[can u relate?]

[omega_image]

:finger: have u guys ever been in this situation?

where u have done something for someone that they didnt know about, but saved/helped them? like calming down their significant other so many times, so that he/she wouldnt do anything crazy? or like paying off a debt that they owed, and them never finding out?

k i'm sure most of u have done some sort of secret "helping out"......but has that friend that u helped out ever totally shown u no respect or over-reacted over something so stupid or small? and ur like about to blab what u did, but u hold it in? and they keep ticking u off until u can't hold it anymore? this has been happening to me for a while now and i'm about to explode.....just needed to vent......

grrrrrr.........and i hate people that over react

[Senior]

I can relate... try and not let it get to you though. Taking the high road always puts you in a better place.

[Bitchin]

Do I ever know wut you mean... holy fuck!

its like you wanna say something.. its just like fuck it.. its soo stupid.. they take a small thing and make it look like its bigger then it actually is.. then you just sit there a bite your lip.

One friend set me off so bad that I told them that I helped get them outta a hole and they were like 'wuteva' oh... that just made me tick.

gah, seriously.. I wont do shit like that for a person anymore if I know they wont do ir for me or freak out on me for smaller thing, though I've dealt with a lot bigger.. gah.

on how to deal with that shyte..I really do not know.. but I think we should hit them in the back o the head with a bat :D cause that would help a lot.. and hopefully knock some sense in to thier heads.

[omega_image]

its not that i mind doing it.....its just that sometimes i wish i could get a lil recognition (although that would sorta defeat the point of it being secret).....

y can't it be like in the movies where the person u did something for finds out that u did something huge for them, while they are ranting about u to someone else?

[bob]

Originally posted by OmEgA_ImAgE:
paying off a debt that they owed, and them never finding out?

a girl i knew for 15 years owed one of my best friends $200... and he was freaking out on me to get her to pay him back for the longest time... and she didn't have the money... so i paid him and said she gave me the money to give to him... and to this day neither of them know...

i hardly see the girl anymore but whenever i do, she sort of brings it up. cuz it caused a lot of problems with her and my friend... i keep telling her that i "handled it" so maybe she knows... who knows... whatever...

i don't mind doing things like that... i don't care about taking credit for anything. especially when it's over money, cuz "it's just money".

but yea, it would be nice if things turned all fairy-tale and they both found out and saw me as a different person. then again, i'm sure they already see me as that kinda person, but they don't wanna let me know cuz i'll get all cocky about it... hah...

i'm always doing shit like that... usually i don't even think twice about it, i just like to be that kinda person that's trying to help... i used to be anyways ... now i'm just lazy and don't care about what ppl think about me...

good luck adam. slap some ass if it'll make u feel better

[omega_image]

thnx man....

on a lighter note - last night @ freestylers when we first got there, me and addy were tripping out becuz we thought some dood was u! we couldnt figure it out, and we didnt wanna go up to him and ask......lol

[bob]

wasn't me...
if it was me, and you and addy were there... OMG... your asses would be PURPLE before you even knew it

:toasted:

[bebu*funfun]

the debt part..hell yes i know
helping make others lives a lot easier but they just treat it all as "oh yay it must be MY lucky day" when u did loads to help them out.. but they dont know one single thing. beeen thereeee!
u want recognition..i feel u!

its a tough situation because if u explode and u tell them all the things u did.. u usually get the "why did u do that for me.. u really didn't have to, i couldve handled it myself".. and outta no where ure the bad guy for doing a good deed. i say keep it in and tough it out..tats wut ive done in the past. makes me feel better.. and keeps the sky blue for the person i helped out.

[bob]

it's karma man... kar-ma...

[mushmellow]

i know how u feel.....and i love feeling good about what i did or what im doing....but in some cases....like one person i know....its like...i do soooo much for this person...did the world for them and shit...and they treat me like complete shit all the time...and wont do a single thing to help u...in some cases make it even worse for u....but u cant do n e thing about it...cuz its family friend, or even family, or someone u care WAY to much about.....yah thats brutal...because what can u do?

[~lazee_grrl~]

when i do something secretly for a friend...and it makes life easier for them..then it's all good..but sometimes that friend gets angry over idiot things..and they don't realize how much we care for them..it really sucks..cuz it makes me wonder how much they care for me...i hate being taken for granted..~

[SEAN!]

i can relate, just keeping doing what you do, when people overreact just ignore them until they calm down...then speak to em about it

[yourlilbaby]

i know exactly how you feel babe! jsut keep your chin up and keep beleiving that what you did ws worth it! remember one day they are going to find out and they are going to be so grateful!

[Gold Streaks]

I've been in this situation a couple times. What can you say? You wanna yell at them and let them in on what you did for them but it was a selfless act and you just take their shit. Made me think a lot less of these people.

[Moon]

i can definetly relate... and i know exactly what you mean when theyre just driving you nuts and all that really rolls in your head is how fuckin disrespectful this friend is when you've helped them out so much in the past..... but at the same time this person doesnt really know how much you've stepped up for him/her and u just wanna spit the fact in their face... but you just cant cuz itLL just sound straight up retarded! =)

but like bob said... karma =) your good deeds will come back to you my friend and i'm sure this friend of yours will feel even more stupid when he or she finds out what a good friend you are. in the end, we're all human and all of us can be seriously stupid at times (for some more often than they would like to be) even if we're potentially very smart. even if your friend never realizes what you've done in the past for him/her, you know inside what you've accomplished and be proud of that. frustration over the lack of deserving appreciation you're getting wont really get you anywhere =)

[miss.myra]

We do good things for others because we should do them, not so we can rub it in the other person's face.

I understand where you're coming from as far as being frustrated, but this person is probably being a shithead for a reason.

It's pretty shitty when a friend does something nice for you and they just continually hold that good deed over your head all the time, right?

Bending over backwards for little or no appreciation sounds strangely familiar to what most parents these days experience..keep that in mind as well ;)

M