only friends?

[Lil Bunny]

how can you make an ex bf/gf understand that you wanna be friends and nothing more?

i broke up with my bf about 3 months ago and eversince then everytime we talk he always asks to give him another chance and get back. we've been together for close to 3 years and i seriously realized bein in a serious relationship at this age is just not workin for me. i dont mean to sound like a bitch but i've had enough. he was not the easiest person to be with. but thats a whole other story.

so now my question is how do i make him understand i dont wanna go out with him... ever! i told him this millions of times but it's in one ear and out the other. he wont listen. he said he'll "give me time".. but then he calls me 3 days later and asks me if i made up my mind yet and when i tell him "i dont wanna get back with u" his response is always "wtf u've been single enuff". yeah im just really confused/mad/pissed off of how to deal with him.

and on top of it all hes always tryin to make me feel guilty about breakin up with him. and it works sometimes. but thats just not fair. i broke up with him he should respect my decision and move on!

meah this is not even a rant.. is more of a im confised need some help kinda thing. any input would be appreciated!

[Special_J]

I had an ex like that. The only thing that worked for me is cutting off all communication for at least 2-3 months. Then slowly starting to just occasionally call and say hi, or hanging out with other people there. It was the only way for him to get the message that I didn't want him that way anymore.

[Lil Bunny]

he KNOWS why i broke up with him. and he even told me he cant trust me anymore after what happen so if he cant trust me why does he wanna get back 2gether?

and yes it was flatterin to know that he thinks about me but it gets frustering when hes constantly pushin me and forcing me to give him another chance when i told him the first time no.

i guess i should not talk to him for awhile and just let time work its magic.

[Sykonee]

Sounds like the only way you're ever going to get rid of him is to hook him up with someone else. If he's still pining after you've said nyet, it means he lacks the self-confidence to find another significant other (this goes for women who constantly phone ex-bf as well... Don't want to come off sexist :D).

[stabmyhead]

At least he's not stalking you and stealing your panties, at least to our knowledge.

I think by you giving him the attention (that he probably doesn't need), he is under the impression, that you do still care. I mean, you MUST, if you are still talking to him right?? (hah) So he thinks that by talking to you, that somehow, you will remember all the quality time you guys had together and decide, "yeah, okay, I wanna get back together with him." Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.

Next time he says, "you just need time" state, "yes, I need time, away from you. I would hope you would understand that, this is as difficult for me as it is for you. I don't think I am ready to confront you in a relationship environment - there are reasons why we broke up, do I have to state them again?"

Or something like that...

[Ragga_Wh0re]

you can tell him till u are blue in the face but its apparent he still wants u and is not willing to accept the fact that u just wanna be friends. So the best advice i can give u is to tell him to beat it. Thats what I had to do with my ex and yeah it sucks but now my life is alot less stressful:)

[stabmyhead]

On another note: This has happened to me quite the fair amount. So I will compose a few of my favorite remarks to sicky sappy comments from your ex:

"I miss you" : "I miss not talking to you"

"I want to see you" : "And I want to see you under a bus, but we don't always get what we want, now do we? Because really, right now, I just want you to leave me alone." (This one worked quite well actually)

"Why are you making this so difficult?" : "Because you are being really annoying about this." OR "Probably because at this point I'm too apathetic to care about how you feel."

"You've been single long enough." : Yeah, you're right, maybe I should start dating other people?" OR "No, I'm happy in my new relationship."



If all else fails, send him 50 emails with the subject title: "LEAVE ME ALONE!!"