friendships

[jade]

it's weird how a friendship you once thought was so solid.... can crumble right in front of your eyes.... and the only thing you can do.... is let go.

[Special-K]

believe me, i know exactly what your talking about

[Moon]

oh yes i've had that experience

in my opinion that happens usually, not always, when u rush a friendship. people who u develop friendships slowly to very close stay very close.

thats from my experience

[~snow*white~]

i totally understand that.....friends that i had a at my old school was so strong and then we promised to keep in touch when i went onto another school but yet later that year we didn't talk and we haven't talked since. also friendships that you are "supposed" to still have after you go out with someone...that doesn't really happen either.....?

[~lazee_grrl~]

friendships come and go...i figure a lot of them would last for a long while..eitber developed over a long or short period of time...but no matter how strong i think the friendship is..it can crumble over the stupidest thing or just start to fade away...knowing and not being able to do anything about it sucks..

[jade]

the friendship i'm talking about was with a girl i met in grade 1. we were 6, friends for 19 years, even when we were little and lived on opposite sides of the province from each other, until last year... she felt closer than a sister to me, i don't have a sister so i guess that's why. then she started going out with my step-brother a few years ago and she changed, not for the better. he's an asshole, drinks a lot, i don't talk to him anymore because he's such a disrespectful prick and he's always been so mean to my mum. she didn't understand why i didn't want him and some other sketchy untrustworthy people around, she became totally insensitive.
and then, before i had my baby my mother said to me "when you have a child you will find out who your friends are." i didn't know what she meant at first but i do now. there are 2 people out of all my old friends who have stayed friends. one of them, a girl from high school, had her baby on the same day as me, the other one is just a really awesome guy i met a long time ago .
oh well, i guess sometimes people just grow apart.
and i don't know why i just told you all this. anyways.... *shrug*

[Rhianna]

Friendships are fuckin hard. If both people don't work at it equally as hard then chances are it will fall apart. Sometimes people aren't who you thought they were. Everyone changes, it's just a question of if you can except those changes.

[kiMMie]

Originally posted by Rhianna
Friendships are fuckin hard. If both people don't work at it equally as hard then chances are it will fall apart. Sometimes people aren't who you thought they were. Everyone changes, it's just a question of if you can except those changes.

I concur with you...

Friendships fluxuate during time. It all depends how much each person values the friendships. Over time, you let some go, and sometimes you work hard to the friendship to work, and sometimes you aim to meet new people.

Friendships adjust to your lifestyle... Cuz your lifestyle is always changing, so do friendships

[crookedking]

i've never had many of my friendships just crumble like that...most of the friendships that have ended ended cause they were idiots (oh no i wasn't the idiot of course not)...i still have most of my friends from elementary school.