private schools and their stupid fucking rules

[cinist]

ok so my sisters kid goes to 'Meadow Ridge private school'....to understand why i am pissed off you will have to understand that I am basically raising this kid. my friends make fun of me for making $80 to watch her on a saturday,but they can mind their own fucking business because i watch her and do everything for on all the other days for fuck all but the fact that i love her and want her to be ok....and its alot harder then working at sum crap job.... so anyway........

She is only 4 yrs old and in jr.kindergarden ....her teacher is a fucking bitch ok....they send her home for basically any infration these days. today she sent her home Today because she informed the teacher that the 'antlers' that they will be wearing for the school play should be brown and not red. and then teased the other kids about the red antlers. i mean thats not the best behaviour, but wtf, give the kid a break for christs sake. they are always sending her to the principles office .
all they are doing is making her think that she is bad, and when you are getting punished all the time, why the fuck should you care about getting in trouble right? i mean she is going to get so used to getting in shit that she just won't care
THESE PEOPLE SUCK ASSSSSSSSSS

[NinjaBoy]

The reason is most likely the fact that she teased another child.

People have a big fear that behavior like that could turn into the dreaded bully behavior.

It's really silly. Cause doing that dosen't stop bullies.
Teach your sister, that she shouldn't make fun of people at school.

Basically that seems to be the problem. That and your in a private school.

Hell, when I was in grade 4, I was pulled from class and my parents were called cause when I was playing guns (You know pointing toy guns and saying bang bang) I said to one kid that I was shooting, "your going to die, bang bang".

[cyberdog]

Personally I think private schools (on average) are better than public ones...tho I'm biased in that I went to private schools in Montreal myself...and I'm too old to really have a good sense of the quality or lack thereof of BC's public school system. But I did find that they pushed harder and cared more than what I knew from public schools in that city and that time.

That being said, I don't think sensing her to the principals office on a revolving door basis is the answer...it almost (in my opinion) becomes 'learned' behavior...if she gets used to being the 'bad kid' she'll attach less negative meaning to it and may start to wear it as a badge of honour. I know I'm talking like years and years from now, but a lot of learned behaviors are learned early and difficult to change later.

Any chance you could speak to the teacher(s) and or principal involved? Maybe sit in for a while...it either sounds like they are too strict across the board or are picking on her...or that she has an attitude/behavior prob...even if this is the case, best to be identified early.

Dunno...never had siblings myself...just some random thoughts...

[cinist]

well it is actually my sister's kid, but my sister is sick and unable to care for her.
she needs the structure of the private school and i definatly want her to have the education that comes along with a private school. But like you said I am afraid that she will find getting in trouble, is just normal and she'll get to use to it. I will be becoming more and more involved with the school i think because I don't agree at all with the way they are treating her. after all she is only 4 years old. What is worse it that it is possible that it is not her fault at all. I hope to god not, but it is possible that her behaviour is a result of a terminal illness which she has a 50/50 chance of getting. i saw my older brother and both of my sisters treated like crap for years in school systems and by family because nobody could understand their behaviour only to find out it wasn't their fault at all!!. I don't know what i will do if this kid is sick, life is just not fucking fair. she is 4 years old sick or not, she should be getting the most out of her life and spend it happy and carefree. not in some stupid principles office or being told that she is bad. sometimes i just think we should say to fucking hell with these people and pull her out.

[cyberdog]

Wow...that's not an easy thing to know in the back of your mind...still, if she is misbehaving (assuming she is going to the office for a valid reason, which I still question)...isn't it better that it alerts U to a health problem...even if it is incurable...perhaps it can be slowed...if not...it allows you to focus that much more on making sure she enjoys what time she does have to its fullest.

My thoughts are with U on this one...cuz no-one should have to face such things...at either her age or yours (I'm guessing what your rough age likely is)...

peace

[cinist]

unfortunatly at this time there is nothing to slow the progression. but i am hoping to god she will not have it. everyone says it is unlikely that she will get it young, because usually it has to be passed from the father inorder to get the juvenile form of the disease. What scares me though is that my brother and both sisters got the juvenile form and that is extremly rare, it is one of the few cases where this has happened. most people do not need to worry about it until they are atleast 40. So i mean doctors can be wrong. However the researchers should be able to do alot now thanks to the organs of my brother, he was so young that they were still good, unlike that of most patients who are old and not good for examination after their death. wow that was a long explanation...i don't tell people about this ever, so iguess i just got to typing, heh sorry

[SEAN!]

she's four yours old..kids are supposed to act likie shitheads at that age..what the fuck? this is retarded..especially if they send her home, or even too the principals office...i did much worse in kindergarden, but of course my teacher was awesome, i think your sister's teacher is a fuckin ho.

[Moon]

i respect the fact that you are stepping up for her like a parent for your sister. much respects =)

interesting topic tho..... i guess the schools approach to discipline is to make kids scared to misbehave... i mean when i was in pre school i remember teachers would scream at kids, making em cry yet it was an acceptable method of discipline.... but i remember being scared shitless of the teachers... so i never even thought about misbehaving... some even gave kids a lil whack in the ass if they misbehaved. haha oh man i wonder how much drama would stir if a teacher today got in shit for spankin a kid.. hahaha fuck sake, parents are even sueing teachers for being in the fuckin bathroom with kids!

i guess its a debatable subject on how discipline should be carried out on younger kids like your sisters kid but everybody cant be happy with whatever system they choose to use. where i came from, teachers were seen as VERY respectable figures in society (up there with doctors) because as educators, people had full trust in their methods to make the most out of their kids.... the odd person in every thousand would question a teachers methods and it would have to be a BIG deal. *shrug*

[miss.myra]

*shrugs*

For a 4 year old, that is a wee bit odd.

When I was older I went to a school with extremely strict rules and guidelines and I actually really appreciate being subject to them at that age because it taught me a lot about the importance of being in class and respecting your peers and teachers. In the post secondary world, those things are damn helpful.

M

[Guice_39]

Tell me about it, I went to a catholic school all my high school years, thank god not elementary. They act like whatever happends in public schools doesn't happen in their school.