Dating Someone With A Mental Illness

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=I KNOW I’m posting allot today, but I’m all bored and the kid I look after is sleeping.

so this is my post


This is Completely Hypothetical
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Would you ever date someone with a mental illness?

Vie dated a boy with starter scitsophraina and ADD it was very scary at times, but I loved him and we worked it out for a while.

My Ex girlfriend is Manic/bi-poler/drepression.

My current boyfriend has Clinical Depression

I myself have OCD-Social Anxiety- Clinical Depression.

I guess you'd first have to assess the situation: so this is the one I’m presented with

:this boy likes me allot. he is schizophrenia he lives in a "group home" which is a step away from your own place. When I met him we sparked, I don't really know how to describe it- I just felt like I should know him better. He has a crush on me = and Medicated he's normal as anyone. and its not right to judge anyone on whets going on in their head- because deep down we are all a little off white.
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I'm not thinking of dating him - I’m in and out of a crazy relationship right now, and if it ends I want to be single for a long time.. but it wont stop me from keeping him as a friend.
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But I’m forced to ask myself IF I wasn't where I am... Would I date him? has sweet and cute and geeky. what would YOU do in my place? (guys switch this situation so female) if you choose to date this person you may have to deal with "hearing voices" and visions... or you may never deal with any of it.

[Ms.Tarantula]

people are all people..

we all need some compassion and understanding...

those of us with mental illness take a little more patientce.

the 'special' ones honestly probably need it more then the rest of us...

[Discord]

Originally Posted by Ms.Tarantula

people are all people..

we all need some compassion and understanding...

those of us with mental illness take a little more patientce.

the 'special' ones honestly probably need it more then the rest of us...

I never even thought twice about it till my friend ask what does he do? I said hes in a group home : and it sparked this whole debate.

[LastWerd]

Everyone has issues. Some are just a little worse then others; some have been diagnosed (sp?) and others not.
I know so many "normal" people but if they went to therapy the doctor would say something is wrong. Am I right, or Am I right.

My ex had mild skitz. It wasn't event hat noticable. Hell, I didnt even know for the first 5 months seeing him. He was a little wierd at times but I thought it was from raving, lol. I really cared about him and he did about me. No one knew until he told people.

It all just really depends I guess.

[Discord]

I guess i'm talking diagnosed. Severe enough to be addmitted.

[C_squared]

do it.

you never know... it could be crazy sex.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

i think having mentally ill family members is more then enough mental illness ill ever need in my life.so no,i wouldnt date a nutter,but yes,id definately chuck it in thier face.

[LastWerd]

Originally Posted by C_squared

do it.

you never know... it could be crazy sex.

lol!

yea, i would have to say no to someone in a group home with harsh issues.

[Discord]

I grew up with a brother with skits and alot of other problems.

[Heffy]

Im a Capricorn with ADD, WHEEeee!!

[Discord]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

Im a Capricorn with ADD, WHEEeee!!

I like you.



And I agree... Madications are to easily handed out: disorders are to easily given.

I remember when the DR told me I had Depression.. I had just broken up with my boyfriend, it was crappy weather, I was just very tired.. he gave me some Anti - depressent.. I said "i wont take it" and he walked out on me even tho I needed his help with something else.

LONG story short... I think for sKits.. medication is alot of the time needed...

but I dont agree with medicating bad moods.

[Discord]

Originally Posted by kprojekt

I think we all have a mental illness to some degree... all ravers/numbnutz who pop are Manic paranoid-skitzo bi-polar and the next day... clinicaly depressed.

Honestly to label yourself with a dissorder is just bullshit in my opinion. Its too easy these days to sit in a chair, tell your problems, get a perscribtion and have an excuse. I dated someone recently who had OCD and a something else...well she was pretty normal up until I broke up with her and she became hysterical. It's emotion, if you cannot deal with it then try to understand it. So based on my experience, no, I'd only date someone with a strong mind set. Crazy sex is not worth the end result (them going all wacko and putting the house pet into the foreplay)

My OCD is limited to mild hand washing and Symmetry and I can get randomly obsessive about Missing a TV show that I watch everyday at 7 or what have you.....sometimes I can freak about my apperence..its miled but there.

My anxity is handled better then I had before with "5-HTP" I still get prone to anixy attacks but as long as I do my yoga daily and take 5-HTP and Omaga's its limited.

My depression can get scary at times. But is less and less frequent as i get older, my entire birth family has depression. some medicated... and its scary to see the medication effecting them. my fiance was on some anti depressents when he was younger and they did long term damage.

all in all i'm "normal." no one would know I had any of this unless they knew me well.

and I admit Ive had some bad bad melt downs with my fiance. but the older i get and the more grounded I make myself its all fading away which is good.

[miss.myra]

mental illness is treatable, and with many, proper treatment will mean that it is virtually un noticeable.

a mental illness does not define who someone is, and it shouldn't get in the way of love.

most of us by adulthood have empathy and understanding engraned in us, we all face things that challenge us with our signifigant others, but through those things, regardless of if its mental illness or something else, if its real, it will always find a way.

