what to do...

[nabs]

when less than a year ago your parents ask u to move back in and help u get ur shit straight, and after one little mishap, they harsh get paranoid over every little thing.

i have no clue what to do. how do i get that trust back? like today, i did nothing, went out spun sum vinyl at a buddies house, lost track of time, which happens when ur having a good time. what the fuck, come home, act like im entering fucking plush nightclub or something. chek everrrytthing. FUCK. i have no idea.

how to get trust back, when theirs no leaniency.

[Dr. Doom]

You could always try giving your dad a BJ, doom hears that works well for people like you.

[Flip]

HA HA Nabs, YOU'RE GROUNDED!!!!! Now go to your room and think about what you've done.

So you were at a buddy's place spinning records huh? Were you spinning trance? GOOD!! You deserve to get grounded for that!! If you were spinning breaks or jungle, your parents wouldn't have been so pissed.

[decypher]

So your parents are searching you when you get home? lol wtf. How old are you?

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

Uh..that sucks.

Parents dont understand that when you are an adult..they cant treat you like you are 14, but they do it anyways.

I guess you just need to respect them and there house until you are able to afford to move out =/

[Pussy*Kat]

This is why I moved across the Georgia Straight :)

No more controlling parents

[Prissypants]

Originally Posted by LLaaUUrrYYn

Uh..that sucks.

Parents dont understand that when you are an adult..they cant treat you like you are 14, but they do it anyways.

I guess you just need to respect them and there house until you are able to afford to move out =/

Best way to gain parent's respect is to move out on your own, get a real job, and never EVER ask for money...As soon as you do that, it shows you can't support yourself.

I hate to say it but until you move out on your own and start supporting yourself, you're not an adult.

[matéo]

True That

[prozac]

Originally Posted by Prissypants

Best way to gain parent's respect is to move out on your own, get a real job, and never EVER ask for money...As soon as you do that, it shows you can't support yourself.

I hate to say it but until you move out on your own and start supporting yourself and move out on your own you're not an adult.

QFMFT!!!!!

btw, my dad used to actually sniff me whenever I came home at night....and he would set an alarm clock for my curfew and put it outside his bedroom door, so if I wasn't there to turn it off by the right time it would go off and wake him up so he'd know I didn't come home.

Keep in mind that was when I was SIXTEEN. I moved out the next year. Grow up and get out. ASAP

[Hot Karl]

this is the worst serving i've ever seen...

he's been served here, here and there. right over there it's the worst.

i don't think he'll make it.

[galaxie]

How old are you?

Chances are, your parents don't trust you because you gave them a reason not to. What may seem like a small deal to you could be a big deal to them.

I've never had this problem with my mom because I've never lied to her. Then again, she's really fucking cool so I've never had a reason to.

They're probably just worried. Really worried.

[nabs]

u know what, i didnt ask to come back home, i moved out a while back, they wanted me to come back. and they dont want me to move out. but i want to cuz fuck. iunnno shitty. its just real stupid.

[b0ld]

I think what it is, is that they still consider you as "there little boy". They will eventually grow out of that because they'll realize your an adult and you have your own responsibilities.... Its just that there in a shock cause there kid has gotten older and stuff. Kinda had a situation like this with my dad, had to remind him how old I am and that I was not a kid anymore...

[mojo]

i agree with galaxie. this one liitle mishap must have been enough for them to lose trust in you Nabs, and with what you said it sounds like it involves some illegal shit.
you constantly post on here in regards to problems with your family, but do you talk to them about it? maybe they would have more trust and faith in their son if he was more open and willing to talk about the issues that cause problems.

and if that doesnt work, move the fuck back out and live your own life.

[decypher]

I hear dr.phil solves everything.

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

Originally Posted by Prissypants

Best way to gain parent's respect is to move out on your own, get a real job, and never EVER ask for money...As soon as you do that, it shows you can't support yourself.

I hate to say it but until you move out on your own and start supporting yourself, you're not an adult.

Thats not always true. Being able to support yourself isnt the only way to gain respect..

Some parents are controlling by nature.

[Prissypants]

/\

If they are controlling by nature then you don't need their respect or them for that matter...Do you keep friends who are controlling...I know I don't.

[tiedye]

ummm... tell them to stop acting like chumps, because you're like 21 or something. haha, lame man, real lame.

[Ree Fresh]

Quick someone call Nanny 911!!!

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by tiedye

ummm... tell them to stop acting like chumps, because you're like 21 or something. haha, lame man, real lame.

Their roof, their rules.

I'm not saying that's how it SHOULD be, but that's how it is a lot of the time. If you don't like it, you don't really have a choice but to move out. I know that if my mom were constantly rifling through my shit and getting "all up in my business" in a negative way, I would have moved out looooooong ago. Lucky for me, my mom is super chill and is more like a roommate than parent.

[tiedye]

^^
I guess that's one way of looking at it. I dunno. Maybe I'm crazy for believing in this wierd new concept of adulthood and personal privacy.

[Ms.Tarantula]

Originally Posted by tiedye

^^
I guess that's one way of looking at it. I dunno. Maybe I'm crazy for believing in this wierd new concept of adulthood and personal privacy.

Try growing up in your parent's house with out a door on your bedroom.
I Got outta there as early as I could... LOL!

Nabs: as long as you're under their roof.. it IS their rules. Move out or straighten up bud!

[tiedye]

or start sacrificing farm animals in the name of some obscure demonlord in the basement.

[Ms.Tarantula]

oh man....

nabs, hun.. please dont do what he said.

[tiedye]

do it. doooo it.