some sort of chance to say goodbye to a love

walking up to see her was the hardest thing i've ever had to do, but i knew i had to do it. not only to say goodbye, but to confirm it all in my own head.


she's not here physically anymore, but i know she's still around.


it still amazes me how wonderful everyone has been during this time. so thank you all for the kind words and everything. :)

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by charly

walking up to see her was the hardest thing i've ever had to do, but i knew i had to do it. not only to say goodbye, but to confirm it all in my own head.

<3
I felt the same way when my dad passed.
My grandparents freaked when my brother and I said that we HAD to see him, no ifs ands or buts. If I hadn't seen him I would never have believed it.

[IntakE]

Wow Im really sorry to hear that, I can't say I know how you feel but I hope that things get better.

[MC Hammered]

I didn't see this thread until now.

I'm sorry about your loss Cheryl.

When I lost my Dad I understood how painful losing a loved one can be. Then one day I for some reason asked myself what would I do if I lost my sister.

I couldn't answer that question as the wave of emotions that hit me was too much to handle. I'm pretty sure I'd go insane if I did lose her.

She's the one person in the whole world that I can turn to, the one person I can count on who will be there for me regardsless of the situation I am in. I do anything for her and she will for me.

To lose someone who I grew up with, helped through the years and watch grow into a beautiful human being would be too much to bear.

If you need someone to talk to feel free to hit me up at any time.

Take care.

[stephen_c]

that's terrible for you and your family.
how does one come to terms with losing
a brother, a sister, a child?
i don't know,
but i wish you inner strength and peace.

[charly]

Originally Posted by galaxie

<3
I felt the same way when my dad passed.
My grandparents freaked when my brother and I said that we HAD to see him, no ifs ands or buts. If I hadn't seen him I would never have believed it.

Exactly. When it's so unexpected, it's hard to believe it without seeing it. At the same time, i can understand how some people wouldn't want to have that image as their last memory of someone. We left it open for that reason.. so everyone could make their own choice.. whichever was best for them.

[MissBehavior]

Love and condolences to you and your family.

Makes me appreciate the fact that my brother and I get along now as we're older, so that we can spend time together and enjoy it.