[Tea]

Originally Posted by Discord

I like you.



And I agree... Madications are to easily handed out: disorders are to easily given.

I remember when the DR told me I had Depression.. I had just broken up with my boyfriend, it was crappy weather, I was just very tired.. he gave me some Anti - depressent.. I said "i wont take it" and he walked out on me even tho I needed his help with something else.

LONG story short... I think for sKits.. medication is alot of the time needed...

but I dont agree with medicating bad moods.

You can't agree with somethin you know nothing about.

[Tea]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

mental illness is treatable, and with many, proper treatment will mean that it is virtually un noticeable.

a mental illness does not define who someone is, and it shouldn't get in the way of love.

most of us by adulthood have empathy and understanding engraned in us, we all face things that challenge us with our signifigant others, but through those things, regardless of if its mental illness or something else, if its real, it will always find a way.

I knew i loved you for a good reason.

[esoter1c]

I'd never get with a chick that was any crazier than your average woman already is.....that'd be crazy.

[impure]

[quote=Discord]\
My anxity is handled better then I had before with "5-HTP" I still get prone to anixy attacks but as long as I do my yoga daily and take 5-HTP and Omaga's its limited.

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5-htp is a precursor to serotonin. do your docs have you on any b complex?

[Tea]

It sounds like your aprehensive but at the same time, still see things in this person worth giving a chance. Honestly, life is about giving things a try, and really getting to know people/situations before you make your mind up completley on a snap judgment.
What goes undiscovered because unknown.

I feel you should give this a chance. You can get out of it at anytime but if you chose fear you will likely always wonder.

If they are doing well with their life you will be able to tell very quickly.

[Billy Shears]

Originally Posted by Discord

My OCD is limited to mild hand washing and Symmetry and I can get randomly obsessive about Missing a TV show that I watch everyday at 7 or what have you.....sometimes I can freak about my apperence..its miled but there.

I wouldn't even call that mild OCD... seems like a normal person to me (well, depends what your definition of "mild" hand washing is :P)

[impure]

Originally Posted by Discord

=I KNOW I’m posting allot today, but I’m all bored and the kid I look after is sleeping.

so this is my post


This is Completely Hypothetical
-------------------------------

Would you ever date someone with a mental illness?

Vie dated a boy with starter scitsophraina and ADD it was very scary at times, but I loved him and we worked it out for a while.

My Ex girlfriend is Manic/bi-poler/drepression.

My current boyfriend has Clinical Depression

I myself have OCD-Social Anxiety- Clinical Depression.

I guess you'd first have to assess the situation: so this is the one I’m presented with

:this boy likes me allot. he is schizophrenia he lives in a "group home" which is a step away from your own place. When I met him we sparked, I don't really know how to describe it- I just felt like I should know him better. He has a crush on me = and Medicated he's normal as anyone. and its not right to judge anyone on whets going on in their head- because deep down we are all a little off white.
-----------------------------------------------------

I'm not thinking of dating him - I’m in and out of a crazy relationship right now, and if it ends I want to be single for a long time.. but it wont stop me from keeping him as a friend.
-----------------------------------------------------

But I’m forced to ask myself IF I wasn't where I am... Would I date him? has sweet and cute and geeky. what would YOU do in my place? (guys switch this situation so female) if you choose to date this person you may have to deal with "hearing voices" and visions... or you may never deal with any of it.

a hypothetical situation wouldn't usualy include the words "I" and "ME"

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Billy Shears

I wouldn't even call that mild OCD... seems like a normal person to me (well, depends what your definition of "mild" hand washing is :P)

That's exactly what mild OCD is. Most people don't even realize they have it. I thought that I was just really, really organized. Turns out that I'm not, lol, there's actually a REASON behind it.

Someone said this earlier in the thread, but most people don't even know when they have a mental illness. For example, if you're stressed a lot you may not even notice because you're so used to it but you could have an Anxiety Disorder.

[Crazy_BC_Chick]

I would date the person....... why not? nothing to lose! It is dating, not a marriage :P after being with the person for awhile, just like any other relationship, you could see if it could works or not :)

[Goodfellow]

This dude in highschool hooked up with this girl at a party, well she was mentally retarded

so we called him handy humper forever more.

then end.

[beedub]

I'd say to be friends with the schizophrenic person and see how stable they are, for a long time (a year) before a closer relationship. I had a friend and eventually it became clear she had that condition and it just got more severe. She could be a really nice person, but ended up severely damaging the lives of herself and many people who cared about her.

[Discord]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

mental illness is treatable, and with many, proper treatment will mean that it is virtually un noticeable.

a mental illness does not define who someone is, and it shouldn't get in the way of love.

most of us by adulthood have empathy and understanding engraned in us, we all face things that challenge us with our signifigant others, but through those things, regardless of if its mental illness or something else, if its real, it will always find a way.

I think you have it down. I agree with you completely.