Is it wrong of me....

[B-rizzo]

My ex girlfriend and I have remained on really good terms even after the breakup and we're still open about everything and i like that, id rather still have someone who meant something to me be apart of my life then to never speak to them again... but lately im just getting sick and tired of hearing about her weekends up with the boyfriend in salmon arm. Like i dont mind hearing you had a good time and everything but is it wrong for me to want to say "I dont care bitch go die in a fire?" I donno its sort of a grey area for me, i know i have to accept it because we have kept the open relationship and that was my decision but is there a way i can be like 'hey stop it i really dont wanna hear about it' cause im glad she's all out and enjoying her self while im not right now, but hearing about it everyday is sorta starting to get on my nerves.

So my main question is how can i let her know without offending her, Im sure i could just tell her right but i dont want it to turn into a "well this is what you wanted isnt it" sorta thing....

But my god i want to rip her eyeballs out sometimes

/end rant

[Silverwinged]

do you think that this reaction may be the direct result of still having left over feelings?
do you think she might be doing it on purpose to make a point that shes happy without you? (which is a smoke screen that shows how SHE might have left over feelings?)

if you two are as good of friends as you mentioned, then politely remind her that you dont require constant updates on her love life and that she doesn't need the same from you.
her reaction will speak volumes to the underlying issue.
IF she is really over you, and she IS your friend... she'll agree and drop it.
IF she makes a huge deal over it... well then you know she has different reasoning behind keeping you so much in the loop.

.02

[project.one]

The allison has spoken!

Good adivce too!

[B-rizzo]

Originally Posted by Silverwinged

do you think that this reaction may be the direct result of still having left over feelings?
do you think she might be doing it on purpose to make a point that shes happy without you? (which is a smoke screen that shows how SHE might have left over feelings?)

if you two are as good of friends as you mentioned, then politely remind her that you dont require constant updates on her love life and that she doesn't need the same from you.
her reaction will speak volumes to the underlying issue.
IF she is really over you, and she IS your friend... she'll agree and drop it.
IF she makes a huge deal over it... well then you know she has different reasoning behind keeping you so much in the loop.

.02

Oh ill be the first to admit i miss the hell out of her and of course i still have feelings for her, it was the first girl in A LONG time that i trusted. And not to attract pity or anything she let me down. Hard. I know she still has feelings for me, i can tell by when she looks at me, she still has that gazey school girl stare like your staring at some young teen heart-throb when she looks at me. Even her best friend tells me she still talks about me.... so thats why its hard to stand up and be like "Hey stop it i dont mind hearing about it but think of how i feel" cause maybe deep down im still like "Oh maybe she'll come back to me and ill be happy again" sorta thing

But im gonna talk to her about it, hell maybe she wont mention him tomorow morning or when she calls later tonight :)

[mapleleaf4ever]

Good luck with the situation...

I myself am still best of Friends with an Ex I had from 2001. Although it's the oddest relationship around and totally could be another thread.

[Discord]

Originally Posted by B-rizzo

But my god i want to rip her eyeballs out sometimes

/end rant

do it

eyeballs are fun

[dabbler]

sometimes even if you still like the person, or still want to be 'friends' you just have to break off contact with them. don't matter what feelings are or aren't involved, sometimes it just has to happen.

[C_squared]

Originally Posted by Silverwinged

do you think that this reaction may be the direct result of still having left over feelings?
do you think she might be doing it on purpose to make a point that shes happy without you? (which is a smoke screen that shows how SHE might have left over feelings?)

if you two are as good of friends as you mentioned, then politely remind her that you dont require constant updates on her love life and that she doesn't need the same from you.
her reaction will speak volumes to the underlying issue.
IF she is really over you, and she IS your friend... she'll agree and drop it.
IF she makes a huge deal over it... well then you know she has different reasoning behind keeping you so much in the loop.

.02

what she said.

if all else fails... kill her.

[Goat]

A few simple words.
"I don't want to hear about how you got pounded this weekend"

[Heffy]

I am in almost the exact same situation. I want her in my life so bad because she was my best friend first and lover second. But I am afraid that I am keeping her in my life for the sole purpose that I want to get back together with her. She has told me that she is "in love" with her new b/f and that she still loves me. We still have that "friend" chemistry when we hang out, she loves my sense of humor, and she makes me smile. She will start talking about her ex, and then I cant escape the reality that she may never again be mine. I try to put up walls, but she sees right through my emotional armor, she knows that it is hard for me, and she holds me while i cry. Its not easy man, but if you think the friendship is worth it, you will be a lot stronger after this, i know i am already.

I hope this works out for you...

[PwInCeSs]

I think you just have to say that you like having the openness with her and you are happy and appreciate that you to are still so close, but you would rather not here all the details of her new relationship.
No matter what its not the funnest thing to sit and listen to and i am sue she will respet that.

[B-rizzo]

Originally Posted by Heffmeister

I am in almost the exact same situation. I want her in my life so bad because she was my best friend first and lover second. But I am afraid that I am keeping her in my life for the sole purpose that I want to get back together with her. She has told me that she is "in love" with her new b/f and that she still loves me. We still have that "friend" chemistry when we hang out, she loves my sense of humor, and she makes me smile. She will start talking about her ex, and then I cant escape the reality that she may never again be mine. I try to put up walls, but she sees right through my emotional armor, she knows that it is hard for me, and she holds me while i cry. Its not easy man, but if you think the friendship is worth it, you will be a lot stronger after this, i know i am already.

I hope this works out for you...

Dude Seriously... Your the man. lol ive got nothing but respect for you already.. The replies ive seen to this and others are fucking wicked :) not to have my nose up your ass or anything lol but yea we talked about it last night, and she apologized and said she understood... then she told me she missed me... and that threw me for a HUGE loop... i donno im sorta looking at what silverwinged said about the smokescreen and its sorta what im leaning towards now.. i donno like i said when she siad that i was like "uhh.... I miss you too obviously" then she said goodnight. Bah women :P (no offence :D )

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by B-rizzo

Like i dont mind hearing you had a good time and everything but is it wrong for me to want to say "I dont care bitch go die in a fire?"

No it is not wrong. From my experience it has been the wise thing to do. Except my sentance was something like ...."blah blah blah I dont care bitch go die by a gangbang of midgets"

i have never heard of her again and everyone lived happily ever after :)

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by Discord

do it

eyeballs are fun

For future reference, you can pick up the ripping of the eyeball move from Kill Bill 2

http://uma.ytmnd.com/