Deciding when it's the right time to stop talking to someone

[thechix0r]

I think it's getting to the point where I might just have to stop talking to someone in my life because there comes a point when you just need to have your own life and not dwell on things. I feel like it's come to that in this situation.

It's hard because it feels like you're losing a chunk of you, but at the same time liberating because you feel like you're getting on with things and heading to a different path in life.

I guess sometimes, you just have to think about yourself and not everyone else around you. Thanks for the advice Carlos :)

I'm sure there are plenty of people who have had to stop talking with ex's or friends because it was more beneficial for their life that way, it's just coming to terms with the fact that that is the solution, I find is the difficult part.

[galaxie]

I completely understand you.
My ex was a huge part of my life for almost three years, and when we broke up, I initially felt like I was losing a part of myself. What I realize now, and didn't realize at the time, was that I was actually gaining a huge part of me back - my independence. Now that I'm with someone different, I'm a way better partner for it. I know it was hard for my ex (and still is) but unfortunately, it was the best option to cease contact.

[wishbone]

sometimes it's just necessary

best of luck with the follow through

[thechix0r]

Originally Posted by galaxie

I completely understand you.
My ex was a huge part of my life for almost three years, and when we broke up, I initially felt like I was losing a part of myself. What I realize now, and didn't realize at the time, was that I was actually gaining a huge part of me back - my independence. Now that I'm with someone different, I'm a way better partner for it. I know it was hard for my ex (and still is) but unfortunately, it was the best option to cease contact.

Yeah I had to do that with my ex of 2 years, you definitely have independence to gain back and also a sense that you're not whole like you said. I talk to him now, but that was after a year or healing and moving on, I think it's necessary in the whole getting over someone process. I've also had to do that with friends when it's just time for you to move on... when the friendship wasn't really working out for either of you and in the end it just is time to go your seperate ways, keep the memories but move on.

[Prissypants]

Golden rule to happiness: Treat people like how they treat you. If they are bringing you down then lose em!

[C_squared]

It's really good that you're seeing the light out of this situation Sandra.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

dropping people is the awesome.

[thechix0r]

Originally Posted by C_squared

It's really good that you're seeing the light out of this situation Sandra.

Oh the light was there for a while Carlos, I just chose to ignore it